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Ask away!  

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post #2 of 23

Hello Maydaymom! 

 

Is this your first baby? If not, are you plans for this birth different than previous birth(s)?

post #3 of 23
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I would love to one day be a birth worker...  What inspired you to follow that path?  You are a doula and attended a recent birth as a midwife assistant (Right?  I don't know if I know that from here of from facebook.).  Where do you see your career as a birth attendant going?  Do you plan on becoming a hb midwife one day?  Do tell!  :D

 

Also, how did you choose your MDC user name?

post #4 of 23

Hello!

Does your work as a doula/midwife assistant effect the way you birth or your plans for your upcoming birth?

post #5 of 23
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Originally Posted by Melany View Post

Hello Maydaymom! 

 

Is this your first baby? If not, are you plans for this birth different than previous birth(s)?

This is actually my second baby. I have a 2.5 yo son - Liam. We had Liam at a free standing birth center, and while it was a great experience, I really wanted to have a homebirth this time. So, that's what we're planning. I feel like I can mentally plan for this birth a little better this time, since I know a little more what to expect. That being said, you know that something totally unexpected will happen during this birth. orngbiggrin.gif  I had a tough recovery with Liam's birth due to a nasty tear, and have always felt that I didn't get a chance to really do the immediate bonding after he was born because there was so much attention on me, transferring me, etc. I'm hoping to get that experience this time and really enjoy the immediate moments after birth with the new baby, instead of worrying about me.

post #6 of 23
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Originally Posted by jodieanneanton View Post

I would love to one day be a birth worker...  What inspired you to follow that path?  You are a doula and attended a recent birth as a midwife assistant (Right?  I don't know if I know that from here of from facebook.).  Where do you see your career as a birth attendant going?  Do you plan on becoming a hb midwife one day?  Do tell!  :D

 

Also, how did you choose your MDC user name?

 

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Originally Posted by cocoanib View Post

Hello!

Does your work as a doula/midwife assistant effect the way you birth or your plans for your upcoming birth?

 

I figured I respond to both since they are similar & connected.

 

First - Jodie - my username comes from when I was pregnant with DS. His original EDD was May 1st. He decided to wait until the 6th to come (went into labor on the 5th), but I just never changed the username. 

 

I was inspired to start looking into working as a doula about 2 years ago, which is funny because I didn't have a doula at the birth of my son. I had some experience "coaching" a few of my friends through their pregnancies and then being somewhat of a "mobile doula" with my sister during the birth of her fourth child because she decide that she wanted to try it naturally. I got such a thrill out of that experience, and then add my obsession with birth in general, and it just seemed like a natural course. I didn't complete my doula training until last April and am still really green when it comes to working. I've attended two births as a doula so far, and both of those were hospital births. It quickly became clear during those two births that although I love supporting women in that situation, I'm personally just not comfortable in that environment. Last summer I heard about women who work as monitrices/midwives assistants and I was intrigued. I have a medical background from working as an athletic trainer (albeit in orthopedics, not OB) and was missing some of the hands-on aspects of birth work that you can't do as a doula. I've looked into pursuing midwifery, but for now that is just not a good fit for our family. My current midwife needed another person to work with her as an assistant, she asked me because of my interest in midwifery & my background. Last week was my first birth as an assistant, and it was wonderful. I think that there is definitely a way to combine the assistant and doula roles, and I'm hoping that with experience I can find that balance. For now, I'm planning on completing a midwife assistant program through Birth Arts Int'l -- I'm hoping someday that I'll be able to travel to The Farm (Ina May Gaskin) and attend the program that she hold there. 

 

As far as my training affecting my birth -- yes, it does. I feel I'm more knowledgeable about what to expect during birth, but I also know that all the info in my head will go away once I'm in labor. I'm trying to pass on some of the support techniques to my husband, but so far he's not too interested. He puts up with my obsession of attending births for now. We're still deciding if we'll actually have a doula at our birth. As much as I love being a doula, I also know that I prefer to labor alone. Luckily I have plenty of new friends to call on if we decide to have someone come. 

post #7 of 23
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How did you meet your DH?  How long have you been together?  What makes you two "work" together? 

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What sort of training did you do as an athletic trainer - what kind of clientele (elite, fitness, rehab, etc?)  Besides the hands-on stuff, what do you miss about working in the field and what are you glad to leave behind?  Have you considered combining athletic training and prenatal care?

post #9 of 23

In addition to Jodie's questions about your husband - what does he do?

