thanks, mamaprovides (and she does!). great pointers.
with my first one, it was a simple conversation at night, at 18 months, that led to pain-free night weaning. but my younger one has pretty much told me in no uncertain terms that she is always going to be a baby. no interest at all in becoming a "big girl". so, that promise is far from a temptation for her.
as for talking about it, i have, and we continue to talk about it - but at night it will sometimes turn into a a series of arguments and reluctant boob offerings - all happy, but completely unproductive because it leaves me dehydrated and unwell and her, well, sort of unsatisfied.
since i tore my knee, i tried telling her that since i was sick, there would be no mama milk. but seemingly happy as she seems, i will overhear a conversation between the girls with the younger one telling her sister that she is sad, because "mama milk is all gone". and then there are the moments when all hell will break loose and she will simply go on strike from mama because she thinks i am so wickedly with-holding something so dear to her.
today i told her that god took all the milk away, and i am sad about it too. (nice to be able to blame a third party!). and i really am, sad. but literally, i feel like i am breaking down.
as for health....god knows what the issue is. i think extended lack of sleep (co-sleep), coupled with other stressors, and leaching of nutrients and minerals, all contribute to my general lack of health.
at this point my milk should taste vile, but you should see how happy it makes her if she even gets the "just a tiny bit, mama" amount she begs for.
i feel like she is really truly sad about not getting her milk. :(
tonight she went to sleep holding my hair, like her older sister. but i feel miserable about her falling asleep feeling so sad.
hopefully, like you said, time will heal all wounds.