I was with a man for 2 plus years. About 8 months into it, I began to feel emotionally cheated on. I believe that he would never physically cheat, but was concerned about the woman he was into before me. He told me that he "killed" his feelings for her, but had called her periodically in our relationship. He claimed that they had been friends for 8 years and so he liked to call and see how she was doing.
Our relationship went south and ended recently. I could not get past feeling emotionally cheated on and thinking that he always wanted others. He was always looking wemon up and down in front of me. It got to the point that I hated being naked around him. He always pointed out everyones physical flaws and it made me feel inhibited.
We broke up 3 months ago and within 3 weeks he was calling that same girl and going to visit her at the bar she works at. She gave him some sob story about needing a place to stay and so he let her stay the night twice. She slept on the couch and I believe this to be true because I saw the sleeping arrangement before I knew of any of this. I know we were broken up but I feel betrayed. He wants to work on us and I would like to but am unsure about it.
If she was always just his friend, why did he go straight to her after we split? Why is she no longer around now that we are dating? And he said "I could have slept with her if I wanted to." I am just not sure how to proceed.
I live in a small town and have to see her periodically, it is hurts me.
I have asked him alot of questions about why this all happened. He is tired of my questioning and has given me an ultimatum to either get over it and trust him or quit seeing him. I find it disrespectful that it is on his terms. HELP!