Im a teen mother and PROUD!

[ImAMommy]

Hi, im a teen mother. I am 17. I have 18 month twin girls, Kadence and Breanne, and i am pregnant with a little boy to be named Evan!

[Dar]

I generally don't make generalizations about a group of people based on their age.

Some teens are good parents. Some teens are crappy parents. Some 30 year olds are good parents. Some thirty year olds are crappy parents.

I do think there are factors that can make being a good parent harder, like being single or poor or not having good parents yourself or having a serious health problem. I think people with one or more of these factors can be and often are good parents, but it's harder.

Dar

[mamaley]

i agree with dar.
congrats on your pregnancy!

[lilmiss'mama]

I voted for #2. And I agree with Dar's post.
I will add that I think teens should be doing other things at this time in their life other than raising kids. IMO, they are still kids themselves and should be experiencing life and having responsiblities only to themselves. There is plenty of time, for most people, to have kids later on in life. I don't feel hostile towards teen parents, but sometimes I do feel sad for them. Having kids is such a major thing and to me teen years shouldn't be so heavy. But at the same time I have heard those stories from teen parents about how having a baby totally changed their life for the better, so I don't know everything happens for a reason and everyone's story is different. But, if we are just speaking in general, I don't think teens should have babies, responsible or not.

eta: I do wish you the best of luck. Blessings to you and your babes.

[boycrazy]

Welcome to Mothering, I hope you find this place a good resource. I agree with Dar also that age does not define good parents but there are definatly challenges to having kids when you are not finished with school or on your own. Best wishes and again welcome.

[mrzmeg]

Hi, Em! Congrats on your pregnancy

I totally agree with the other posts. I was a bit older---19 when I got pregnant with my ds and now I'm 21. Being a young mother does present special challenges, especially if you choose to parent outside the mainstream; a lot of folks are just downright mean about both counts. But I have to say I'm a sight better mom than a lot of moms two decades my senior, and vice versa. Age doesn't have a lot to do with mommy-ability. I think it's a shock and a learning experience no matter how old you are when motherhood comes to you.

I hope you stick around MDC a while and get to know the boards a bit. There's a lot to learn here!

[aka_angelz]

congrats!i think as long asd your a good mother n do wut needs to be done,it doesnt matter ur age i am aloso a teen mom im 19 years ol,w 2 young ones.one just turned 5 months!i have her on my lap right now so sorry for the bad typing.lol.pm me if u waana chat!id love to speak w a fellow t mom!

[Colorful~Mama]

agreeing with the others - and welcoming you to the boards. There are great teen moms and awful teen moms. and great 35yo moms and awful 35yo moms

that said - my dd is turning 15 in october and i do hope she doens't choose to have sex or get pregnant for a very long time. Not that she wouldn't/won't be an awesome mama - she will be indeed! But i'd love for her to have the rest of her own childhood first. College if she wants it, travel... maybe we'll find some way to send her overseas for a month (gramma might help?) or vocational school. Dating/Courting. A career if she wants it. I'd love for her to have all those things before she ventures into the lifetime committment into motherhood.

rambling. anyway, congrats on your twins and your pregnancy. I hope you'll enjoy the boards here and find wonderful friends and support