So, this is something that I experience a couple times each year, and I never know what to do...
I should start by saying that I had both of my babies at home, with a midwife, and in the process became really well-educated on the subject. Whenever I hear some one saying something that I know is against evidence, but is recommended by the dr, I don't know how far to go.
Here is an example. My friend's daughter (whom I barely know) was past due with her first baby. My friend texted me to tell me that they were planning an induction at 41 + 3 because the dr was concerned that the baby would be too big for her to deliver.
The first thoughts that ran through my head were the following:
1) Inductions have a higher rate of c-section and forceps use.
2) The average length of a first pregnancy is 41 + 3!! (I looked up the study where I read this to confirm that I remembered correctly.)
3) Estimated weight at the end of pregnancy has a TWO POUND margin of error (and, seriously, how much bigger could the baby get in another week?)
Then I thought...what do I tell my friend? I thought about this for days....and ended up just texting her back to say that I was praying for a peaceful delivery. I really don't know the daughter, and didn't know all the details, probably.
Well, they did the induction.
The baby was only 8.5 lbs. I personally know four women who had eleven-pound babies without needing stitches (and the mom and the grandma both keep talking about how big he is...)
The mom avoided a c-section, but had a deep episiotomy and hemmorhoids from pushing. I really believe that if her doctor had just waited for her body to be ready, she would have avoided these injuries. I feel really guilty now for not saying anything, but I also didn't want to invade her privacy.
Where do you draw the line? If the mom in this situation was your best friend, would you have offered unsolicited advice? What if she was a stranger you overheard at a coffee shop?