December Chat Thread - Page 2 « Back to Group Discussions

[KateHNM]

Originally Posted by bambihelton 

Today, one of the greatest things has happened to me since I got pregnant! Since finding out that we are having a boy, I have been pondering how to have the discussion that I wanted to not have baby circumcised with DH. I have really had the fear that my husband would be absolutely against not circumcising, simply because he is circumcised. SURPRISINGLY, this morning, he asked me if I wanted to get baby circumcised or not. I was shocked that he was so open to discussion with this!!! 

What a relief! 

I had that same concern and my husband was the first to bring it up as well!  We both agree it should be up to our little boy when he gets old enough to decide for himself.  I had no idea he would feel this way since he was circumcised.  I can see why people think its a good idea but I just couldn't make a decision like that to permanently remove part of his body.  Seems like something that should be up to him.

I'm 20 weeks this week and loving almost everything about this part of the pregnancy.  People can definitely tell I'm pregnant at this stage so I can enjoy some special treatment but without feeling huge and without the unbearable sickness of the first trimester.  I'm hoping for a nice third trimester as well but I've heard some of the earlier symptoms come back.  I feel very excited and more alive in this stage.  Thankfully I haven't noticed any major mood swings because I used to get those just from my normal cycle every now and then.  Just really nasty back pain that comes and goes like maybe a pinched nerve or something.  Not lower back like I expected but on my upper right side.  I'm hoping pregnancy yoga might help.  Anyone had good experiences with that or can recommend a certain DVD?  Other than that I feel pretty great and nothing else seems to matter when I think about my baby boy on the way.

Great pictures Cananny!  Were you scared when you found out you were having 3?  I think I would have been.  Does your family have a history of multiples?

[cyclamen]

Originally Posted by bambihelton 

Today, one of the greatest things has happened to me since I got pregnant! Since finding out that we are having a boy, I have been pondering how to have the discussion that I wanted to not have baby circumcised with DH. I have really had the fear that my husband would be absolutely against not circumcising, simply because he is circumcised. SURPRISINGLY, this morning, he asked me if I wanted to get baby circumcised or not. I was shocked that he was so open to discussion with this!!! 

What a relief! 

Bambi, that is great news!

I also thought that DP would be totally against not circumcising since he is too, but we had a discussion one evening early on in this pregnancy, where I read from a wikipedia page about how infants aren't anesthetized before the procedure is done, and it does hurt them, and he teared right up and was like, "I can't talk about this any more, why would I want to cause my newborn baby pain?"  I was really shocked (and relieved) that he felt that way, because he is usually like, "Great, more of your hippie woo."

[brooklyn_warbler]

YAY Bambi!

Add me to the list of appreciative wives with circumcised husbands who were on board with not circumcising their sons! 

[IronMam]

And me! ManDork is adamant that we not circ Theo! <3

Tonight he's taking DD shopping to pick out a birthday present for me. I was going to come along so I could exchange that unworn underwear I mentioned...but she has been A TOTAL PITA today and I just want to stay home, relax, and have a bath. I'm going to try a hot coconut oil treatment on my hair, have a bubble bath, and watch some TV on my iPad while I soak. Wish we had a bigger tub though. If I ever strike it rich, a deep, comfortable soaking tub will be one of my luxury purchases. I could care less about jets and stuff, but I would like the water to cover my boobs completely so I'm not cold. lol

I wrote a big long post today on my blog (url is in my profile) about my thoughts on having a boy. I love writing stuff like that because I learn a lot about my feelings as I go.

I've been forcing myself to exercise daily and track my nutrition better and it's done wonders for my mood and productivity. I think I would have gotten even more done today if I hadn't gotten worn out (and wasted so much time) by battling with DD. But overall I'm feeling really happy today. I've noticed my hormones seem to really be kicking in emotional-wise the last day or so, and today seems to be leaning "giddy/happy" instead of "weepy." :) I'm just so happy to be growing this little baby boy!

[MommyRuth]

Horray for daddies who want what's right for their son, regardless of what was done to them! My husband and I talked about it before we were married. He basically said there was no way his son would ever be circumcised and I said "exactly!" so we agree completely.

