hi. i'm new here and thought i'd jump right in with a question.
i have an almost-3-year-old son. he has never been a good sleeper. he co-slept with us until he was about 2, and even when he was with us, he'd wake a few times a night fussing. he's consistently woken a few times a night since moving into his own room, but it's been pretty clear that he's simply looking for reassurance when he calls for us.
lately, though, he's been having nightmares. he wakes up sobbing uncontrollably or he screams for me. it breaks my heart. a few months ago, he went through similar, save for one big difference: that time, he told me what his bad dreams were about. he and i talked about it, and they quickly tapered off.
this time he refuses to tell me what they're about. i'm at a loss as to how to help him through this. i talk to him about dreams in generic terms -they feel real, but they aren't; that they may scare him but he's safe; etc.- but it doesn't seem to be helping.
any thoughts or advice on how to help the boy come to terms with whatever it is that he's dreaming about, without knowing what the big, bad "it" is?
thanks in advance!