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post #201 of 261
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Originally Posted by JennJenn84 View Post

I work at McDonalds and cannot stand the burgers! Its not even real meat! The only burgers I like right now are from Red Robin. I think when my taxes come in, I am going to take my brother and daughter out there, as he has always taken me. Its a strong craving lol!

 

My weakness is the McRib. Even though I read what somewhere how it's made (blech!) I still can't help but love it, although it is a battle between my mind and my tummy, because it tastes *so* yummy, but then I think about how it's made/what's in it, and I start doubting. DF told me about the burgers, too, and now I kind of want to not go there anymore... but DD and DS love it, and to be honest, they do have some pretty tasty stuff, so... we'll probably still go occasionally. bag.gif

 

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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

My friend had her baby today, and another friend had twins on Wednesday... needless to say, I have to have a prep talk with my uterus to keep Calliope in there, because it wants to evict now and get baby cuddles and snuggles and newborn smell. DAMMIT!

 

I know, right? I met my friend's baby yesterday, and even though she's six months old, I was like, "I want my baby!" and then my other friend had her baby more recently (3 weeks ago), and all the pictures are so cute, and same thing. But it's not *terribly* long now, as it was at the beginning. I just keep reminding myself there's all kinds of things I need to do before the birth that I can't have the baby yet. There's still Christmas, and DS' birthday, and I'm supposed to go sometime between January 1st and DS' birthday on the 9th to Tennessee and help my mom move to Missouri, and we need to get our tax check so we can get the few things we're going to get for this baby (stock up on cloth diapers, a couple of different slings/baby wearing things, a few clothes items.), and get our new windows.

post #202 of 261
I absolutely cannot believe the nerve of some people! I do realize that my belly has REALLY gotten big, but I can't believe that people think that it's okay to say something to me about it. Today, even though I know my mom didn't mean to hurt my feelings, she made the comment "my goodness! Look how big that belly is! You definitely don't look 22 weeks pregnant! You still have four and a half months to go!" Along with some random woman at the grocery store asking how far along I was. When I said 22 weeks, she said, "oh! Are you having twins?!"

REALLY?!?! Today is not my day.
post #203 of 261

Oh my goodness...SO much movement today! (and we've had hiccups several times over the last few days) All right around my belly button too, and movement there always seems more intense.  All of mine have moved a LOT in utero, as well as hiccuped a lot.  However, now I feel like I'm always on my guard after doing some research on cord accidents and how one of the signs that might be worth noting is a lot of movement and/or hiccups. *sigh*  And I had read about how one study showed they tend to happen when a woman is lying on her back and her BP is low, so even though I'm not overly worried about that happening, having read it makes it impossible to forget and now I feel like I'm always stressing in the back of my mind about it.  Of course the fact that I am sort of in shock that I'm still pregnant in the first place does weigh in, because it makes me feel more like something is bound to happen at some point.  So horrible.  Shows such a lack of faith on my part.

 

I've been having to do stretches/excercies to release my SI joint several times a day lately.  It's really starting to bother me.  Not a good sign.  I've made it further along this time than last time, but still....eek.

post #204 of 261
Bambi - ((hugs)) that wasn't very nice of them to say... But I have noticed people really don't think before they speak... I get the opposite reaction from people but it still hurts my feelings... I get "oh my your how far?? Your so small!!" I even had someone ask me if I've gained any weight. Nd when I responded no, she replied "oh my well no wonder your baby is small!" U.G.H. My baby is perfect size! I'm tall!!! And I eat everything in sight!!!! Lol people r rude...

1babysmom- I've never heard of CORD ACCIDENTS!?!?!! Oh my. That's scary. Im gonna do myself a favor and NOT research that, just cuz ill lay here and worry myself sick lolThis baby has always been crazy active, and currently the kicks are getting to the point where they hurt sometimes! Ill be 26 weeks tomorrow. I swear she's gonna come out with muscles! LOL I wonder if I've felt hiccups... Do they feel different than movements or kicks?
post #205 of 261

Hiccups (at least to me) always feel like rhythmic- just a few seconds or so apart- little flicks or thumps in the same spot over a period of time.   I can always feel them most obviously on either lower side of my belly.

post #206 of 261
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Originally Posted by 1babysmom View Post

Hiccups (at least to me) always feel like rhythmic- just a few seconds or so apart- little flicks or thumps in the same spot over a period of time.   I can always feel them most obviously on either lower side of my belly.

Oh ok good to know! I don't think I've felt any of those yet... All her kicks are pretty hard. And currently painful, as she's using my cervix as a punching bag! OUCH LOL
post #207 of 261

I have felt lots of movement for the last couple of days, some so strong that I can see them from the outside, but I don't feel hiccups yet. I'm only 22 weeks and with this being my first, along with being chunky, I'm not sure when I will feel them. 

