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[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by incorrigible 

How is everyone doing this morning? Bed rest has me bored out of my skull. I'm crampy, still spotting, and headachey, too, but I'm getting used to the idea that those don't absolutely mean a miscarriage. This might just be how I feel for the next few months. If it means a sticky baby, that's fine with me. =D

I felt great this am and walked to playgroup at the church nearby in the snow with DD in the Ergo.    Very nice day.  I think I've been mildly depressed and DH and I had a talk last night and I think we both feel better.  No matter what baby is coming and we just have to take it a day at a time.  I think he's worried and all with me taking care of a newborn and DD and DS when he starts teaching again in late August.  I will have him a lot of that month so I don't think it will be too bad and DS goes to his dad's later that month and I think DH is going to need to take him to the airport on his own and hopefully he will be ok with that. 

Incorrigible, I'm glad you are thinking positive about your bed rest.  Lots of movies and books.  I find a lot of great reads over on the monthly reading group or when there was one, can't find it.  Anyway, just try to keep your mind busy.

We will be finding out the sex, we can't not look.   We're not good at waiting when we have a big scan. 

[MyKidKissTrees]

Originally Posted by quantumleap 

In other news, my spirited very-nearly four year old is possibly possessed by the devil. I joke. But not entirely. I do NOT understand what has happened. I've been pushing weaning more, but haven't cut her off, and I have a hard time imagining that that is the sole cause of this constant whining, screaming, temper tantruming, hitting, nastiness of late. A simple, "Remember to hang up your coat!" turns in to a full blown, raging, 30-60 minute event involving screaming at me that I am so unfair, that "You can't ask me that! Speak nicely!", hitting me, throwing herself on the floor, throwing boots at me, pushing her brother, etc, etc. I doesn't matter if I empathize, or ignore, or even if I lose it and yell back at her. The outcome is the same - fits until she arbitrarily decides she's finished or until I manage to distract her with something "big" enough. Bah. Hopefully this will settle before a new baby arrives, 'cause otherwise I think I will lose my mind. It's extra fun when her brother decides to copy her. He's usually pretty easygoing, but he's more and more picking up her exact mannerisms. I feel like the worst mother EVER when I realize I have to try really, really, really hard to like my own kid. Ideas?

Have you had her IgG done for food sensitivities.  My 4 year old was like that, then our doc said remove gluten and dairy and she is SOOOO much sweeter now.  Also sugar and dyes (especially red) cause the same PSYCHOTIC behavior.  Im not kidding, POSSESSED BY THE DEVIL style crap!!!

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by MyKidKissTrees 

Have you had her IgG done for food sensitivities.  My 4 year old was like that, then our doc said remove gluten and dairy and she is SOOOO much sweeter now.  Also sugar and dyes (especially red) cause the same PSYCHOTIC behavior.  Im not kidding, POSSESSED BY THE DEVIL style crap!!!

Yeah, when I went off sugar I was a totally different person.  It's amazing what sugar does to your brain.  My DS gets possessed when he eats dyes.  So ugly.

[MyKidKissTrees]

i feel so sad when would see moms complaining about their kids behavior at DDs preschool and saying they are probably ADHD, but they have them on a S.A.D.  its, well, sad.  i just want to tell them they should change their diet, but they always take it the wrong way like im some health nazi elitist with my organic fruits and veggies.  :(  no matter that i use to be just like them.  frustrating.  feel so sad for those kids trapped in their minds like that!

[quantumleap]

We actually did GAPS for 6 months last year. It didn't really make a difference in any of us, sadly. None of us had huge issues to be resolved, but I had still been hoping that it would help some of dd's "spirited" facets. No such luck! We eat as close to TF as we can afford to these day, but I do have an unfortunate fondness for chocolate. Milk chocolate. Ahem. 

Currently, I feel pretty zen about it, but had a complete meltdown two nights ago. When I'm able to step back, I realize it's more than just her, it's also how we/I react to her intensity. She's a very, very intense kid, and she's almost 4, which I gather is a tough age, but things can be better or worse depending on how I react to her. Sometimes it's hard to be the grown up!

[MyKidKissTrees]

Oh yah!  my reaction was 50% of the problem.  I read a lot on http://www.ahaparenting.com/ and http://goodjobandotherthings.com/good-job-blog/

And tried to just understand that was how she knew to communicate right now and even though I didnt like it, I needed to give her time to figure out a healthier way without shaming her or exacerbating the situation. now i am working on getting DH to not react poorly and make things worse.  its tough for him though!