[Cananny]

When we found out it was three ( on my birthday no less) I cried ... Not because we can't handle three kids both Dp and I are nannies... But because of finances... I won't be able to work and that is a big loss in my eyes... But now that we are adjusting I feel there's a good reason we are having three
Dp was on the we are circ if we have boys camp and I used to be right there with her... But then started reading about it and that was no longer up for discussion... I finally got Dp to realize it is not good and there's no reason for it!!! Plus the cost of circ three boys would kill us Lol
I am starting to get really un comfy its hard to get up and hard to get into bed... Another 10-12 weeks and these boys will be here ... Crazy to think of how fast it's going for us!! As Dp said our pregnancy is on hyper speed!
We also found out there's another lesbian couple who live 10 minutes from us who are also having triplets about 4 weeks ahead if us... We are going to meet them this weekend !!!

[IronMam]

Cananny, yay for meeting a couple in similar shoes! Hopefully you all like each other and are able to become friends. I need to make some good friends some day... :P

[bmcneal]

I didn't realize there was a December thread up, because, well, I may not have realized it was December yet. Oops. :p I also didn't realize that I'm 20 weeks already! Crazy stuff!

I got a text from this pregnancy/baby information thing I signed up for (might have to unsubscribe, I keep getting "We're checking back up, have you gotten a flu shot yet? No? You could get horribly sick, your baby too, if you don't. DO IT NOW!!!" texts) that said "You're halfway there!!!" and I totally didn't realize! I was like, "Hey, DF! Did you know we're halfway done?" and he was like, "Wait... what?" :p

Saturday was very eventful, but at the same time, I didn't get nearly as much as I had wanted to done. In the morning, DD and I went to help wrap presents for Secret Families. It started at 9, and I wasn't sure how long it was going to last, but I thought not terribly, but we ended up being there until 1. So that put a rather large crimp in my plans. But then we went to the store to get some things, and I went home and put a turkey in the oven. Worked on straightening the house up a little, then took the kids to the Christmas parade. Came home to a text from my friend saying that she was on her way over (I had invited her and her family for dinner and just to have some other adult company for me, and for kids to have other kids to play with), and started making mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes and green beans. I had hoped to have baked bread earlier, and made a couple batches of cookies, but being gone for so long at the wrapping party kind of nixed that for then. We had great fun, the kids played outside, then we ate and watched some movies, and after the littlest ones went to sleep, the adults and her middle (teenage) daughter played Monopoly. It was so great to have adult interaction, and for the kids to have other kids to play with! Too bad out cat does *not* like the teenage daughter. That's the only thing that could have made it any better, was if the company could have moved about without worrying about getting attacked. (We tried locking her in our bedroom with the bathroom door open so she could get to litter box/food and water, but because the door doesn't latch, she can get it open.)

[Munchkin08]

New pregnancy symptom has occurred. I would appreciate any insight!

On Thanksgiving I had a moment of feeling nauseous and hot. This was accompanied by  vomiting. I thought perhaps it was in reaction to something I ate, being that pregnant women can be sensitive to certain foods (I suspected it was the mushrooms).

And then this morning, while taking the train to work, I had another moment of being nauseous and hot. Thankfully, there was no vomiting. But I did read that pregnant women, esp. in the second and third trimester, can experience hot flashes. Perhaps this is what it was?

[Kara9080]

Bambi - that is awesome that it came about so naturally and he's in the no-circ camp!

My DH was in the circ camp when we talked just after we found our we're pregnant. I didn't bring it up again because I was hoping it'd be a girl... well, shortly after sonogram, while we were still in the room but alone, I started crying - thinking about circ'ing. I finally told him and he said he wanted to but we didn't have to if it was that big of deal to me. WHEW! With the hormones it just made me cry more LOL but I told him thank you. We haven't talked more yet, but I still want to read over some research and articles so he knows why I don't want to circ.

Cananny - what a small world! How awesome is to find a couple like that?! Good luck and I hope you guys will be a great support system for each other!!

Munchkin - I had a similar episode a couple weeks ago. I started to get irritable, then I got hot, then nauseas but then I almost blacked out. I made it over to a chair and my head was spinning. I sipped in some water and in 10 minutes I was fine. Nothing like that has happened since. *shrug*

[Greenlea]

I'm glad a lot of you are on the no circ' wagon as well. Unfortunately I circ'ed DS1, against all my mommy instincts. Not because my DH was adamant on it, but we just thought its what you do. I learned and we did not circ DS2 - and I regret everyday circ'ing my 1st. If this baby is a boy, he will stay intact as well.

