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[Cananny]

I have had the most emotional day yesterday.. A dear friend from mdc gave birth wends full term to a beautiful boy Elio Sol .. He sadly got menagitis and passed away yesterday .. I am devastated and have spent hours crying for them.... They lost a twin at 12 weeks and now little Elio ....

Please say a little prayer for them in this tragedy ... I know you don't know them but I can't even imagine their heartbreak right now...

Things you never want to hear when you are a pregnant emotional nut case already ....

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Bwa ha ha ha ha!

Just got DD's school pictures back (I guess they do those in preschool now?) It's nice to see she's upholding the long and cherished tradition of looking totally ridiculous in one's school portraits. lol

I did manage to get a nice shot, once I did a bunch of tweaking in Photoshop. So that's good. But I dunno, I think it was worth the $25 just for the laugh!

DH felt Teddy kick last night, just barely. I'm really glad because this baby boy has a baaaaad habit of going perfectly still the instant DP puts his hand on my belly. He was getting pretty frustrated about it.

That reminds me of when we got DD's school pictures back last year! Picture day was also "crazy sock day" so DD was wearing a pink flowered dress, had her hair up really nice, and then had her softball socks on, which were blue and white tie-dye. And the pose they chose for her (because I never saw the "pick your pose" paper they sent home) was her sitting with her legs to one side, leaning on the hand of her other side, so you can see the socks that clash so horribly with the dress.  But I still love it. We're waiting until spring session to order their pictures again this year, they sent the order form only two days before the money was due, and we didn't realize how doggone expensive they would be.

Originally Posted by spruce 

: bmcneal, I hope you all find a good answer to the grief you are dealing with right now.
Munchkin08, I totally understand what you are saying about everyone being further along than you...although for me, I want to just plain have a bigger belly and be pregnant LONGER. . I wish I had that big old basketball belly I see on so many women...
We are toning down our holidays in a big way. With piano, swim lessons, swim team, chess club, dance class, skiing, and everything homeschool (including preparing for our 17yo's graduation), we don't have so much as a window star up as yet. Our general guideline is the old "something to eat, something to wear, something to read, something to share."

Thank you.

I don't know about being pregnant *longer*, but I do agree about wanting a bigger belly. I can't wait until the kids are older, and they can take part in more outside-school activities. Not because I don't want to be around them, but because *they* want to participate in things, but they aren't quite old enough just yet. DS (3, will be 4 in January) wants to play football, but the youngest league there is, I think, is for first grade.

[TIFF4NY]

Originally Posted by Cananny 

I have had the most emotional day yesterday.. A dear friend from mdc gave birth wends full term to a beautiful boy Elio Sol .. He sadly got menagitis and passed away yesterday .. I am devastated and have spent hours crying for them.... They lost a twin at 12 weeks and now little Elio ....
Please say a little prayer for them in this tragedy ... I know you don't know them but I can't even imagine their heartbreak right now...
Things you never want to hear when you are a pregnant emotional nut case already ....

OMG That's so sad to hear. I'm very sad for them and their loss. 

[IronMam]

I'm very sad to hear about their baby Elio. That's so awful and just totally unfair. I'm crossing my fingers that they have a large group of friends and family to support them through this awful time.

[at_the_hip]

Originally Posted by Cananny 

I have had the most emotional day yesterday.. A dear friend from mdc gave birth wends full term to a beautiful boy Elio Sol .. He sadly got menagitis and passed away yesterday .. I am devastated and have spent hours crying for them.... They lost a twin at 12 weeks and now little Elio ....
Please say a little prayer for them in this tragedy ... I know you don't know them but I can't even imagine their heartbreak right now...
Things you never want to hear when you are a pregnant emotional nut case already ....

I am so terribly sorry to hear this.  Yesterday was the first anniversary of my Mom's early passing and so emotional.  Something like this isn't something you ever get over.  You do your best to limp along and that's as good as it gets, I feel.

Love to their family and prayers for peace as they say goodbye way too soon.

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by Cananny 

I have had the most emotional day yesterday.. A dear friend from mdc gave birth wends full term to a beautiful boy Elio Sol .. He sadly got menagitis and passed away yesterday .. I am devastated and have spent hours crying for them.... They lost a twin at 12 weeks and now little Elio ....
Please say a little prayer for them in this tragedy ... I know you don't know them but I can't even imagine their heartbreak right now...
Things you never want to hear when you are a pregnant emotional nut case already ....

I didn't see this when I posted earlier! I am so sorry to hear of their loss. My prayers are with them.

I got in the mail this afternoon that DD and DS are covered for insurance! I knew they did, but for some reason, when I had to recertify or whatever, they made a mistake, and had that I made 3 *times* what I actually make! So I finally had a chance to go and re-apply, and they are covered! And it's retroactive for a few months, so it should cover the (multiple) doctor visits DS has had to have because he got sent home from school. (He has moderate food allergies, and *every* time he has allergic reaction, they call and send him home because "He's got a rash, and it could be contagious. So you'll need to take him to the doctor and get a note that he's not contagious before he can come back to school." At $160/visit, we are *so* in debt to the doctor, just over that!) But thank *God* it will(should) be covered. I'm crying, so happy that that is one less thing we have to worry about.

