Hello ladies! I have been reading threads on here for a while and love hearing everybody's stories and concerns, but I thought maybe I should join and start asking my own questions! I am due in 13 days and am starting to worry! Here's my situation: 18 months ago I gave birth to my beautiful daughter and she was PERFECT, but the birthing experience was far from it! I was induced at 41 weeks, 3 days. I hated being induced, and it just went downhill from there. I was hooked to monitors, so I had no choice but to labor on the bed. I wasn't allowed to eat anything even though I was starving, I had random nurses popping in and out to check on this or that, I felt like I was being treated like a sick person... (I know, this is all standard hospital-birth protocol, but I hated it!) When I finally gave birth, my doctor did an episiotomy, which I had specifically told her not to do and there were about 10 people in the room (not friends and family!) when she arrived. Anyway, I could go on all day about how much I hated the whole experience of the birth and the following week they made her stay in the Neonatal Care Unit, but that is all in the past now! I am ready for a HOMEBIRTH!
I am the youngest of four. My mom had three of us at home, and loved it. She gave birth to me standing up and said it was SO much easier/better, she wished she had thought of it 3 babies earlier! Anyway, so I wanted to have a midwife and deliver at home, but we ran into issues with that. A few months ago, we moved from MN to MD and ran into a whole new set of laws! I still don't understand all of the laws (so if anyone out there is from Maryland, I would love to know what homebirth regulations actually are for the state!), but best I can figure, midwives who aren't registered nurses cannot legally deliver at home. There are only 2-3 midwives in the area who are qualified and they seem to be super-booked and expensive. (Have no idea if my health coverage would cover a midwife.) Basically, we have run out of time for finding a midwife or checking on insurance and whatever, since my son could be born any day now! We hadn't been planning on doing this unassisted, but then we figured, why not?!?
We found a website (In His Hands Birthing Supplies) and ordered a whole box of stuff for the delivery (pads and cord clamps and alcohol wipes, etc). We have also been trying to glean as much info as possible from the internet. On one hand, I feel like birth is so natural it will happen no matter how much planning and preparing we do, but on the other hand, I am worried we might not recognize a serious issue if it arises. We have read about prolapsed cords, babies born not breathing (I was born bluish-grey and not breathing, but the midwife and my dad revived me without a problem), and a few other things, but I wonder if there is more we should know or should be doing to prepare ourselves. Any suggestions? If you have any links to useful info, I would LOVE that!
What happens if I tear? Would this be more likely because of my previous episiotomy, or does that have no real impact? Will it just heal perfectly on its own if I do, or is there something I'll need to do for it? I have heard there are things to do to help avoid tearing, anyone have suggestions?
My baby boy was breech at about 36 weeks, but he flipped around. My OB/GYN said there is no guarantee he won't flip again. How do I handle that?
Oh, and speaking of my OB/GYNs, (yes, more than one. They wanted me to meet all the docs in the clinic because they have no idea who will be on call when I go into labor!) they have no idea that I am planning to deliver at home! I debated telling them, but I hate how so many doctors act like they are the law and I feel like they will "yell" at me for it, so I am going with the "it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission" approach! :) They also don't know that I am planning to go to my brother-in-law's wedding 4 hours away 2 days before I am due! I have only had a few appointments, since we only moved here recently and it took a lifetime to get insurance, so I really don't feel all that comfortable with them yet. I hope to find midwife care next time around!
Sorry I went on so long. I just feel a little alone here and need some reassurance. I have a made a few friends since we moved here, but most of our friends and family are many, many hours away. :( An online community like this helps! :)
Thanks in advance for any input, suggestions, or reassurance!!