His is touch. Sexual touch.
He's aware that my LL is gifts, we talked about it. And he sometimes teases me about it, which makes me feel belittled. Sometimes when we are having disagreement after disagreement, he makes a comment like, "Fine, what do you want me to buy for you this time?" like it's about the object. He's just frustrated. I'm sure he feels the same way when I brush off his sexual requests or needs. So, we both need to work on that.
And he'll sit on the couch, which is his "signal" that he's game, but not otherwise make a move. Sorry, but I need more than that. just not him, sitting on the couch looking grumpy.
Love language - for both of us, touch is a biggie. (not necessarily sexual touch) and I think for me, acts of service (helping around the house especially) It didn't used to be such a big deal, but since working from home and having kids, it really is.
SO hear you on the looking grumpy/waiting signal! Also happens here!
Acts of service do NOTHING for me. I get so annoyed by them, actually. He will spend hours "cleaning" or decluttering or organizing, and want me to thank him and go out of my way to pat him on the back. Now that I'm typing this out, it's like DUH this is how he's showing his love. But to me its just a huge annoyance. Sigh. What do you do when THAT happens, lol?
And I'm actually laughing at myself, b/c I'll do something with cleaning, or take out the trash or something, and he will really kiss my feet to thank me for it and I just tell him to knock it off, don't THANK me for things I'm supposed to be doing. Ha! Omg I'm horrible.