 

What kind of exercise are you doing at this point in your pregnancy (curious because you have the athletic training background)?

post #10 of 23

I find it interesting about your thoughts on being a doula in hospitals. I have considered becoming a doula, but I would have a hard time in a hospital setting and I know I could not just limit my clients to home birth or birth center mamas. I would love to be a midwife or assistant, but it seems like a really tough thing to do with young kids at home.

 

Anyway... do you have any projects you would like to finish before the baby comes? Crafts, around the house, anything really?

post #11 of 23
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Originally Posted by jodieanneanton View Post

How did you meet your DH?  How long have you been together?  What makes you two "work" together? 

I actually met my husband on Match.com. lol.gif  The funny thing about it was that my profile had kept coming through his inbox, but he claims that my profile picture wasn't too flattering. When I contacted him, he decided to give me a shot & was pleasantly surprised. We met at Starbucks for coffee, moved to a restaurant for dinner, and the rest is history. We've been together since 2003, but didn't get married until 2008. This is the first marriage for both of us & we like to think that we both spent plenty of time getting to know ourselves and each other before getting hitched. As far as what makes us "work" - we're both pretty independent and respect that about each other. We love, of course, to spend time together but also respect each other's need to have some down time for ourselves to pursue interests that the other one just doesn't have. We're close and can talk things through and because of this we rarely have and big fights. Of course we have our peeves with one another, but we work through them and are generally a very content couple. Although we could use a bigger social life.

 

 

 

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In addition to Jodie's questions about your husband - what does he do?

chocolatechip - DH is a software engineer - he writes code. Right now he is working for a consulting company and is contracted out to smaller companies to help with short-term projects. His current project has perfect timing, in that it's over in March. We're hoping that this baby cooperates and the end of the project & the birth will coincide. Which means, of course, it won't.

post #12 of 23
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What sort of training did you do as an athletic trainer - what kind of clientele (elite, fitness, rehab, etc?)  Besides the hands-on stuff, what do you miss about working in the field and what are you glad to leave behind?  Have you considered combining athletic training and prenatal care?

 

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Originally Posted by chocolatechip View Post

 

What kind of exercise are you doing at this point in your pregnancy (curious because you have the athletic training background)?

 

I get the athletic training question alot, and my actual profession is often misunderstood. Spughy, in Canada they call us "athletic therapist". I don't know why the US hasn't adopted that name, because it makes more sense. I've worked mostly with college and high school athletes in my career. I basically have training in a few different areas that all revolve around athletic injuries. So, if an athlete hurts her ankle, I can asses the injury, rehabilitate the injury, tape the ankle, and recondition the athlete for return to play. In addition to the athletic training certification, I am also a certified personal trainer although I am really just recently getting into training people one-on-one for fitness. As far as what I miss -- this is going to sound sick and wrong, but I miss the thrill of being on the sidelines of a game and being to assess and injury the moment after it happens. There is a certain rush that you get from seeing someone get hurt and then being able to immediately run out to help them. It's also rewarding to know that you had a hand in their recovery when they are able to return to play. I would still be doing it, but the hours are just odd and it meant a lot of time away from my family. I may return to it when my kids are older.

 

I am working right now on combining my knowledge of athletic training and prenatal care. I am working on a prenatal/postnatal fitness specialist certification. Right now I'm hoping that I can work with pregnant and postpartum women on fitness, injuries/conditions that come up during pregnancy and after birth, and then possibly combine doula/midwife assisting in there as well. I've started teaching some nutrition and fitness classes at a local pregnancy center, and although it's slow going right now (the center is fairly new), there is a lot of opportunity there. 

 

chocolatechip - the ironic thing about all of this is that I've really struggled this pregnancy with my own fitness routine. I was really good when I was pregnant with DS doing cardio, resistance training, or yoga most days. This time I've been so tired and have been struggling with some injuries (sciatica and now a fractured tailbone) that it's been difficult to get a workout in. It's a strange place to be when you know everything that you're supposed to be doing, but find yourself running into the same excuses that your clients have for not doing it. It's a daily process for me right now. When I do workout I've been keeping it low impact with walking, resistance training, and occasionally some yoga. One of the classes I teach is under the Stroller Strides franchise, so I've been going to those classes as well. Before DS was born, I was a competitive rower, and am looking forward to getting back into the sport after this baby comes.

post #13 of 23
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Originally Posted by sarah2881 View Post

I find it interesting about your thoughts on being a doula in hospitals. I have considered becoming a doula, but I would have a hard time in a hospital setting and I know I could not just limit my clients to home birth or birth center mamas. I would love to be a midwife or assistant, but it seems like a really tough thing to do with young kids at home.

