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post #1 of 46
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Well, I have my first OB appt. today.  I hope I like him and I hope my endo lets me go back on my insulin pump today so I only have to poke myself every other day instead of 50 million times a day.  My stomach looks like a pin cushion. irked.gif 
Wish me luck!!

 

post #2 of 46
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Originally Posted by FarmerCathy View Post

Well, I have my first OB appt. today.  I hope I like him and I hope my endo lets me go back on my insulin pump today so I only have to poke myself every other day instead of 50 million times a day.  My stomach looks like a pin cushion. irked.gif  

Wish me luck!!

 

Good luck! Being a pin cushion is no fun!
post #3 of 46
How did it go, Cathy? How was your us, mamaki?

Pretty uneventful day here, aside from the horrible acid/fish oil combo in the throat during the night. Let's not repeat that!!

We had a park day today, then a chiro appointment. I am really exhausted but can't be sure why. :/ Going to a family advent event shortly... Waiting for DH to get home.
post #4 of 46
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Well, I only have to poke myself once every other day now.  Yes!!  Well, except for my fingers, but I'm working on a meter that is injectable too that tells my pump on a continuous basis what my blood sugar is.  That would be awesome. 

 

OB was ok, I didn't have time to ask questions because it took a whole hour to see him.  irked.gif  I really hate that.  I only saw him for 10 minutes.  He was very standoffish.  I will be seeing baby on Dec. 28th at 9 weeks.  Yay!!  So, I will ask questions then and get a feel for him and then dump him if I need to.  I really need to keep telling myself I can be picky with this last pregnancy and go with someone I feel comfortable with and not feel bad for dumping him and finding a better fit. 
 

post #5 of 46
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How did it go, Cathy? How was your us, mamaki?
Pretty uneventful day here, aside from the horrible acid/fish oil combo in the throat during the night. Let's not repeat that!!
We had a park day today, then a chiro appointment. I am really exhausted but can't be sure why. :/ Going to a family advent event shortly... Waiting for DH to get home.

We had a chiro appt. too today.  I love my chiro, he is so great!!  Hope you had fun at the advent event.  That sounds fun.

post #6 of 46

OBs are no fun.  I hate seeing them for how medically focussed they are.  I see a chiro too but am feeling a little nervous to have an adjustment with all this bleeding I've been having.  I'm afraid it might make it worse.... what do y'all think?  I usually have adjustments every 5 weeks and my next one is mid December.  I just checked back and discovered my last appointment was November 7th and I had bleeding starting November 8th (what I thought was my period as I didn't know I was pregnant).  That worries me a little....

 

I'm feeling pretty tired too.  The nausea doesn't seem as bad for being 6 weeks pregnant as it did with my last 3... which is worrying me too!  I know I'm just being crazy and I should be happy that my MS isn't as horrible as usual.  But I can't help it!  Three episodes of bleeding and I'm only 6 weeks greensad.gif

post #7 of 46
Cathy, glad you got some good news, at least! Definitely feel free to fire any OB (or other care provider) that doesn't work for you!

mamaki, I'd guess it's a coincidence, but maybe you could ask your chiro?

We had a great time tonight. Interesting thing: during part of the presentation tonight they talked about the biblical figure whose name I had settled on for a boy with our last pregnancy. When I had a dream we had a new baby (then woke up and got a BFP), I went back to that name in the dream, although in the dream I was waiting for DH to show up so we could talk about it. So I've been convinced it's a boy and that's his name, then they talked about the same name (which is neither particularly popular nor part of the standard story as it's always told). So, we shall see! We already have 3 boys, so a girl to make it a "full house" would be awesome, but the odds are certainly on it being a boy. lol.gif

I've got an appointment with a doula client in the morning and am still trying to prepare for it. The fatigue isn't helping! :yawn

I'm also feeling some stabbing-like pains way down low. It might be intestinal but it reminds me of labor redface.gif - not crampy but cervical, dilation-like, I guess. It's so hard to know what's what when the uterus is so tiny, still. So I guess we wait and see...
post #8 of 46
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Hugs mamaki.  I agree that you should talk to your chiro.  Mine is so open and nice that its easy to talk to him about anything.  I'm sure if you feel like its possibly causing it that he would do a wait and see and adjust you next time.  At least to ease any fears you may have.

 

I'm really excited about interviewing a doula.  There are 3 in the area and I want to make tentative dates to interview them the end of February after my intensive scan.  So exciting!!  They may also have OB recs.  biggrinbounce.gif

post #9 of 46

Yeah I'm probably just overreacting about the chiro.  I've been seeing one for about 7 years and have always been happy.  We just recently switched to a new one that we like even better than our last one - he's been great.  I'll talk to him about it at my next appointment.

