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[CeliaM]

Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 

I want an ultrasound so bad. But, I don't think I can get one. Don't have insurance yet and going to be seeing a midwife that has a home office and no ultrasound equipment... Blah. My first appointment I'll be 11.5 weeks, but I've heard that they won't necessarily be able to hear the baby's heartbeat with doppler, so if we don't hear it that doesn't mean miscarriage necessarily. So, I'll have no reassurance unless I hear a heartbeat. That's annoying. I just want to know if the baby is alive or not. After reading about the possibility of missed miscarriages.

You can rent a doppler as well if you want some reassurances at home. Here's the link: http://www.babybeat.com/

Definitely agree with post above, check around your area and see if there's a woman's clinic that will provide one for you. Best of luck!

[dayiscoming2006]

Originally Posted by InLove2009 

is there a free health clinic where you live? They would probably do one... or a pregnancycenter? I volunteered at one for a while and we did them for free

Don't pregnancy centers usually only want to see you if you have an unwanted pregnancy or something though? I don't know about the free health clinic thing. 

I did go to a pregnancy center with my third, but I felt kind of weird being there with a wanted pregnancy.

[lolliegee]

I went to a pregnancy center because it was the only place I could get in as early as I wanted to. I felt a little weird because I have insurance, but they don't let you pay. So we donated the amount of a normal co-pay. I don't think it matters whether the pregnancy is wanted or not. At least it didn't at the one I went to. You could just call and explain your situation, that's what I did. I'd be willing to bet they'd be happy to see you.

[talldarkeyes]

Originally Posted by lolliegee 

I went to a pregnancy center because it was the only place I could get in as early as I wanted to. I felt a little weird because I have insurance, but they don't let you pay. So we donated the amount of a normal co-pay. I don't think it matters whether the pregnancy is wanted or not. At least it didn't at the one I went to. You could just call and explain your situation, that's what I did. I'd be willing to bet they'd be happy to see you.

I agree. I once had a preggo foster dd who wanted to keep her baby and we went to a pregnancy center and they were delighted to be of service to her.

[dayiscoming2006]

I think I'll try calling them on Monday. They are already closed for today. There's two of them, but one of them says specifically they want to help people with "unplanned" pregnancies, so I think I'll try the other one first. I'm a bit nervous since it is a big city. So, they could be pretty busy. 

[InLove2009]

The one I volunteered at helped both. We had a lot of teenagers with unwanted pregnancies, but we had a lot of people with wanted/planned pregnancies as well. Don't feel weird at all! It is what they do- it is what they like to do! We always, always loved to hear 'this baby was planned/wanted' as opposed to 'what do you mean you don't do abortions?". 

[rainbownurse]

This thread has been very reassuring to read. After two miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy, I'm having a really hard time feeling connected to this bean. I keep telling myself that once I hear the heartbeat I'll feel connected, but I've known people who've lost their babies after that. The Social Worker at work said she went through her whole pregnancy expecting to lose the baby and it was only when her son was out and crying in her arms did she feel relaxed.
I'm super hoping that I feel reassured sooner. My doctor and midwife both feel really strongly that this is a good pregnancy, and that it will be a normal, healthy pregnancy. I'm just having a hard time believing them