I'm an American mom living in Copenhagen, Denmark with my husband and 10 month old son. We've been here 5 months and I've never felt more lonely and overwhelmed. My support system is so far away and with a 6 hour time difference, they're asleep most of the time my husband is at work or school, so I'm completely alone. I've been trying to make friends, but it's really hard. There's really no such thing as a stay-at-home mom here and so most kids my son's age are in day care and their moms are at work.
My son is not sleeping well these days and is pretty grumpy during the day. That would be annoying in a normal situation, but my pretty extreme isolation is making it just awful. I react too strongly to him, get too frustrated too quickly. He's just being a baby and I get so mad. I know that's because I can't get away ever. I'm alone with him all the time and even on a Saturday if my husband can be with him for a few hours, I don't have friends to hang out with. I have tried to get out there, but Danes are a difficult bunch...very independent and self-sufficient, staying in their own circles and not interested in letting someone else in, especially since I don't know Danish well and a lot of them are uncomfortable in English. (I know I'm overgeneralizing...sorry to any Danes reading this).
I know I sound very whiny and I'm sorry about that. I'm just so discouraged and find myself wishing I'd never agreed to come here or that I'd never had a baby. I don't really mean it, I just feel it sometimes.
I've never really tried out an online forum...people are right, it is comforting to write out into the anonymous internet world...even if there aren't any easy answers that people can give.