We have been on a long journey from cosleeping and night nursing to now having almost-2.5 yo DS weaned and sleeping in his own bed and room. We used to nurse to sleep, then we rocked to sleep, now we lay with him until he is sleeping in his bed. He still wakes in the early morning to come and find us and usually ends up sleeping with us for a couple of hours in the morning.
We are happy with the progression and DS is doing well considering he is very mildly on the spectrum and has always had a hard time with sleep. We've had a solid bedtime routine for all of his life and cosleeping and nursing at night worked great for us (until it didn't) and now we are expecting a new baby in April. So we will be starting all over with the cosleeping and night nursing with another one and are happy that DS is transitioning to sleeping on his own- we decided we just couldn't cosleep with two. We've been going as gently as possible and as slowly as he needs while still taking every opportunity to move forward.
Right now it takes anywhere from 30 minutes to over an hour AFTER our 40 minute bedtime routine to be able to leave DS's bed with him happily asleep. If we rock him (we do this sometimes if he issick or just not able to lay calmly enough to get to sleep) it takes 20-30 minutes. He used to chatter and roll around A LOT when we first started laying with him, but he has gotten better at laying calmly (he still does chatter and roll around a bit though). We are going a bit nuts now though spending most of our evening with one of us laying with him. Me especially because I do it for nap time too.
We are wondering what the next step is after this. How do we help DS get better at falling asleep in his bed so that it takes less time? and How do we remove ourselves from the equation eventually? I've had a couple of people tell me that we should sit in a chair next to his bed, then move the chair farther and farther away. But DS won't stay in his bed without one of us. And he doesn't respond well to the tactic of placing him in his bed over and over again when he gets out. He REALLY doesn't respond well to this.
Obviously it would be great if DS was able to get in his bed and go to sleep on his own by the time DD arrives but realistically we know that will probably not be the case. We are focusing on the progression right now and not the end result.
If anyone has experience with this and could offer some advice about where we can go from here, things to try, that would be great!!!