I could not sleep last night. My arm kept going numb and my leg was hurting. I was up from 10:30pm - 2:30am. Then I got hungry and had a bowl of cereal and decided to use the heating pad on my arm and fell right asleep. Why didn't I think of that much much earlier? I don't know why my whole arm kept feeling like it was going numb. I thought it could pregnancy induced carpal tunnel (I had that with DS2) but that should just be my hand, not my whole arm right?  And my lower abdomen / uterus was cramping the whole time too with some BH thrown in. Then I woke feeling like my belly gained 5 inches LOL. 

Going to see an apt today. So hoping we get it, but the landlord guy I talked to didn't seem too keen on us having kids. Its a 2 flat and he would be living above us. And I didn't even tell him I'm pregnant, didn't want to scare him away entirely!

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

New pregnancy symptom has occurred. I would appreciate any insight!

On Thanksgiving I had a moment of feeling nauseous and hot. This was accompanied by  vomiting. I thought perhaps it was in reaction to something I ate, being that pregnant women can be sensitive to certain foods (I suspected it was the mushrooms).

And then this morning, while taking the train to work, I had another moment of being nauseous and hot. Thankfully, there was no vomiting. But I did read that pregnant women, esp. in the second and third trimester, can experience hot flashes. Perhaps this is what it was?

I get hot flashes in the first tri!  The only time I've had something similar recently, I was sick.  (not "obviously", but in hindsight)  Miserable though, mama! :(

[cyclamen]

Bmcneal - I just had a similar moment where I was like, "Whoa we are halfway there!"  It's crazy!

Munchkin08, I had something similar happen last week - all of a sudden I got really woozy and warm, realized I was going to throw up, ran to the bathroom, puked three times, and immediately felt better.  It was pretty weird, mostly because even in the throes of morning sickness, I have never thrown up.  I thought maybe it was something I ate too, but I'm really not sure.

Greenlea - good luck with getting an apartment!

Oh and all that I have to say today is that I made the tastiest lunch for DD and me.  We're both mac and cheese lovers, but I can't do much lactose so I never do milk in mine.  Today, I made corn macaroni (we're gf), and then made a sauce out of half a can of refried beans, some water, and some diced bell pepper.  I added the corn mac back into the bean sauce, grated some cheddar on top and added some taco seasoning.  It was AWESOME!  So hearty and filling.  I bet it would have been awesome with a little sour cream and salsa too, and maybe for dinner I'll reheat some pulled pork and add it to the macaroni leftovers.  This is totally going to become a staple in my house.

[mrsavery]

Can I just say: who knew about the unexpected perks of finally having your baby belly pop out for all to see? Complete strangers are smiling at me more...and opening doors for me...and the other day I dropped my phone on the floor, and a teenage girl went out of her way to retrieve it for me. Pregnancy brings out the nice people! :)

[Munchkin08]

My turn to have an emotional pregnancy tantrum. I was trying to ask DH to read The Vaccine Book and it just blew up from there. Sad times. 

Sometimes I struggle because I feel like I "care more" about what we eat. and our health than he does. Not his fault that he wasn't raised this way. I just seem to always caught up in wanting him to "care more" or "be more like me" in these ways. Sigh.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

My turn to have an emotional pregnancy tantrum. I was trying to ask DH to read The Vaccine Book and it just blew up from there. Sad times. 

Sometimes I struggle because I feel like I "care more" about what we eat. and our health than he does. Not his fault that he wasn't raised this way. I just seem to always caught up in wanting him to "care more" or "be more like me" in these ways. Sigh.

I understand.

A good friend of mine and I were just discussing this the other day.  My DH is similar...he won't read or watch anything that I try to get him to, generally about similar topics.  It's frustrating because I just want him to see the stuff for himself instead of it all just coming from me.  I can't really have conversations with him about things- unless HE initiates them (vax stuff comes up occasionally since he's in health care)- because it's as if he's just not interested. 

Thankfully he's been very supportive in the end of pretty much everything we do (eating certain things has been a battle, though).  But I've learned that it's mostly because he just trusts me (even though it never feels that way when we can't have a simple conversation where he shows much interest). 

Funny thing you mention families, though...because his mom is COMPLETELY opposite of my mom.  My mom is the average American mom (meal and health wise), while my MIL is all organic, no sugar, only healthy options, etc.  And sometimes I think that works AGAINST me because she can get kind of pushy (or passive aggressive with stuff, which is almost worse I think) and that can be a turn-off to DH sometimes.

