I have an adult age sibling whom I am beginning to wonder if they may have aspbergers (sp?) I know very little about the challenge and have read a little bit of information online. I don't know of anyone who has it, so my experience is also very limited regarding aspbergers.
My sibling has always seemed almost incapable of showing an authentic empathy over their own bad behavior. I can truly recall only two instances (and only in recent years) upon which my sibling apologized for being out of line about a hurtful or out of line behavior. I accepted the apology and moved on with deep gratitude and surprise by the apology. Within the past year or so we have learned my sibling has some hormonal issues and I began to attribute their strange behavior to the hormonal imbalance. Within the past couple of months, however, I've been really baffled by a really hurtful thing that was said to me by this sibling regarding my parenting. It was unfounded and not only mean but spoken to my toddler child in my presence. I was shocked about what my sibling said and that it was said to my child! Needless to say, we aren't speaking now. It's a different ball game when someone tries to involve my child in their meanness.
Weeks have passed since the incident and my sibling won't even acknowledge having ever said what I am certain I heard. As a parent, I think we remember when people say mean things about our parenting, whether they're founded or unfounded. At least, I do. And my friends do too, so I assume it's pretty common. Bottom line: I know what I heard. It's still so hurtful that I don't even want to type it.
My sibling has no recollection of what I heard. None. No apologies have been made for other things said in the same babbling off of insults and I have ignored the whole event because I've had enough. For years, our relationship has been rocky and sadly, I'm tired of the energy it takes and the negligence of other people this individual has.
I say all of that to say, I am wondering if the not remembering mean behavior, inability to apologize and mean it, and lack of empathy might be aspbergers. I'd appreciate some weigh in from those who have adult family members with the disease.