how did you end it

[Laura87]

How did you tell your spouse that after all the back and forth you were finally ready to go?

Did any of you regret leaving?

[lilgreen]

Well, you can follow all the details of how it went down for me here: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1354319/need-help-with-impending-confrontation-update-719

I don't regret it for a second! I am so relieved and feel so free. It's a new life and I'm so excited about it.

[ShadowMom]

How did *I* end it?

Well, it was time for the every-six-months "You need to try harder, you aren't living up to my expectations" talk that my husband would give me.  And I finally said, "If you don't like me, I don't want to be with you."

When it's done, and you're really and truly just done with it all, there's no sugarcoating, no nice way to say it, nothing to say except, "I can't do this anymore.  It's over."

Despite the way I've put it, it was not an easy decision for me.  But I realized that if I stayed, I was setting an example for my DS and saying that the relationship I was in was OK.  And it wasn't OK, and never would be.  

[featherstory]

Definitely didn't regret it.  I can't say exactly how I ended it.  It was more of something I told to the people around me...I gave myself and internal deadline, and he basically got the point and around the time when I was going for a family visit he lost it and told me to leave...which was fine cause that's what I was doing anyway.

It has been almost a year now(just a few days short) and I don't regret it at all, actually I am more convinced almost daily that I did the right thing...kinda wish I'd done it earlier.