I'm not sure if bullying is the right term for what my daughter is doing, but it very much feels that way to me and is leaving me very anxious and unsure of how to deal with her. My oldest is almost 5 yo dd. She has a brother that just turned 3. Whenever she sees her brother playing with something, she automatically wants it. She comes over, asks him for it, and if he says "No," will nag and nag him "When is it my turn?" "Can I have it now?" I have told her that she can ask once, but that if he says no, she needs to respect that and leave him alone. The issue that comes into play is that my son is so sweet-natured, he always gives in. Even if I tell him, "it's not her turn, it's yours" or that he doesn't have to give it to her. He always gives in. Most of the time he isn't even upset and moves on to something else.
I really worry what this is teaching her, that she can just demand her way and get it with little consequence. I have a hard time knowing how to "gentle discipline" this behavior. As I type now, I guess the best thing would be that no one gets to play with the toy?
The other thing she does is when she if feeling silly, she will ask him to do things. A lot of times she asks him to "say poop." Other times it's things he shouldn't be doing, like writing on the table. If he doesn't do them right away, she will ask over and over and over again. I just can't even think of a natural consequence to this behavior.
I think the real underlying fear is that I am raising a bully and I'm so scared that all my gentle disciplining is failing us. I welcome any ideas.