[Martha83]

ahhh...gone for a few days and this thread gained four pages. Sheesh. LOL. I will catch up. When my brain gives me the ability to concentrate. Oy! ;)

[Munchkin08]

My husband smokes. And has been on and off for the years that I have known him. Apparently while I was away visiting family he went from the patch (which he has been on since this summer) to the electronic cigarettes. It pisses me off. For so many reasons. Unfortunately I don't frame my opinion in a way that DH can hear. I get stuck within the mind frame that "if you cared you wouldn't (fill in the blank)." What do I do? How do I let go (of some things, like his diet) but not willing to give in on the smoking. Help.

[IronMam]

Sooty,I'm not sure what's wrong with the e-cigarettes. I thought they're a harmless quitting aid?

Successfully giving up smoking is one of the hardest things for a person to do. I'd suggest reading the book Carrots and Sticks and see if your DH might be interested in coming up with a commitment contract for quitting.

[Munchkin08]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Sooty,I'm not sure what's wrong with the e-cigarettes. I thought they're a harmless quitting aid?
Successfully giving up smoking is one of the hardest things for a person to do. I'd suggest reading the book Carrots and Sticks and see if your DH might be interested in coming up with a commitment contract for quitting.

There may in fact be nothing wrong with them. I recognize that my reaction is purely emotion. In part, for me at least, it is about the home environment and message we would be sending the child. That smoking is okay ? I know my DH started smoking as a teenager because his father did and there was access at home. 

[IronMam]

Ah. Ok. Thanks for clarifying. Also, that was supposed to be sorry not "scooty." Darn autocorrect.

Well, maybe he'll be able to quit completely by the time baby is old enough to form memories that might influence his/her choices regarding smoking. If not, it'd be a good opportunity to explain how incredibly difficult it is to quit, so never start. You can frame the e-cigarettes as Daddy's way to protect the family's health while trying to quit for good.

[JennJenn84]

That's so sad Cananny :-(

Fatigue is testing it's ugly head again! I hate that I feel like I can't get anything done! So far I've felt like my pregnancy has gone by fast, and all of a sudden, it feels like I've been pregnant FOREVER! I'm only 23 Weeks so it feels like I have ages to go. I like saying I only have 3 1/2 months to go instead of 16Weeks, seems shorter that way

I have my shot of Rhogam(sp?) in 5 Weeks, not looking forward to that as I remember it hurting the last time. Then I have the sugar test then too I think, that or 32 Weeks, can't remember. I am looking forward to the 3D Ultrasound. I remember with my DD that I had a case of the giggles and the tech had to keep starting over. I also nearly passed out and freaked the nurses out.

Anybody else having trouble with names? I like the name Emmerson and several others. I have a feeling that like with DD, I won't have a name till 37Weeks lol. I have the middle names, but not the first one yet.

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by JennJenn84 

That's so sad Cananny :-(
Fatigue is testing it's ugly head again! I hate that I feel like I can't get anything done! So far I've felt like my pregnancy has gone by fast, and all of a sudden, it feels like I've been pregnant FOREVER! I'm only 23 Weeks so it feels like I have ages to go. I like saying I only have 3 1/2 months to go instead of 16Weeks, seems shorter that way
I have my shot of Rhogam(sp?) in 5 Weeks, not looking forward to that as I remember it hurting the last time. Then I have the sugar test then too I think, that or 32 Weeks, can't remember. I am looking forward to the 3D Ultrasound. I remember with my DD that I had a case of the giggles and the tech had to keep starting over. I also nearly passed out and freaked the nurses out.
Anybody else having trouble with names? I like the name Emmerson and several others. I have a feeling that like with DD, I won't have a name till 37Weeks lol. I have the middle names, but not the first one yet.

I'm not looking forward to the Rhogam shot, either, but more because I don't care for shots. I can't remember if it hurt or not, but... here's to hoping it doesn't!  I am *not* looking forward to the sugar test, either. They said if none of the flavors sound "good" I can call the office and tell them I want to do the Brach's test instead.

I am having such a hard time with names! With both DD and DS, we had names picked out practically from the time we found out I was pregnant, but this time, *completely* different! I have *no* idea *what* this baby's name is going to be! I joked with DF earlier that I think the baby will end up with the name "Baby." 

[spruce]

Bmcneal and jennjenn, I feel your pain. I skip the prenatal Rhogam, but am notoriously cowardly about the postpartum one. Ugh. (my Grandmother lost 9 babies to Rh Disease, and every one of those baies would have made it if she had had prenatal Rhogam, so I am not in any way knocking your choices!)

