Thebyr-- I love MDC because people don't offer opinions in that way. My sister gets really into The Bump and The Nest and WOW-- people offer all kinds of crazy end all/be all advice there. Those ladies really know what's right for other people :). People on this website tend to be respectful and reflective and your post is a perfect example of that. Thanks :)
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Bajingo Juice can bring BFP presents this Christmas Season - TTC#1 in our 30s - Page 3post #41 of 13512/12/12 at 2:51pmpost #42 of 13512/13/12 at 5:47am
TeamViddy - I'm spoiled because I mostly hang out here! I hope you get a resolution or a BFP REALLY soon!
AFM - Not much... horrible cold so I googled musinex to see if it would throw off my O date or affect pregnancy and saw a bunch of posts about women taking it to get help with pregnancy. The ladies on another board were lovely enough to enlighten me with more facts. WHO KNEW? I had no idea. I always take it for colds - never thought it could potentially help with getting the spermy to the eggy. lol
I ovulate late next week though, and I doubt I'll still be on it by then.. but it might be something interesting to keep in mind if I don't quite catch the egg the first few months of TTC.post #43 of 13512/13/12 at 9:07am
Thebyr: I tried it a couple of months ago and it didn't seem to do much for my EWCM production. It was an experiment and I didn't repeat it. Lately I've been taking royal jelly. Mostly I take these things as a placebo/superstition. I like to think it's helping and that I'm doing "extra" things to help TTC.post #44 of 13512/13/12 at 10:20ampost #45 of 13512/13/12 at 4:07pmpost #46 of 13512/13/12 at 4:18pmThread Starter
What is the big deal with royal jelly? I haven't heard of using for anything particular. I have heard about mucinex. Tried it a few times but my issue is more that EWCM lasts for so long, not that I don't have enough.
TeamViddy, I am so glad I ditched the Nest and the Bump. I totally don't fit in with those kind of people.
AFM, AF is kicking my butt. Yesterday I was hardly able to stand up and continue teaching because of cramps. Ugh. I just want to be pregnant. I keep thinking just 6 more months and then we will have the money for our IVF and I will have two months of summer vacation to go through the IVF procedures without worrying about teaching at the same time.post #47 of 13512/14/12 at 6:42am
Lilac - sometimes I have periods like that too... In fact, since my surgery - my periods hurt MORE.. even though many women get relief after fibroid removal. But I've noticed that my periods are much more like when I was younger (in high school) - clotty with lots of cramping and mild nausea. I feel for your pain - especially having to be in front of students ALLLLLL day!!! Yikes.
I have an Ovulation question. So, I know my cycle fluctuates between 27-32 days. I've been tracking my cycles for about 3 years. This is the first time I've tracked my O date though. Last month, according to my OPK - I O'd on CD18. I've been reading that your O date can fluctuate and that's most likely the reason for cycle fluctuation. For the ladies that have been tracking your O dates - have they fluctuated?post #48 of 13512/14/12 at 6:55am
Folks, the universe is challenging me today. My sister-in-law had three very planned babies and then got pregnant with her fourth accidentally this summer. I am super happy for her and she is a fantastic mother. Although I never had a twinge of jealousy, I did have difficult feelings when she announced the birth to my husband's grandma and I was just sitting there with one loss and nothing else to show from a year trying. Now my sister is accidentally pregnant with her third after two very planned pregnancies. She just found out today. My period is due today; my breasts were deflated this morning the way they always are the day my period starts. Again, not a twinge of jealousy, but I am struggling with feelings of failure. This is the 17th cycle. I am tired.post #49 of 13512/14/12 at 6:59am
I get it TeamViddy. When I tell you that ALL of my friends are preggers now - I mean ALL of them. Some of my really good friends either just had babies or are due between now and March. I have 11 friends in that category. And I'm not jealous of them at all... but it doesn't make me feel good about my situation to be around all these women who have babies or are preggers - period. SO to you - cause it's not easy to be surrounded by something you want so badly and for it to be JUST out of reach. I really hope you get your BFP soon!!!post #50 of 13512/14/12 at 8:47am
I swear an announcement always happens right when AF comes. Its like thank you so much universe for handing me the information when I'm extra emotional on a super emotional subject. I'm sorry your so tired. Ttc really does take its toll. Perhaps a break might help? I should take my own advice,lol. I'm only a few cycles ahead of you and I'm exhausted too.post #51 of 13512/14/12 at 9:33am
Lilac: I read that royal jelly is packed with all sorts of good stuff since it is the super concentrated food the bees feed their queen and all she does her whole life is lay eggs. So what's good for the bees must be good for me...
Sorry you're having a sucky period. I've found over the years that if I keep up my fiber intake that tends to help alleviate the cramps, maybe something to experiment with?
Thebyr: My O date as well as my LP are variable, that's from 8 months worth of data. Feel free to ask more questions.