 

Good luck with your doula interviews ladies - I think they're great and I would definitely get one if I had an OB and had longer labours than I do.  My midwives have been great and my last labour was short anyway so I didn't need help with labour comfort.

post #10 of 46
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Freaking out!!  I was just reading the hospitals policies and didn't even think about DD not being able to sleep over with us.  I hate hospitals!!! mecry.gifWe just moved here and don't know anyone well enough to take her overnight.  That might mean hubby takes her, but then I'll probably have to stay awake all night so they don't take the new babe to the nursery.  Ugh!  Blah!
 

post #11 of 46

Oh, how frustrating! I swear, it's like hospital administrators design their policies with the specific intent to make birth as hard on their clients as possible. >=/

post #12 of 46
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Freaking out!!  I was just reading the hospitals policies and didn't even think about DD not being able to sleep over with us.  I hate hospitals!!! mecry.gif We just moved here and don't know anyone well enough to take her overnight.  That might mean hubby takes her, but then I'll probably have to stay awake all night so they don't take the new babe to the nursery.  Ugh!  Blah!

 

Is there any way you could have a home birth? Either that or maybe early discharge from hospital you don't have to stay overnight?

I had more bleeding yesterday - bright red and quite a lot. It's scary how much I've bled and I'm only at 6.5 weeks. It's been 4 times now.... I keep trying to reassure myself with the fact that there was a heartbeat at the ultrasound on Friday. Which means at least 87% chance that I won't miscarry. But bright red blood is scary! I went out and bought Spatone iron supplements today and will start taking them preemptively. There's no way my iron levels will be normal after all this bleeding. I'm still waiting for official ultrasound results - I'm hoping to find out more about why I'm bleeding. Hopefully tomorrow.
post #13 of 46
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Is there any way you could have a home birth? Either that or maybe early discharge from hospital you don't have to stay overnight?
I had more bleeding yesterday - bright red and quite a lot. It's scary how much I've bled and I'm only at 6.5 weeks. It's been 4 times now.... I keep trying to reassure myself with the fact that there was a heartbeat at the ultrasound on Friday. Which means at least 87% chance that I won't miscarry. But bright red blood is scary! I went out and bought Spatone iron supplements today and will start taking them preemptively. There's no way my iron levels will be normal after all this bleeding. I'm still waiting for official ultrasound results - I'm hoping to find out more about why I'm bleeding. Hopefully tomorrow.


No way I can have a home birth.  I wish.  No one would feel comfortable taking on a diabetic.  Plus there aren't ANY midwives out here in the Northwoods of WI, at least in my part of the Northwoods.  I'm just glad there are doulas.  Their policy is a minimum of 24hours, but I can try. 

 

That would be scary.  I hope they find out what is causing it. That's no fun.  That's probably a good idea to start some iron supp.

post #14 of 46
*groan* I. Am. So. Sick. Ate meatloaf and peas for dinner. Tastes soooo good. The minute, and I mean the minute I finished and stood up, the nausea hit. It's kid of been on and off the past several days, but definitely gettineg to be more and more of the day.

BUT, I will not complain. It's a very, very good sign! :-P However, I am contemplating taking one of my carefully hoarded phenergans ;-)
post #15 of 46
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No way I can have a home birth.  I wish.  No one would feel comfortable taking on a diabetic.  Plus there aren't ANY midwives out here in the Northwoods of WI, at least in my part of the Northwoods.  I'm just glad there are doulas.  Their policy is a minimum of 24hours, but I can try. 

 

 

You can more than try. It's not prison! We requested an early discharge with our first kiddo, and while they sounded obliging, there were all sorts of delays, "We need to wait for Dr X to explain your aftercare", "We need to do the hearing screening", bla, bla, bla. We wanted to get home, but it wasn't the most important thing on the face of the Earth to us at the time, so it took us awhile to get frustrated. Finally, we just said, "We're leaving now.", got up, and left. They magically produced the discharge papers at the desk as we walked past. Anyway, lesson being, they can *try* to delay you, but just put your foot down. "Please provide either our discharge papers our the forms to sign out AMA. We will be leaving in ten minutes, once we dress the baby (or whatever other task you can come up with that will give them a few minutes to actually produce the paperwork)". I mean, unless you live in an area where you are likely to have CPS breathing down your neck for taking your child home AMA, 'cause, let's be serious, who wants to deal with that, ever, but especially not when you have a newborn. 

