How do you handle unsolicited parenting advice from family members who are:
b.) ten years younger
c.) without children themselves
d.) any or all of the above
I have some family members who fit some or all of the above. They think that when I don't adhere or quickly agree with their parenting suggestions or ideas that it's because I think I'm the perfect parent or that I'm the expert parent. Obviously, no parent is perfect. I do a lot of reading and research about parenting though, so if I'm talking about what I know it's not because it's only my opinion, it's often times founded on sound research or statistics. I'm proud of what I know, but I'm pretty humble about not knowing it all.
I find it frustrating when my family members without information, children, or even childcare experience try to suggest I should change my ways of parenting. For example, I was told the other day that I needed to teach my child what no means because if I don't now that they'll never learn. It's laughable. My LO is not even two yet! My child knows very well what the word no means, but has quite an opinion and mind that sometimes decided to listen and many times does not. But I think learning it and respecting it will come in due time. I want to be respected by my children and for my children to respect others, which comes in many forms, one of which is learning to adhere to being told no. Expecting my not even two year old to listen every time, though? That seems very unrealistic. I cared for children other than my own for 15 years before having my own. I took care of many well behaved children and not one always listened when I said no.
So... I want to know how put a stop to people offering unappreciated advice when they don't know what they're talking about? I want to be kind, not mean, but I also want the advice to stop! I don't mind if it's helpful, but when it's not... enough is enough. And I've really had enough.