The short version - How do you teach your spouse how to be frugal???
DH understands in theory that we are on a tight budget, and he wants to be responsible with our money...but he just doesn't "get it". He was raised in a VERY wealthy area, being told that his upper middle class family was dirt poor. So, when we are living quite comfortably, he thinks we're just scraping by. Well, now we're actually just scraping by, and he is making it harder than it has to be.
He's made HUGE progress, really. But he still does little constant things. I mentioned that I wanted soda, because part of tightening our belts is not buying a lot of little extras we'd like. Well, he is very sweet and went and bought a case of soda for me...and while he was at the store he picked up some cookies he knows I like that we haven't bought in a long time...and some treats for the kids. And like $15 later, he comes home all smiles with treats for the family. So, that's like $15 out of our $50 per week grocery budget for this month. When I explained it, he felt awful. I would take everything back, but he threw the receipt out on his way out of the store...like he always does.
Are you married to that spouse? Are you that spouse? How do I get through to him?