MW - no advice - just hugs - I really hope you can go to a counselor or chaplain or something. would Sean be willing to do something like this: http://www.lejeune.usmc.mil/mcb/carolina_living_chaplainscorner01102008.asp
I don't know how to access a schedule or anything. Also the CREDO marriage retreats are awesome (so I've been told) but involve a weekend away, and you and Dylan are probably not ready for that yet
Yes, I've been trying to go to a CREDO marriage retreat for years. We haven't been able to because either dh isn't home or I have a nursling. One of these days...Although, the religious aspect bothers me a bit. As an atheist, anything pertaining to god just isn't going to work for me. It doesn't matter if it's non-denominational. I have been told that how heavy the religion is used depends on the particular Chaplain running the retreat or seminar at any particular time. That could be tricky for me.
I can't even go to the seminars because they last a full day and Dylan is still nursing every few hours. He probably would be ok for up to 6 hours but I don't want to leave him that long because that's a step toward weaning that I'm not ready to take. I could do it when he's 2 but by then dh will most likely be in Virginia and the rest of us will still be here in NC.
Sean didn't know about the individual retreats and seminars. I mentioned them to him. He kind of grunted but didn't say anything about going by himself. I'll probably have to tell him to go or he won't.
I have noticed this with the boys sometimes. I've been trying to make an effort to comment when dh does something.
And Chris defaults to me for everything, no matter how often I remind him he can take control. I changed Finn's diaper last night and I was like, Oh, buddy you need a bath. I went to run the water and Chris said, oh yeah I noticed earlier he stunk. I thought about this for awhile. Later I said, does it just not dawn on you to give him a bath, or do you think I should be the only one to do it? He thought and said it doesn't dawn on him. That it would be too difficult.
Sean does this sort of thing and I've asked him the same thing. He'll do just about anything if I ask him but he doesn't seem to think of it on his own. That starts to annoy me because it feels like he's not really active in our daily family life. Even dinner that he says he wants to cook most night, he'll sit and think about it, I guess, until it gets so late that everyone is very hungry and whiny and grumpy and then gets aggravated that everyone is like that. The only way to get dinner at a reasonable time is for me to tell him to get up and start making it. He won't say anything to me about it but when I bring it up, he says, "Oh, yeah, I've been thinking about that," or, "I've been wondering what to do/make." Um, why didn't you say something two hours ago?