In other news, I've really been feeling the need to get the Word out...but I'm a coward and don't want to lose friends/family. There are several women in particular that I really love, but who have had abortions and are very defensive about "women's rights," that I am especially worried about. What do all of you do to evangelize in sensitive situations?
I haven't been in the position of bringing up somebody's abortion with them in conversation, but I do a lot of pro-life work, so I run into it a lot. Some of the best has been in my work for 40 Days For Life. When I'm standing in the back of the church after Mass, asking for volunteers to go pray in front of an abortion facility, it's pretty clear where I stand. Mostly, it opens up conversations about how to best protect life, and it helps to be open to hearing many ideas... prayer and fasting, support for women in unplanned pregnancies, men taking responsibility for their actions, resources for mothers, acceptance of children in culture... not just legal action.
I start with the assumption that a woman who has had an abortion has done so because she felt like she had no other choice, and she did the best that she knew how to do in that circumstance. I cannot imagine what it must have been like for her to go through that, and I have nothing but compassion for her. The state of her soul is between her and God, and I will not judge. At the same time, there was a human person in her womb that is now dead. I mourn the loss of that life, and I will stand up against the unjust killing of innocent children in the womb just as I would stand up against the unjust killing of any other person. I'm not here to place blame on a woman in a tough situation. I'm here to look at all the factors that contribute to injustice in order to create a better world.
I don't feel a need to bring it up constantly to argue with people. Mostly, I pray. Then, I also participate in pro-life events or (less frequently) post pro-life information on Facebook (where it really tends to be poorly received). People know where I stand, and I don't hound them about it. If they'd like to talk, I'm here to validate, I'm here to find common ground, and I'm here to stand up for the truth. If we disagree, then we may have to agree to disagree, but respectful conversation is always fruitful. It helps me to understand how other people see it, and I pray that my words will plant a seed in their hearts as well.