At night she sleeps 4-6 hour stretches so I know I really can't even complain at all because I've already lucked out. But during the day I really cannot get ANYTHING done. If she's awake, she wants to be eating. She's not a baby that nurses for 15 minutes on each side and is done for an hour or two- literally if her eyes are open, she's eating. She will not unlatch unless she fell asleep, and even then she tends to stay latched on and suck every once in a while. SO can comfort/distract her for maybe 10-15 minutes at night with bouncing, music, etc...so that I can at least get a shower in, but that doesn't always work. I can't really get anything done during the day because she wakes up if I put her down. My doula gave us a swing and it's been a lifesaver because I can sometimes get 15-20 minutes to do laundry or dishes if she'll stay asleep, but if she is awake, it does nothing to comfort her.
When I was pregnant I always thought "Well I'll just wear her" but...that hasn't proved to be as easy as it sounds. We have three carriers...the New Native Baby Carrier is nice for discreet nursing when we're out of the house but it's by no means a hands free nursing carrier, and when she's asleep in it, she hangs too low and it hurts my shoulders and my tummy (my tummy/uterus is still fairly tender so having that weight against it hurts after a bit), so I can't wear her in that while I do stuff around the house. The moby wrap is nice, I like how snug it holds her and she does sleep well in it, IF I can get it on fast enough! But usually by the time I get it wrapped and ready, she's angry and wants to nurse to calm down, and there doesn't seem to be any carries with that that I can nurse her in. So, I end up having to sit back down, nurse her, and then when she falls back asleep I can get her in the Moby. The Ergo I like, she seems to like it...I should try that one out more I guess. It's not super easy to nurse her in that yet, either.
My house is falling apart, though, and more importantly than that, I feel like I am kind of falling apart. On the rare occasion that she'll sleep for an hour in the swing instead of on me, I feel like a whole new person, because I have some time to just kind of regather, eat a meal easily, sip some tea, and maybe put some laundry away. But on days, like today, where the longest I was able to put her down for was about 15 minutes earlier this afternoon, it just gets very wearing. I absolutely adore her, and I love nursing, and I really don't mind spending hours doing it...I just wanna be able to pee every once in a while without feeling guilty because she's crying! It's also hard to go out, which is what I was expecting with a newborn anyway, and it's hard to have visitors or go to other people's houses because they want to hold her and they make comments about how she doesn't like them, how maybe she is spoiled, maybe she is just gassy, "Does she have a pacifier?", "Man, she eats for a long time"...because like I said, if she is awake, she wants to be eating. I know she's normal and that I'm doing the right thing by meeting her needs however she needs me to, but it's frustrating to hear comments, especially when I'm around people who didn't breastfeed, or haven't had a newborn in decades, or feel that babies need to be "trained". People try to swaddle her (which she hates) and then hold her like a baby and rock her (which she also hates...for the few minutes a day when she is awake and not eating, she wants to be upright and looking around), and they don't get why it makes her scream.
So, I'm looking for two things- one, if you had a LO with similar needs, at what age did things seem to change a little? And what did you do/how did you cope when their needs were so high?