Cute belly! I love Norah in the photo, too. I must have missed something. I didn't realize the big V was today. Give that man a bag of frozen peas!
Dylan has seriously cut back on nursing lately. He only nursed first thing in the morning before we went to Raleigh. I asked him if he wanted milk before we left (It was almost noon.) and he said no. He didn't want to nurse when we got there 2.5 hours later or right before we left about 5 hours after that. He finally nursed once we got home but he went at least 10 hours without nursing at all. Since we've been home he hardly nurses at all during the day. He's been wanting solid food and other drinks instead of milk most of the time.
Is that normal for a 17 month old? I can handle it if it's just normal and just means he's cutting back to only a few times a day. I don't want him to wean yet. I want him to make it until at least 2.
I spent the morning and early afternoon packing. I was planning to pack the little kids up and go to my mother's. Sean and I got a big fight last night and he said something that hurt me so bad that I just wanted to leave and not come back. I sent him a text this morning telling him that he could blame me for everything if he wanted but that wasn't really fair considering I've been trying to get him to do something for years now because we have been crumbling. Either way, I was done and gone. It was up to him to make it worthwhile for me to stay.
He came home around 2, found me in the boys' room packing suitcases, and asked me not to leave. I told him I couldn't stay somewhere that I felt like I wasn't wanted anymore. I asked him why he wanted me to stay. He said because he loves me and he wants to make things work. I told him again that, if that's what he really wants, he needs to do something about it. Just saying the words again with no follow-through is not enough. I'm not going to stick around very long waiting for him to do something.
Can you believe he said he didn't know what to do? I had to tell him again about counseling and how to set it up. I've told him all of this before plus he gets regular info about it at work. He is the person in charge of passing that kind of info on to the other Marines in his unit. So, we shall see. I'm not unpacking.
Ohh my goodness. Listen, honestly, good for you. You've really been trying to make changes and point out where you think you both need to work on things, and he's been just ignoring all of it. Sometimes it takes a threat like leaving to make them realize how serious it all is. I too really hope he sees that things need to change and actually DOES something about it.
Re - the nursing - I've been having the same thoughts. I was wondering how often your LOs are nursing. Sometimes I feel l like it's not enough at all! But, I don't thnk we are anywhere near weaning. He will always nurse when I offer (even if it's only for a few min) and he still asks a few times a day. And it's all he wants when he's hurt or sick. So. I know we are still in the clear as far as that goes.
He's still nursing thru the night, right MW? He might just be too busy to do it during the day. Yesterday when we went out, we were gone from about 11-5 and I offered 3 times, but he only nursed once for about 10 min. I think 10 hours if you're busy and not just sitting around is fairly normal for once in awhile.
That's basically us. The more desperate seeming he gets about it, the less turned on I am. I think it's because it seems less like it's about me, and more like it's just -dis- desire to fill -his- need, kwim?
Yes to this too. Hearing someone describe it as 'filling your cup' made the most sense to me. Once my own cup is full, I feel better able to help fill his cup. And some of that is being able ot enjoy some alone time without anyone tugging on me or asking anything of me.
I'm really working on filling my cup. It's actually something that was even pointed out in the How to Stop Yelling book I'm reading. We can rarely parent from a peaceful place if we are too tired, hungry, or burnt out b/c we aren't taking care of ourselves first. It's like when you need to put on your oxygen mask first before putting one on your child.
So I'm aiming for at LEAST 30 min of time alone a day (and being in the shower/ on the toilet doesn't count). It helps so much! I definitely helps with my being able to then be intimate with Chris, b/c I feel like my needs are met before I have to give anymore of myself away.
Kat - hooray for the surgery being over! oh man, what a huge step! Hopefully recovery is quick.
AFM - NM going on. Same old. CD8, we dtd yesterday with nothing b/c I'm sure I was safe. So why this morning am I like oh no what did I do?? It's so hard to trust myself even when I know myself and we were safe! Going to try temping again this cycle to see what's what. Hopefully it doesn't make me insane.
School day so I have to go dry my hair and get the kids ready to go.
I've got vacation on my mind. Are we still thinking of going to Myrtle beach this spring? Or should we try for fall? I need to go somewhere!