I have been feeling so depressed and angry, and for such a stupid reason. There are just a couple of so-called "mommy blogs" I like, and my favorite one ( Black and White and Loved All Over ), which is in general great, just totally bummed me out. The mommy in question just had her second kid--of course she is over the moon with happiness, as can be expected, and she finished her post by saying:
"Overnight I went from being the mom of one precocious little girl to the mom of two little girls. That makes me a real mom now. I'm not just playing at this. There are two carseats in my back seat, and I have a lifetime of mommy duty ahead of me. Birthday parties and temper tantrums and boo-boos and broken hearts, report cards and time-outs, Christmases and weddings, moments that scare the pants off me and others that make me cry for joy. (Sometimes I think, What have I done?) I'm official."
This is pretty offensive to me, although the dear woman meant nothing other than to express her own happiness and sense of achievement. I just can't stand the way people with more than one kid think that women with just one aren't even real moms. It makes me want to cry. So ignorant and dumb, this attitude is. Two people have commented on this is her comments section, so that is nice that I'm not alone in feeling upset by her assessment of what constitutes a genuine mother, but I'm having a hard time getting past it.
I know this is all so foolish--it's just some stranger's public diary/photo album, but for some reason I had really grown to like reading her updates on a family I'll never meet or know. Won't be checking it much in the future, I guess. Not sure why it hit me like this--I guess I'm just tired of being made--by good people with the best intentions, too--like an inferior or incomplete or unofficial parent because I only have one kid.
Okay, time to take a nap with my one sweet darling little peanut!
thanks for humoring me