This evening my husband said I'm ill-equipped emotionally to parent my toddler. I've been a SAHM for over 2 years and DD is almost 3. She rocks, by the way, and my husband totally agrees.
But he said this because I make a daily statement or three about my frustrations over DD's nap and constipation issues to him via chat. Stuff like "OMG poop already" or "DD is driving me crazy and won't nap." and the occasional "i hate this, i can't take it anymore" for extreme days that I am silently screaming on the inside because DD has found all my buttons and wants to push push push. I thought I was letting off steam in a safe place but I guess not. I do swear and I do get upset (via chat, not in front of DD) so it isn't a cakewalk but I was under the impression that it was a good idea to talk to your spouse about your frustrations and feelings. But now I'm thinking maybe not.
Also I minimize my time with them both on Saturday and Sunday to complete projects and have downtime to myself. I spend about 3 hours helping out with care or socializing with them while they are both awake each weekend day (NOT including chores like laundry and dishes, etc). But to be honest I'm not feeling so good around my husband so I back off and let him run the show so we don't bicker and upset DD. I get ticked when he wants to go somewhere and he expects me to stop what I'm doing so I can help him pack food and get her dressed or something. I still do dinner, laundry and basic cleaning on weekends but I CRAVE time where I can work on one thing for a couple of hours without being interrupted.
I think my husband is being highly judgmental and his statement about me being poorly or ill-equipped was just cruel. I expect some time to myself each weekend and I also think that it is important for him to have his own time with her to play and care for her. Plus I need a break. I can't do the same thing 6 or 7 days a week or I'm fried.
What do you ladies think about the comment he made? Anyone else have a similar schedule as a SAHM? Out of curiosity anyone else make their DH in charge of weekends?