 

Anyway... do you have any projects you would like to finish before the baby comes? Crafts, around the house, anything really?

The young kids at home is what is stopping me from more midwifery studies at this point. And even the doula work has been difficult. DH isn't 100% sure about my work as a doula and it's tough when I have to leave my son for 12+ hours. I'm not sure when I'll be ready to go back after the baby comes because of this.

 

Crafts. Oh, I have this inner crafter that wants so much to come out but it just never happens. I would love to learn to knit or sew and be able to make cute things for this little girl. For now our big project is finishing the basement. We have another contractor coming tonight and I'm hoping that this one will work out so we can get started. We need the finish the basement so we can move my husband's hobby room down there & then get that room ready for DS to move into. I feel like I can't really plan DS's room or even changes to the nursery until the basement is done.

post #14 of 23
Thread Starter 

what is your favorite childhood memory? :D

 

When you were a child, how many kids did you want?  How many do you want now? :D

post #15 of 23

What surprised you about your first birth?

 

What has surprised you about being a mother?

post #16 of 23

Thanks for answering so in depth about your path to being a doula and birth worker.

Our doula paths are very similar.

P.S- DH and I met on Match.com as well :)

post #17 of 23

Hooray for internet romance! Another one here. Though we met on OKCupid. smile.gif

 

I think prenatal/postnatal fitness training sounds like a great path. The woman who runs the yoga studio I've been going to has been realizing that she *really* loves the prenatal yoga part the most, and creating a community and gathering resources for pregnant women. And then she has yoga classes for moms and babies, as well as kids classes later. It's really nice to feel like there's a series of exercise classes that are geared specifically for where I am in life right now. And it would be great if the gym had something similar as well! So I think it's awesome that you're finding a way to combine all of your interests. smile.gif

 

I am actually glad to hear that fitness people have trouble with exercise too. wink1.gif But I hope your various injuries heal up well, so you can move when you want to!

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what is your favorite childhood memory? :D

 

When you were a child, how many kids did you want?  How many do you want now? :D

Favorite childhood memory... hmmm. That's a really hard one. I don't know if it's a specific memory or something that I look back fondly on now. My dad is kind of like Clarke Griswold, in that he just loves his family and wants to spend as much time possible with them. Because of this, we were always doing family car trips in the summer. Loading up the '80s station wagon and heading across country. I think I've been to every fort in the US because of him. One year he bought a pop-up trailer and we headed to California to attend my half-brother's graduation. He had booked all of the "campgrounds" according the the AAA guidebook. One KOA we stayed at was described a have trees and a swimming pool. When we got there, the KOA had obviously just opened. The tree were new plantlings still held up by string. And the pool wasn't even finished yet. Luckily my family is also very good at charades to keep up occupied. Another time we pulled into our campground only to find it was called "Kitty Campground & Truck Wash". It was literally a truck wash with "campsite" in a parking lot. Dad sprung for a Holiday Inn that night. And it had a pool!!

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What surprised you about your first birth?

 

What has surprised you about being a mother?

I expected myself to be the world's greatest pusher. I was going to have a normal labor, and then just be this almighty pusher who gets her baby out in like  5 contractions. That so didn't happen. I sucked pushing with DS. Part of it was because I was exhausted from being in labor for 27 hours (natural). The other part was that it downright hurt in the place I was supposed to push and I didn't want to do it. When I finally gave in and just sucked it up, he was born. Also, I never thought I'd give birth on a birthing stool and I did. I really dislike that thing, even though it worked.

 

As a mother, I'm actually surprised how patient I am. I loose my cool from time to time, but somehow I've adopted a style of parenting where I am calm, listen to child, and also try to talk to him about his feelings. I didn't plan to use this type of parenting, but that's what has happened. 

post #20 of 23
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Originally Posted by cocoanib View Post

Thanks for answering so in depth about your path to being a doula and birth worker.

Our doula paths are very similar.

P.S- DH and I met on Match.com as well :)

Yay - for both Match.com marriages & also someone who can relate to my birth worker journey!  biggrinbounce.gif

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