TeamViddy and JustJenny: "I'm tired." has been my slogan all year! Every couple of weeks I find myself saying: "I need a vacation." and really I need a mental break but I don't even know from what. 2012 hasn't been a great year for me, even before November. My business has suffered from lack of attention and at home things are ok, I would even say good, but for some reason I still feel drained. I think I've been feeling like I'm spinning my wheels and not going anywhere and that's frustrating. Because on the one hand I want to tell myself to work harder so I can get going again but the other part of me says I worked hard in 2011 and didn't get to reward myself so what's the point.
Anyway, I feel you both. All I know is I need something different in 2013.post #52 of 13512/14/12 at 11:19am
Thanks Dakipode. I never paid that much attention to my O date - just the length of my cycle. So when I used a digi OPK last month - I was surprised that I O'd on CD18 - but it all made sense when I had a 32 day cycle. So now - I'm just trying to catch my O date this month.. so I started testing back on CD10 - just in case. I thought I would see a pattern when looking back the last few months - but there isn't one - long one month, short another. In the last 8 months - were the range of your O dates pretty close or did they vary anywhere in that 11-21 day range?
Yeah - I say "I'm tired" at least once a week.. and I almost always mean emotionally.
And this shooting didn't make it any better. I'm really praying for the families of those poor babies.post #53 of 13512/14/12 at 1:03pm
Alright, so it's settled. 2013 is the year of turning your wheels and covering some serious mileage.
There are SO MANY things happening in my life that involve the turning of wheels and not going anywhere. Career, finances, education, family life... What keeps my head above water is remembering that there are times in our lives when things need to hibernate, gain energy, accumulate, etc. before they come to fruition. It's wondering when/if they will come to fruition that wears me out. That's the rub.
post #54 of 13512/14/12 at 5:19pmThread Starter
Thebyr, for the last year, since I have been on thyroid meds, my O date has varied from 15 to 22 days with the majority of them being on CD 19. My cycle lengths have varied from 27 to 34 days. My LP is usually 12 to 13 days.
Thebyr, my maternal maternal great grandmother had fibroid tumors and that is why she only had one child - my maternal grandmother. My maternal grandmother had four kids but ended up having a hysterectomy because of fibroid tumors. My mom had 7 kids (and 1 miscarriage) and I always figured it would be easy for me to get pregnant. It does always seem that pregnancy announcements come when my AF does. I am tired too because waiting and waiting is hard.
So now for my amazing turn of events. I work for a Christian school as a teacher. On Monday night I was talking with my superintendent and principal about some school related issues. My principal is a man and just moved here this year. The superintendent has known me from my college days when she was a professor at my college. The principal stepped out and I shared very quickly with the superintendent that my DH and I were going to have to go through IVF in order to get pregnant and that it was influencing my decision whether to continue employment at my school next year. My principal came back in and I let the conversation end quickly. We finished our conversation with the three of us and then we departed. My superintendent asked to speak with my privately in my classroom. She asked if finances were influencing our IVF journey. I said they were and that we had a 1/3 of the money saved for the procedure. She told me that from time to time there are some individuals that donate to special causes in our school system and she asked my permission to ask for the remaining money that my DH and I needed to go through with our IVF. I told her that was okay.
On Thursday night, she called me and said that she had asked the finance committee and that they approved giving me two bonus pay checks one in December and one in January or February to cover what out of pocket expenses my DH and I will have for IVF. I was in tears of happiness. DH and I are going to make an appointment to figure out exactly when we will go through with the procedures - either March or June - and exactly what time commitments we are talking about - when I have to go in to get ultrasounds done as follicles grow, then egg retrievel, fertilization, and then egg transfer. Now we can concentrate our money on paying off some more debts so I can stay home with our kids for a few years when they are little. I have to say it is the best Christmas present I could have gotten that wasn't a BFP.
I just have to remember - don't give up, stay positive, keep the faith that the best is yet to come! I hope each of us gets our BFP soon and that more will follow us!post #55 of 13512/14/12 at 5:25pmpost #56 of 13512/14/12 at 5:40pmpost #57 of 13512/14/12 at 7:20pm
Lilac: I'm so happy for you. It's great to hear that there are people out there who want to support you in your journey! It's another step forward for you and I'd love to see you succeed next year!
Thebyr: I ovulate late, anywhere from CD18-28 and my LP has varied from 8-13 days. Overall cycle lengths have been anywhere from 41 to 28 days. I'm in the same boat as you, there doesn't seem to be a predictable pattern. My CM reading is so-so but my temp shift is always very clear so that usually confirms O for me. My cervical signs are mixed so I only look for height, that seems to be the one that's consistent with the other signs, the firmness and openness of my cervix is all over the place... Sorry if that's more than you needed to know.post #58 of 13512/15/12 at 6:22ampost #59 of 13512/15/12 at 9:21am
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