BeanBean, I am short (only 5'2") so there isn't much room for my belly to go but out. And the funny thing is that my baby was apparently on the small side during the anatomy scan. Maybe it's just ME that's growing so much! Ha!! I'm sorry that people are so rude! How frustrating.

post #208 of 261

Midwife appointment this morning: everything looks great! YAY for 25 weeks (tmw). 

post #209 of 261
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Originally Posted by bambihelton View Post

I have felt lots of movement for the last couple of days, some so strong that I can see them from the outside, but I don't feel hiccups yet. I'm only 22 weeks and with this being my first, along with being chunky, I'm not sure when I will feel them. 

BeanBean, I am short (only 5'2") so there isn't much room for my belly to go but out. And the funny thing is that my baby was apparently on the small side during the anatomy scan. Maybe it's just ME that's growing so much! Ha!! I'm sorry that people are so rude! How frustrating.


Generally baby won't be working his diaphragm til closer to the third tri so there probably aren't hiccups to be felt anyway.  I actually felt my first case of hiccups this week (I'm 25w) and thought it was so early -- my other two didn't hiccup much til after 28w or so.

 

People are so obnoxious about telling women they're HUGE.  It's like we as a culture don't know what it looks like to be pregnant (probably because most maternity models are tiny and 6 months, so nowhere near as big as women ultimately get).  I don't get why we think that it's acceptable to even discuss women's bodies during probably the most vulnerable time in their life.  If you had just gained a little weight, no acquaintance would think it polite to comment on, yet when you're undergoing massive bodily changes pretty much beyond your control people like to weigh in on whether they think you're gaining an appropriate amount. It makes me irate.  I get both -- the "you're so [read:  too] small!" until the last two months, and then the "you're so huge!" at the very end.  Either way, I think it's completely inappropriate; I think the only thing to say to a pregnant woman if you feel compelled to comment on her appearance is "you look great!"

post #210 of 261
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Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler View Post

 I think the only thing to say to a pregnant woman if you feel compelled to comment on her appearance is "you look great!"

agree.

What I hate the most is the third trimester when you really start to get big and people look and talk to you as if you're a ticking time bomb.. like a baby and blood are going to come shooting out at them at any moment.   I took a hospital tour when I was only 6 months, and the tour guide actually said to me, in front of all the other moms to be "whoa... maybe you'd better just stay here.. looks like that baby's ready to come out!"  Or people start asking when you're due, and then have their own professional opinions about when the baby is coming.  When I went 2 weeks late with my first, people backed off like I had a contagious disease when I answered their question that my due date had come and gone.

post #211 of 261

Bambihelton, I'm so happy for you! Circumcision is the ONE thing my guy and I could just not agree on. Every time we tried to talk about it we would end up further apart. We watched a video of one from start to finish and at the end he said "See. It wasn't that bad". And I just started sobbing. Well, we found out we're having two girls. So how's that for cosmic intervention, haha. Let me know if you would like me to send you links to build your case. I had been doing a ton of research on it. 

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Munchkin08 -- We're about to embark on an 8-10 hour trip at 6 1/2 months preggers with twins. I don't know if it's crazy but I'm looking forward to it. Things to consider are packing a cooler full of healthy snacks, stopping for pee breaks, walking breaks so your legs don't cramp, and pillows to help you nap. I haven't had any swelling in my legs yet (knock on wood) but I've been recommended to buy a pair of special stockings generally used for diabetics. They have a graduated weave that helps the circulation in your legs. Good for sitting long periods. Also, we've talked about driving half way and staying in a hotel. I'd say have a detailed conversation with your doc or midwife before such a venture. I had to get real specific with my doc about the state of my cervix before deciding to take this trip, lol. You are the one who knows the details of your pregnancy. If at the end of the day you decided it would be better to stay home, SKYPE is great for long distance get togethers. You could have people mail the gifts to you and open them in front of everyone on the computer. 

post #213 of 261

I woke up to the sound of wrapping paper being played with, figured it was the cat scratching at a roll or at presents, and went back to sleep.. not even 5 minutes later Sylas runs into my room, jumps on me and starts screaming "POOH! POOH! POOH!" with his new Pooh Bear in his hands singing and talking to me. I asked him if that was the only present he opened, he said yes, and I told him we had to go put it back under the tree and he could play with it when he woke up... go out to the living room and EVERY. SINGLE. PRESENT was open. OMFG.... salvaged the wrapping paper that I could, but a lot of our presents went from being wrapped nicely to either looking mangy or having patches of different wrapping paper on it because I didn't have much extra wrapping paper. UGH!

post #214 of 261

Bambi, I'm on the opposite boat, the "too small" boat.. I've never had the big belly for a pregnancy, always stayed little, and the comments suck on that spectrum too! I think people should just nod, and walk away! I don't want to hear I'm "too small" for my third baby or being x amount, and I don't think ANY woman wants to hear they are big.. even if they are! Aye, aye, aye

post #215 of 261

On kind of the same note, I was at McDonald's the other day, and for some reason, one of the girls behind the counter asked if I wanted a free iced mocha. I said sure. The cashier who rang me up said something about wishing she wasn't pregnant, she'd have them every day. I said, "It doesn't bother me. There's a lot worse things I could be doing." and she said, "Yeah, well, I'm pregnant." I said so am I (and, I should note, I was wearing a "I'm not fat, I'm knocked up" shirt...), and she just seemed unconvinced. But we talked, and she said it was her first baby, and I told her that I, too, was super concerned when I was pregnant with DD (my first), but lightened up when I had DS, and after DS was born, and they both turned out fine, I realized for me, I don't need to stress myself out with all the "don't do it" stuff.

