Currently, my Ds 6.5 dominates my Dd 4.5 and there is no way around this. Because he is older, he has higher cognitive skills that translate into getting what he wants/needs across miles better than she does. So, he essentially "wins" a lot of their debates. He leads, she follows. When she tries to lead their play, she is unable to get across her thoughts as well. Her experience with kids her age is very limited so she doesn't get a chance to see that, in a different setting, she can better hold her ground. It seems, where ever we go, whatever we do, she is the youngest.
To be sure, my kids have an excellent relationship. My son is very gentle and adores his sister. My Dd looks up to her brother and idolizes him! They play well together. They are a team. They hardly ever fight. Because they learn at home, they basically spend the whole day in each other's company. Yesterday, as I watched their interaction during play, I wondered how the fact that they are each other's only company a huge majority of the time will affect their relationship. So I thought I'd pose two questions here:
1. How do you think homeschooling/unschooling affect each child's development when it comes to negotiating social situations, especially younger ones that get trumped by older siblings all the time during a certain developmental period? What about older siblings who are used to getting their way by the sheer superiority of their intellect?
2. How do you think homeschooling/unschooling has affected/or will affect the relationship of your kids with each other? I mean, the fact that they are spending whole days together puts them in a unique position since other kids go to school and are away from each other the majority of the day. I imagine this difference amounts to something? Have you guys ever thought about it?
I also want to say that maybe I think about this more than other people because I so badly want to foster a good relationship between them. I do not have close relationships with my siblings and I mourn that to a certain extent. Because of this, I suppose I pay more attention to sibling stuff.
What do you guys think? I am just interested in other people's thoughts.
P.S. I have to say, I would love to do some actual research on some of the stuff we talk about here. Deciding to keep my children home (from schools) has been one of the most intellectually stimulating things I have done in recent years. I find the process and the various schools of thoughts on the subject fascinating.