 

I take my kiddos swimming every Sunday, and two weeks ago, this is actually how I knew for sure I was pregnant. I get pretty severe SPD in pregnancy, and two weeks ago, I couldn't do a breaststroke kick because it hurt too much. This week, I felt totally fine doing it, so of course I'm freaking out. Thankfully, I felt pretty nauseated after getting out of the pool, but my goodness, it's so easy to worry, hey? I'm glad we can find out so early that we're pregnant (I was 10dpo), but I think it adds to the stress in some ways. You have SO much longer to go, and so much more time to be obsessive (psychotic?! I think I get a little psychotic. I try to keep it to the internal dialogue, 'cause my husband thinks I'm a nut job when I share my fears). Remember that sotry about Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes having an ultrasound machine in their home when she was pregnant? It's totally insane, and I can't help but think somewhat harmful, but another part of me completely understands and would love to be able to peek in and see that everything is ok on a very regular basis. Not that I would have any idea what I was looking for in a sesame seed sized fetus. 

 

In other news, my spirited very-nearly four year old is possibly possessed by the devil. I joke. But not entirely. I do NOT understand what has happened. I've been pushing weaning more, but haven't cut her off, and I have a hard time imagining that that is the sole cause of this constant whining, screaming, temper tantruming, hitting, nastiness of late. A simple, "Remember to hang up your coat!" turns in to a full blown, raging, 30-60 minute event involving screaming at me that I am so unfair, that "You can't ask me that! Speak nicely!", hitting me, throwing herself on the floor, throwing boots at me, pushing her brother, etc, etc. I doesn't matter if I empathize, or ignore, or even if I lose it and yell back at her. The outcome is the same - fits until she arbitrarily decides she's finished or until I manage to distract her with something "big" enough. Bah. Hopefully this will settle before a new baby arrives, 'cause otherwise I think I will lose my mind. It's extra fun when her brother decides to copy her. He's usually pretty easygoing, but he's more and more picking up her exact mannerisms. I feel like the worst mother EVER when I realize I have to try really, really, really hard to like my own kid. Ideas?

 

Oh, it's so different to be pregnant for the 2nd/3rd/4th time than it was the first time around, hey? I was pretty anxious throughout that pregnancy, but I also remember it as sort of glowing, floating, magical time, where I spent time sitting and talking to my (tiny!) belly, washing and folding baby clothes and imagining a child in them, and just picturing the miracle I was a part of. Subsequent pregnancies have been a lot heavier on the daily life and a lot lighter on the magical connection. Oh, more mama guilt. How are you guys finding it? 

post #16 of 46

I was just lamenting to dh today (until I cried myself into a 2 hr nap in the middle of the day. ah, hormones, how I've missed thee) about how unfair it is that he doesn't get to have a magical "first pregnancy" and it was wasted on xh (who totally didn't appreciate it or deserve it!)

 

So, I'm not having morning sickness (I typically don't until the 3rd trimester), but obviously I'm experiencing some significant moods swings and fatigue already. lol

post #17 of 46
I am so impatient and haven't wanted to wait through an entire pregnancy again... So I am consoling myself that with 4 kids already, time will FLY. Let's hope, anyway. lol.gif I know it took foooreeeeeveeeer with DS1!

I am SO exhausted. Not a ton of nausea (which I hope is good), but horrible exhaustion. DH is leaving town for a week and I already told the kids I'll be napping daily! There's no way I can be "on," 100% of the time, and not also sleep. sleeping.gif But no one knows and no one has asked... I have enough health issues that being tired is NOT unusual for me. Once the daily vomiting starts, though, it'll be hard to keep it a secret from anyone close!
post #18 of 46
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You can more than try. It's not prison! We requested an early discharge with our first kiddo, and while they sounded obliging, there were all sorts of delays, "We need to wait for Dr X to explain your aftercare", "We need to do the hearing screening", bla, bla, bla. We wanted to get home, but it wasn't the most important thing on the face of the Earth to us at the time, so it took us awhile to get frustrated. Finally, we just said, "We're leaving now.", got up, and left. They magically produced the discharge papers at the desk as we walked past. Anyway, lesson being, they can *try* to delay you, but just put your foot down. "Please provide either our discharge papers our the forms to sign out AMA. We will be leaving in ten minutes, once we dress the baby (or whatever other task you can come up with that will give them a few minutes to actually produce the paperwork)". I mean, unless you live in an area where you are likely to have CPS breathing down your neck for taking your child home AMA, 'cause, let's be serious, who wants to deal with that, ever, but especially not when you have a newborn. 

 

 

 

In other news, my spirited very-nearly four year old is possibly possessed by the devil. I joke. But not entirely. I do NOT understand what has happened. I've been pushing weaning more, but haven't cut her off, and I have a hard time imagining that that is the sole cause of this constant whining, screaming, temper tantruming, hitting, nastiness of late. A simple, "Remember to hang up your coat!" turns in to a full blown, raging, 30-60 minute event involving screaming at me that I am so unfair, that "You can't ask me that! Speak nicely!", hitting me, throwing herself on the floor, throwing boots at me, pushing her brother, etc, etc. I doesn't matter if I empathize, or ignore, or even if I lose it and yell back at her. The outcome is the same - fits until she arbitrarily decides she's finished or until I manage to distract her with something "big" enough. Bah. Hopefully this will settle before a new baby arrives, 'cause otherwise I think I will lose my mind. It's extra fun when her brother decides to copy her. He's usually pretty easygoing, but he's more and more picking up her exact mannerisms. I feel like the worst mother EVER when I realize I have to try really, really, really hard to like my own kid. Ideas?


