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"You've never had a c-section!? Ever???"

post #1 of 13
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Went to one doctor's apt this week and the nurse comes in and does part of my check up... filling out some paperwork and she looks up and asks me how I delivered my other children.  I said vaginally, all three of the kids.  And she looked at me all crazy and was like "You've never had a c-section???"  I was like no, why?  She's like well you'll have one this time with twins....  I rolled my eyes at her and politely informed her that my body was created to deliver my babies, and regardless of whether they were breech or not, I felt I could still deliver them naturally.  She gave me a crazy look and kept her mouth shut.  Now.... I will have a csection should there be any concern that the babies are in danger, I just felt the need to tell her that not everyone opts for a csection.  Geez.

post #2 of 13

Sorry, sounds like a bad appt.  Since the C-section rate at hospitals is around 33%, she probably assumed that since you have 3 kids, at least one would be delivered C-section.  Hopefully your doctor is supportive of you delivering the twins vaginally... the nurse sounds like she does not.

post #3 of 13
Bummer, hope it didn't ruffle your feathers too much. And I'm glad you said something.

After my one hospital birth the nurses were all talking about my uninduced, unmedicated, natural birth like it was big news. Sadly, I guess it was. Always makes me think of that scene in the Business of Being Born when they ask how many natural births they had seen and there was a long silence while they tried to recall if they'd ever seen one. :-/
post #4 of 13
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Originally Posted by odinsmama View Post

Bummer, hope it didn't ruffle your feathers too much. And I'm glad you said something.
After my one hospital birth the nurses were all talking about my uninduced, unmedicated, natural birth like it was big news. Sadly, I guess it was. Always makes me think of that scene in the Business of Being Born when they ask how many natural births they had seen and there was a long silence while they tried to recall if they'd ever seen one. :-/

that scares me a bit, since this is my first birth and we're having it in a hospital. we're meeting with a doula next weekend, which is more of what my husband wants since he's worried about the rates of intervention in hospitals (i'm on the fence about a doula since i don't like being around people i don't know and this is a very personal thing obviously). if everything is good, no meds, no anything- i don't want it offered to me and i'll probably freak out on someone if they even mention meds. 

post #5 of 13
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Originally Posted by kellybeth View Post

that scares me a bit, since this is my first birth and we're having it in a hospital. we're meeting with a doula next weekend, which is more of what my husband wants since he's worried about the rates of intervention in hospitals (i'm on the fence about a doula since i don't like being around people i don't know and this is a very personal thing obviously). if everything is good, no meds, no anything- i don't want it offered to me and i'll probably freak out on someone if they even mention meds. 

Sorry, didn't intend for it to scare anyone. greensad.gif

If your hubby is on the same page as you and will be vocal about it if anyone is pushing anything, you'll be fine.

I managed to succeed in getting the birth I wanted, for the most part, and that was very much possible only because DH was there for me and helped me to be vocal.
Before being in labor, I thought I'd be kicking anyone who came near me with anything I didn't want but that just wasn't the case. DH knew what I wanted and helped me stick with it. A doula probably would have been nice as well, if there was a good relationship.

You can totally do it. It's your birth.
Embrace any support you have, be it hubby or doula or both. smile.gif
post #6 of 13

I had a great natural birth in a hospital so it's possible! Basically echoing everything odinsmama said... if you have solid support in place, you'll be fine!

post #7 of 13

I also had a great natural birth in the hospital with DS1. I actually WAS induced (42 weeks and 4 cm's dilated, hooked up to Pit until my water broke around 6 cm's and then unhooked from everything and labored completely on my own from there on out.. it was more of a "jump start" than anything).. but was able to deliver a healthy 9 lb'er epidural/pain med free. We were a little famous those few days in the hospital. Not to mention DS1 was SUPER cute and very alert, and had the most awesome spikey hair.

post #8 of 13

blowkiss.gif thank you mamas. my hubby and i are on the same page. he also knows how bad i want to utilize the tub in the room-the hospital actually has a huge tub to help labor along, so that helps. they let you use the tub until you're 8cm dilated, and i'm okay with that. i really wanted a home water birth, but for my husband's sake, who has(had, now) no idea what birth is like and was scared to death of something going wrong, we decided on the hospital. if this birth goes well, i'm sure i can coax him into a home birth next time. 

post #9 of 13

My wonderful husband is the only reason i didn't get sectioned on my first.  Support is key!  My sister who is a L&D nurse called natural birth plans "guaranteed c-sections"- so there is a lot of truth to the rumor that hospitals might not be the most supportive of natural labor.