I also did the glucose test once...just the once!...and it was horrifying. I was there because my Internal Medicine Doc had NO idea what was wrong with my heart, and he presumed my pregnancy was the cause of all my ills....holy crap, that test was awful. I had to do the 3 hour test anyway, and they stuck me over and over again instead of putting in just one needle and leaving it.

At one point, I walked up to the counter, thinking maybe we had figured something out, because I was sweating and my heart rate was up to about 180...and I told the nurse why I was there, and that THIS was what we were trying to STOP from happening. She said, and I quote, "oh, you're doing great! A lot of moms pass out by now!".

We have our 3D ultrasound (you know, the one we were never going to have, lol) today. I am so nervous. It isn't a diagnostic one, not really...and we told them we don't want to know the gender...but I am still afraid there will be something horribly wrong.

Sometimes i feel like, after so many healthy babies, we must have used up all our good DNA and certainly all our luck.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by spruce 
...but I am still afraid there will be something horribly wrong.
Sometimes i feel like, after so many healthy babies, we must have used up all our good DNA and certainly all our luck.

I don't have an ultrasound until about 33 weeks (pre-UC, basically), but I feel the same way for opposite reasons.  I feel like we've had so many problems and FINALLY are having a successful pregnancy, that we can't POSSIBLY be having a completely healthy baby on top of it.  It's just hard to fathom a perfectly good outcome anymore.

Guess you never can win in this regard. 

[Oliver's Mama]

I had a rough night yesterday. I was sitting on the floor and my 2 year old backed up and totally banged him bottom down on my belly, forcefully on purpose because he was mad with me because I was getting frustrated with him and our potty training attempts.  I ended up in the hospital to be monitored for a while and everything seems fine, despite still having a very sore belly. But I still can't help but worry that something will be wrong, and not just for the baby, but I'd feel bad knowing how it was caused. I have a follow-up tomorrow as well. 

Anyways, anyone have a belly-trauma survival story to ease my mind?

[IronMam]

Oliver's Mama:

No belly trauma, but I did fall on the stairs when I was pregnant with DD and smacked down pretty hard. They checked me and babe out in the L&D ward. Babies are actually pretty protected in there, as I understand it. I have a hard time imagine a two-year-old, even trying his hardest, could do any serious damage to a fetus. A grown man, sure. But then, I'm not a doctor. Still, I would think the follow-up is probably just a precaution, because everybody likes to be extra careful when babies/pregnant ladies are involved. No one wants a malpractice case on their hands. So, hard as it is, try not to worry unless they give you a reason to worry. 

[alaskanmomma]

Oliver's Mama: With my pregnancy with my son I was in a car accident that ejected the airbags and the airbag pretty much got all my belly, Sylas stopped kicking and moving (way unusual for him) but when I got to the hospital, he looked good on the u/s and had a strong heartbeat, think he was just spooked :) My tummy was super sore and bruised for weeks afterwards :'(

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Oliver's Mama:

No belly trauma, but I did fall on the stairs when I was pregnant with DD and smacked down pretty hard. They checked me and babe out in the L&D ward. Babies are actually pretty protected in there, as I understand it. I have a hard time imagine a two-year-old, even trying his hardest, could do any serious damage to a fetus. A grown man, sure. But then, I'm not a doctor. Still, I would think the follow-up is probably just a precaution, because everybody likes to be extra careful when babies/pregnant ladies are involved. No one wants a malpractice case on their hands. So, hard as it is, try not to worry unless they give you a reason to worry. 

Thanks! I know it's not really something to worry about, but as Spruce mentioned above, when you've had such good luck with healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies and deliveries, it's hard to believe the "good luck" can keep on coming.  Lil boys are tough though, just you wait! I've got plenty of bruises and scars from their shenanigans over the years! 

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

Oliver's Mama: With my pregnancy with my son I was in a car accident that ejected the airbags and the airbag pretty much got all my belly, Sylas stopped kicking and moving (way unusual for him) but when I got to the hospital, he looked good on the u/s and had a strong heartbeat, think he was just spooked :) My tummy was super sore and bruised for weeks afterwards :'(

Yup, when I fell DD stopped moving, and that was what freaked me out the most! But by the time I got to L&D she started moving again. I wasn't sure if I should go in, so I delayed a bit to ask some friends and call the maternity clinic whether they thought I needed to. I guess I didn't want anybody thinking I was a crazy, over-wrought first time mom.

 

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Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

Thanks! I know it's not really something to worry about, but as Spruce mentioned above, when you've had such good luck with healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies and deliveries, it's hard to believe the "good luck" can keep on coming.  Lil boys are tough though, just you wait! I've got plenty of bruises and scars from their shenanigans over the years! 

 

Knowing you probably don't need to worry, and actually stopping yourself from worrying are two totally different beasts. One is easy, the other seems impossible. :)