[at_the_hip]

I will have to catch up later as it is nuts around here at the moment...but #6 is a BOY (and just one in there...a big boy at 1 lb 2oz, 21.2  weeks!)!  I was told everything looked good 'so far'...so I am pretty sure either the hematoma (sch) is still there or there is something else of some concern.  She told me to follow up with the Dr/midwife and that they would have the report in 2 days.  I will admit I am nervous for my appointment tomorrow and hope they have the report by the time of my appointment so I know more of what's going on.

[Munchkin08]

Thanks 1babysmom and others. Crying helps. As does talking it out after wards. DH shared that he is scared he wont be a good dad. It makes it all more real, I guess. To know that he is having thoughts/feelings and even tho he may not always share, to know that he is human too. 

[bmcneal]

I got a message from someone from DF's family who commented on one of DF's posts about something possibly being wrong with the baby (this was when I first found out, nothing wrong, so far, thank God!), about "What, it's not your's?" about how there's a running bet in the family about whether the baby is DF's or not, and that the baby will probably be black, because I'm just a w***e who just went back to DF after all the other guys I was f-ing got tired of my s**t, and how they are wondering WTF is wrong with DF that he lets a "retarted b***h" like myself run all over him, while he sits at home "baby-sitting" our kids. I told DF, and he just said don't worry about it, because I know how his family is (I do), and because look at how they treat him, and why do I expect them to treat me any different? (I don't.) But I just don't understand why they have to be *so* mean to me, when all I did that started this crap was to tell him (DF's family member that commented), that it was quite the inappropriate comment to make when DF was so obviously concerned with the health and well-being of the baby, and now he just messages me and tells me this stuff, and I don't know what I did, but whatever I did I didn't mean to make anyone mad at me, and definitely not so mad that they would have to say so horrible things about me. So I spent the whole time taking DF to work crying, and wishing that he would do something to try and help me not feel so bad, but then I felt worse because he's autism spectrum, and he doesn't really understand things like that, so then I just felt worse because I expected something and was sad about something that he couldn't help. And I keep wanting to send a message back to DF's family, and say mean things back to them, but I can't bring myself to, because I only met him a couple of times, and I can't say something mean to someone that I don't know if it's true or not, even if I really bad want to. So I just have the message there, because I don't know how to delete it, and just sad.

DD had her Christmas program today, and she wore antlers to be Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. She did really good, and the program was really cool, even though half of it was spent with DS in the bathroom, because, of course he didn't need to go before we left, but *had* to go in the middle. 

Our fridge and freezer isn't working right, so I called the landlord, who took some stuff apart and said that there was something that needed to be cleaned, and that he would bring a vacuum tomorrow to clean it out, and that would be the best place to start. I don't know what we're going to do, I've checked Craigslist for fridge/freezers, and nothing even near affordable, and DF called a buddy of his that is always coming about stuff like that, and he said he'd keep an eye out, too, so hopefully somehow we can figure something out.

I've been feeling the baby move a lot lately. It's still exciting. I wish other people could feel, too. I had an appointment for follow-up for my BP this morning, and it was 124/78, which is down a *ton* from what it was last week. So YAY! They want me to come back again next week, I guess to make sure that it's still good, but I have a good feeling. :) I haven't gone to do the glucose tolerance test, yet. I'm thinking I'll just wait to do it at the regular time, and just tell them I declined the early one. I was/am supposed to go get my platelet count done again, because I guess mine was low, but I forgot the lab paper today, so I'll do it sometime next week.

[alaskanmomma]

What awesome news, Bambi! That's a huge reason I was relieved Calliope is a Calliope, because well, DH is NOT on board with not circ'ing regardless of our issues with DS circumcision(doctor botched it, almost 2 years of urologist visits where they monitored it seeing if it would be ok, skin started growing over the urethra, he was peeing pure blood, emergency surgery under anesthesia...ughhhh) and he STILL wanted to do it with another boy. His reason? He's circumcised and wants the boys to look like him. I retorted with, well I have big boobs, so if our daughters don't have big boobs are we going to get them implants? Argh, anyways, so glad I'm not having to deal with that fight haha.
 

Oye, BMC, I can relate with the sh*tty in-laws. Mine think I'm a hoebag even though I've been nothing but faithful to DH, he cheated on me actually, and while we took a break, I never slept or even went on a date with anyone else, but.. alas, I'm a whore, and his mom pulled him aside and asked if Callie was "for sure" his.. yes, yes she is.