 

i managed almost 30 hours of labor in the hospital before interventions.  That is a long time- and after that long of not eating, you need interventions.  My husband was so good and really helped me through that.  I'm glad we did that b/c i now know back labor, and also know i can do 16 hours of it w/out support or even anyone knowing that i'm in pain.  which gave me so much encouragement for going natural the next 3 times.  

 

my 2nd was a natural hospital birth and it was wonderful, quick and simple.  but i was also a 2nd time mother and they were much more laid back about everything since i had 'proven' myself.  

 

after the 2 hospital births, my husband was totally on board w/ homebirth.  after 2 homebirths, he's converted.   he preaches homebirth to all his daddy and daddy-to-be friends!  he was really impressed with the professionalism, and support of the homebirth midwives vs. the hospital, where he felt he had to fight for me.  he did fight for me, both times, but he'd rather not be fighting in labor!  he prefers to hold my hand and let everything go smoothly.

post #10 of 13

House of Peace, your husband sounds so much like mine! He talks much more about home birth than I do, and has always been pretty excitable when it comes to that subject. I know if I ever had to go to a hospital for birth, he'd be right there making sure everything goes according to how we feel is right, rather than going with the flow.

post #11 of 13

KellyBeth, I just wanted to chime in that I also had a wonderful natural hospital birth with my son (and have seen all kinds of amazing births, natural or not and at home and hospital as a doula!). I really loved my birth with him: my husband and I were left to labor mostly on our own, and had a great birth tub/shower/squatting stools/etc to help us out. And that was after quite a lot of very painful prodromal labor...it took me forever to get to 4 inches, but then things sped up a bit.

 

I'm doing the hospital birth thing again this time, partly because I really enjoyed my son's delivery!

post #12 of 13
Thread Starter 

Oh my dh is all about voicing his opinion.  He's the one that makes up signs for babies basinets that say NO BOTTLES, NO PACIFIERS, etc.  He also follows the babies to the nursery to refuse shots, eye drops etc, and refuses to leave the baby alone so no one messes with them  :)  He was also really good during labor telling them what we want, didn't want, etc.  I'm not worried about the delivery, I just don't think c sections should be the norm, natural birth should be!

post #13 of 13
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Originally Posted by kellybeth View Post

blowkiss.gif thank you mamas. my hubby and i are on the same page. he also knows how bad i want to utilize the tub in the room-the hospital actually has a huge tub to help labor along, so that helps. they let you use the tub until you're 8cm dilated, and i'm okay with that. i really wanted a home water birth, but for my husband's sake, who has(had, now) no idea what birth is like and was scared to death of something going wrong, we decided on the hospital. if this birth goes well, i'm sure i can coax him into a home birth next time. 


Just some perspective for you, in case you're still talking with your husband about this....

 

When I was pregnant with my now-4 year old, I was super conservative in approaching home birth. I was feeling drawn to it, and researched it enough to know that the statistics are all totally great in terms of home birth safety for mother and baby outcomes for low-risk mamas, but still, I felt like on some level I just couldn't make the call on my own.  So I researched all the hospitals in the area, and met with a nurse midwife recommended to me by someone on the mothering forum, thinking I'd probably end up birthing in the hospital if I liked her vibe.  I totally hit it off with her, and was thinking this seemed like a good plan. Then I mentioned to her that we had been considering home birth. She said, and I quote, "Oh, if you're considering a home birth, you should do a home birth."  My mouth was probably hanging open. I really liked her, and was ready to work with her, and here she was--a nurse that delivers in the hospital-- telling me I should do a home birth!

 

It was so great to have my husband right there with me, to hear this.  She said that she and all of her fellow midwives in the practice opted for home births for their own babies.  Even at this hospital with an 8% C-section rate (the lowest in the area), and birth tubs in the delivery rooms, she said "A hospital birth will never be like a home birth."  I didn't fully get it at the time, but I do now. The home birth atmosphere really made the delivery easier, I think, than it would have been in the hospital, physically. The body knows how to open within the safety of the home nest. Like any animal.

 

We did a home birth in the end, of course, and it was one of the most positive experiences of my life. My husband still talks about it as one of the most peaceful experiences of his life.  I had back labor, and still, without hesitation, can say I actually enjoyed the labor, and am definitely doing it again with this babe!  

 

My final answer to the safety question was 1) having a nurse midwife tell me to do it, and 2) the whole "if you're within half an hour of a hospital, you might as well be en-route to the hospital instead of waiting in your hospital delivery room for the doctor to prep, if you do need an emergency C-section" argument.

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