Everywhere we read we are told that we MUST put the twins on a schedule.
And some of the advice sounds very good on the surface. Like, if they eat at the same time then you will have some time during the day when you are not feeding a baby. Or if they sleep/nap at the same time then you will have time to rest, have "me" time, nap, shower, etc.
BUT. We never really did a schedule with our DD. Or I guess we did, but after her natural schedule showed we just helped her to adhere to it to get the optimal rest, etc. Like, she basically just ate when she was hungry. But for sleeping, she seemed to need each nap after a certain time of being awake. So her optimal nap time was pretty predictable, but all depended on when she awoke each morning. She wasn't a long sleeper. What if one twin sleeps for 1 hour naps and the other likes/needs 2.5 hour naps?
How do you even put twins/babies on a schedule?
Two children will have different needs. How do you choose which twins schedule to follow and force the other one on it?
If they nap at the same time...how do you put two babies down for a nap? How do you rock two to sleep?
My wife is already a pro at tandem feeding, but that is only when both are hungry at the same time. Right now they are not even 2 weeks old, so they are commonly hungry together (ie: all the time every 1.5-2 hours). But as they age a bit, they will go through their ebbs and flows of eating.
If you feed on a schedule, how do you ensure that you are feeding them enough or not too much?
Do you have your twins on a schedule?
If your twins are not born yet, do you plan on putting them on a schedule?
If you try to schedule a baby, when do you do it? Right from birth? Three months? One year?
What do you consider the pros and cons of schedules?