 

That's the worry I have, cps.  I think I'd rather just have them deal with me keeping DD with me overnight.  One less thing to stress over.  We can say we have no where we feel safe leaving her or that she feels comfortable.  They can deal.  I can just bring out the we will just leave card if they baulk. 

 

I just read an awesome book called "Parenting Without Power Stuggles," and it talked about helping your kids adapt and having them throw their worries, fears, sadness, anger, etc. off the wall of futility.  Helping them vent what is causing the outbursts ect.  It has helped so much with my DS who is so angry about me re-marrying and not living with him and his father and its even helped with my DD adapting to things that she can't have or whatever so that she can move on from it.  It's awesome to see it work.  It takes more time up front, fully listening to what they are feeling and helping them get it out, since they can't really articulate it very well at such a young age, but so worth it in the long run.  Plus how to bond with them in other ways.  She may feel this is the only time she has mommy to herself and she is struggling with it.  HTH

post #19 of 46

Sorry to hear some of y'all are having down times, but I'll admit it makes me feel better about my own nausea, wild mood swings, hunger, fatigue, irritation, general not-niceness.

 

FarmerCathy, is there a chance that a relative could come in for birth time just to watch your DD? I am very annoyed with hospital policies, too, and the ones in my rural area of Texas are not baby or family friendly, but my sister even experienced something similar at her progressive, hippy hospital in North Carolina where she had to transfer for a c/s in the middle of her homebirth. At that time I think they said her kids couldn't stay overnight because of H1N1. I don't know if people are still afraid of that, but it's weird because adults are carriers, too, no? Oh and here is a great example of how my mind starts off on the right path and then digresses into something ridiculously tangential. In any case, I hope you can figure out how to take care of everyone during your birth time so it's as stress-free as possible.

 

I am very impressed with you ladies who can be so zen about your nausea. I am not zen about it at all and it's not even as severe for me as it was for DS. I am still holding on to a probably ridiculous hope that this nausea is going to fade with the first trimester. Denial! Denial! I'm in denial! :) Christmas is usually one of my favorite times of year and I go all crazy with lights and decorating, a la National Lampoon's. This year, all weekend went towards the effort of acquiring a tree and baaaaaarely getting lights on said tree. I also hung up a wreath that I forgot to take the tags off of and saw from the driveway as I was pulling out this morning. :-/ I am usually super productive, unprocrastinatey lady, but I just can't seem to get anything done without needing a nap and then a snack and then wanting to sit on the couch and generally be cranky or teary. I cried at the raising of the flag at our downtown Christmas lighting and then every time kids passed in their decorated outfits at the parade this weekend, which was basically every float. mecry.gif

 

I also miss the "magical connection" of the first pregnancy, but I also like the distraction from myself, too. I won't think about nausea just now, I have to play trains and fold 400 loads of laundry...

 

Final lament: I am going on a 2-overnight work trip this week. My behavior is so erratic and my hunger and nausea so apparent that I really don't know how well I can hide my pregnancy from colleagues, but I just feel like it's none of their business right now. Poker face time.
 

post #20 of 46
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Sorry to hear some of y'all are having down times, but I'll admit it makes me feel better about my own nausea, wild mood swings, hunger, fatigue, irritation, general not-niceness.

 

FarmerCathy, is there a chance that a relative could come in for birth time just to watch your DD? I am very annoyed with hospital policies, too, and the ones in my rural area of Texas are not baby or family friendly, but my sister even experienced something similar at her progressive, hippy hospital in North Carolina where she had to transfer for a c/s in the middle of her homebirth. At that time I think they said her kids couldn't stay overnight because of H1N1. I don't know if people are still afraid of that, but it's weird because adults are carriers, too, no? Oh and here is a great example of how my mind starts off on the right path and then digresses into something ridiculously tangential. In any case, I hope you can figure out how to take care of everyone during your birth time so it's as stress-free as possible.

 

We don't that she would be comfortable enough with.  My MIL is so tense she would make it worse and my own mother passed away a few years ago, and it would be really close to the yearly get together for my DH's family.  I just talked to one of my DH's co-workers and she said they were pretty accommodating for her family so they may just let us be.  I can hope.

 

This week I don't have to be anywhere until Thursday.  So nice.  If I need something DH can go by the store on the way home.joy.gif

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