Ouch so many slips and falls! We are a klutzy bunch aren't we! I hope your bum feels better soon maydaymom. I also wish that mine was a different body part so I could post a picture - it's actually AMAZING how many different shades of purple and yellow I can sport on one butt cheek. It feels a LOT better now though.
My DH isn't hugely into the birth thing but I know he'll be a rock once it starts to happen. He went to prenatal classes last time but agreed with me we don't need to this time. He listens well and learns quickly and I don't have any real concerns in that direction. I might suggest he re-read bits of The Birth Partner at some point before I go into labour, but that's about it. He works in the building next to where our doula works and I think knows her well enough that if he had any burning questions he would just go ask her. I feel supported enough with the midwife and doula that I don't feel like DH really has to do much besides just be my friend and companion during labour, and just enjoy (to the extent it's possible!) the miracle of his child coming into the world.
Cabbitdancer, I'm so sorry about your aunt. I have an uncle in a similar state - not that he didn't take good care of himself exactly... he wasn't boozing and smoking and eating his way into an early grave or anything, but he trusted his doctor too much even when there was a lot of evidence that his doctor was totally not on the ball. My uncle tried to ignore symptoms he should have researched even a little bit after his doc said his "bloodwork came back fine" - I don't think he even asked what tests the doc ordered; he'd had colon cancer about a decade ago and I think that's the only thing they were looking at. Then he happened to have an appointment when his regular doc was on vacation, the locum was horrified at his symptoms, ordered a pile more tests and they found that he had advanced (stage 3 or 4) cancer in his liver and his pancreas and the prognosis is sadly not good at all. He visited us in the fall and didn't seem very well - I tried to talk to him a bit about his health but he was really unreceptive and just wanted to outsource all that decision-making to his doctor. My mom is really upset, she is going to see him soon and may well stay with him until the end. She's angry at him too, which is hard. They're not the best family for healthy communications. Stiff-upper-lip brits, if you catch my drift. She says he's just been "uninterested" in his body's workings, even after the colon cancer - whereas my mom hit the internet and asked me & my other sister to do some looking into things too when SHE was diagnosed with (fortunately early-stage) colon cancer earlier this year - she can't understand her brother's "oh well" attitude at ALL and I can't say I really blame her, but their culture DID lean that way. She moved away from Britain in her early 20s and never went back, he stayed there and drank the "obey the authority figures" kool-aid. It's very sad. I've haven't told DD about her great-uncle yet - that's going to be a bit of a rough conversation. She hasn't had anyone she knows die yet.
On a more cheerful topic - rib pain! I had MAJOR rib pain through my last trimester with DD, but I haven't had a whiff of it yet for which I'm grateful. I don't know if it's helpful but I am moving throughout the day (rather than sitting at a desk) much, much more this pregnancy (as in, I don't have a desk job!) and it's also possible that my ribs never went back to their pre-pregnancy positions after DD was born - but I was wearing my old bras without difficulty afterwards so I'm not convinced of that. This baby seems to like hanging out a lot lower down than DD did and seems to be mostly transverse at this stage. I think maybe anything you can do to create more space lower down will help. Hip-opening yoga stuff, lots of stretches for legs, calves, hamstrings? Have a good long talk with the baby and explain how much better your relationship would be if he/she would just move DOWN?? (Okay that never worked for me. But it can't hurt right?)
My hips are very achy today - I'm not sure if it's because of the long-ish hike I did yesterday or that I tried some rye bread to see how I tolerated it. I think grains, especially grain fibres, are quite inflammatory for me - I had my plantar fasciitis clear up completely when I removed them from my diet a few years ago (wasn't the purpose of removing them, it just happened incidentally, and quite quickly). So I suspect that the rye bread (which does have a small amount of wheat in it) might not work for me. I really, really just want to be able to occasionally have soft-boiled eggs and toast soldiers for breakfast... and I'm worried that my weight has started to drop and I don't really want that, but carbs are the only way I can keep it on and if I can't have white carbs due to the GD, I need something and there are only so many vegetables I can fit in my wee tummy. What's worse, achy hips that curtail my walking and make my sleep crappy, or losing weight? I was 10-20 lbs overweight when I got pregnant so technically I can "afford" it but I kind of wanted that padding - I felt drained after DD was born and wished I'd had an extra 10 lbs of something to fall back on. I really don't know. The rye bread had no effect on my blood sugar levels, which is good - but if it's going to make me achy and hurty, I don't want to eat it. It's not like it's super-yummy or anything, it's just a vehicle for cheese, butter or egg yolk.
Good luck to those doing the GTT soon!