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After nearly 10 years, life is getting better...

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I am a SM.  We are a military family, so we move a lot.  The first 9 years, I tried to be a friend to my SD's BM.  All that wound up happening is adding unneeded stress for me.  She wound up using and abusing my friendship.  It was always a sob story of why she needed more money, and more money.  Then she started stealing from me, b/c we were "friends" and I wouldn't take her to jail for it.  Eventually, I just couldn't take all of that and the yelling from from her, when I started standing up for myself.  She would always scream about whatever, b/c she couldn't get mad at what was really making mad.  "I have children of my own, so I can't worry about her other 6 kids before mine!"

Now, we don't speak.  It is wonderful.  We were never "friends".  All that stress for all those years was so unneeded. 

My SD is older now, and she and I text every day.  Her dad and her don't text, but he's a man.  I snap pics of him for her, and she thinks it is hillarious.  He would just die.  My SD thinks it's fun... 

I just had to share that sometimes it's better to just stepback!!  Maybe my SD and my relationship are as good as they are b/c the perception that her mom and I were friends helped up.  I'm not sure, but it helps me cope with all that heartache helped up be where my SD and I are today...

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Well, it looked like I was happy months ago. Then I talked to her mother about my SDs BDay. Soon after that she needed lots of Money. In the month of March, in one week she received 3 payments vs 1 b/c she was so upset. March is my SDs bday month. Of course I don't wont her doing without. Now my life is in shambles again.
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She gets what she wants and then treats me like trash when I dont' give her anymore.
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