I have typed out my whole panic attack and life story a few times but I think I can summarize it like this -
I grew up homeless and my husband grew up low-income and then went to the Army. My daughter is from a previous marriage (age 9) and has the material goods to show all of the compensating and competition between her father and step-father. I have NO idea what a household NEEDS. I've spent years just buying everything that I didn't have as a kid and my husband could care less (he doesn't have an attachment to things.) My daughter also has an emotional attachment to inanimate objects (aspergers) so getting rid of things is very emotionally draining. If I focus on the negative (what I don't need) I feel overwhelmed. I'd like to focus on the positive (what I DO need) and have a sort of treasure hunt to dig these things out and toss the things that are in the way.