I still don't feel comfortable leaving my 2 +1/2 yr old with anyone other than family to babysit him. I am fine with him with dh, which is very often. Also with dh's parents (who live near to us) or my parents (who live farther away- quite so) I am fine with leaving ds with them for 2-3 hours.
So I know I am not unreasonably attached! But I am pretty attached. We co sleep (side car), and dh and I spend almost all our time with ds still. He is not is preschool or nursery yet.
So dh's parents only have a little time they an babysit ds. so mostly it is me and dh. And we are very focused on our ds. And sometimes we try to find a babysitter to watch him so we can do something else! but each time I meet one I feel uncomfortable leaving ds alone with any of them.
Mostly because I don't really know them!
but I realize even with a friend- I don't really feel thatthere is anyone other than my or dh's parents who I want to leave ds with. I wish I had a really close friend I trusted and I think when ds is older I would think about trading childcare with a friend. but I just see my 2.5 yr old as having so recently come into this world- and I just feel very protective of him!
so it is a challenging spot sometimes because my Mother in law for example, we are always asking her to watch ds more but she works a lot and stuff- and she says a lot- why don't you just get a babysitter if you and dh are so exhausted from your child?
And I think- well it would be greatto have a babysitter but I haven't found anyone I trust yet!
Anyone else fee like this? attached and protective in this same way?
I would love to have a sweet little daycare I could drop him a few mornings a week but none such exist near me I have looked a lot!
so till next yr it is still me and dh and our toddler.
any words of wisdom? anyone else just with their kid mostly still?
I know I posted a similar thread a little while back but I am still just processing this.