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bmcneal: Everything I've read says one serving of caffeine a day is fine anyhow. But I get what you're saying. I'm much more relaxed this time around too. Last night I even had *gasp* half a beer! lol

 

I usually don't mention what I do and don't around people though, because I just know somebody is going to think it's their business and decide to lecture me about something stupid.

post #217 of 261

I don't really mind comments on size. I was so small last time that sometimes even right before birth I could pass as not pregnant.  Now with this one, I am large from the beginning and have already gained 40lbs at 22 weeks. Despite that somehow the comments don't bother me.  I always assume that they reflect far more on the person and their own concerns/issues around size/weight. I think a lot of comments are also a drive to connect because birth is so amazing and bellies provokes a bit of awe. I know that a baby is many ways is a private event but it is also a one that connects us to other humans - present and past.  I feel far more connected to ancestors in pregnancy.

post #218 of 261

I get super big bellies while pregnant so I don't mind people commenting on how big my belly is, as long as they don't comment on how big the rest of me is. Even I sometimes wonder why my belly gets so big with only one baby. I really popped recently at 20 weeks and people who haven't seen me since Thanksgiving were mentioning how big I had gotten.

 

How was everyone's Christmas? My boys, who are only 3.5 and 2 yrs got an appaling amount of toys this year. I don't know what to do with them all and don't even want them all. Why don't people give gift recceipts?? Some of them we already have, some clothes are too small, some toys are too young for my boys, etc. I'm grateful people want to get them things, but hello - always give gift receipets! I stacked most of the toys away and have not opened them. Luckily my siblings and DH's siblings stuck to the list and the boys love what they got from them because it was things they actually needed and did not have.

 

My MIL gave us a 2 night stay at a hotel for when my cousin gets married in Feb. She's watching the boys one night and we'll keep them one night in the hotel swimming and playing. I'm so looking forward to the mini get away. The reception is about 1.5 hrs from our house at a lodge so it will be nice.

post #219 of 261
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Originally Posted by SplashingPuddle View Post

I don't really mind comments on size. I was so small last time that sometimes even right before birth I could pass as not pregnant.  Now with this one, I am large from the beginning and have already gained 40lbs at 22 weeks. Despite that somehow the comments don't bother me.  I always assume that they reflect far more on the person and their own concerns/issues around size/weight. I think a lot of comments are also a drive to connect because birth is so amazing and bellies provokes a bit of awe. I know that a baby is many ways is a private event but it is also a one that connects us to other humans - present and past.  I feel far more connected to ancestors in pregnancy.


I've gained 32lbs at 25 weeks. I was not overweight at all before pregnant, so it seems I just gain a lot when I'm pregnant (I gained 55lbs with my first pregnancy.) I agree that a lot of comments are a search for connection. It seems most comments come from other parents (especially mothers). Everyone started life in a uterus! It's amazing to think about.

 

Anyone else having a return of heartburn? It's more uncomfortable now than it was earlier in pregnancy, but so far apple cider vinegar seems to really help!

 

We had a nice xmas. Went to Iowa to see family over the weekend. DH's parents just happen to live about 30 minutes from mine, so we got to see everyone in one trip! DH's stepmother said something again about coming to live with us for a couple weeks after baby is born. I just reminded her that we said "No, thank you." and reminded her that after having a baby, there might be things going on that I wouldn't want my mother-in-law to see, such as hanging out shirtless and she seemed shocked at that idea. It was pretty funny, but hopefully it put her off of the idea! We spent xmas day at home, just the 3 of us, relaxing. My husband made chicken alfredo for dinner and I had a lovely nap and lots of cuddles. It was perfect for our first xmas as a family! We also ended up with a used pack-n-play that's still in great condition! It's the only baby furniture (besides maybe a swing and high chair) that we wanted. It's nice to have it, and it was free!

 

Today my hubby got motivated and cleaned up a bunch of junk mail that was cluttering the house and driving me nuts, then he rearranged our bedroom! I'm a happy mama!

 

I'm wondering about what kind of birth class we want to take. I feel like it's about time to start looking. Wish me luck! I'd love to hear suggestions!

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I'm going to do the hypnobabies home study rather than a class. I didn't do a class with DD either. But I've had a lot of satisfaction with self hypnosis techniques, and apps, so I'm looking forward to utilizing hypnosis for labor. Hypnosis is basically just really good placebo effect. lol
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