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Bed rest mammas?

post #1 of 14
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I think there are a few of us now who are on pelvic rest/bed rest for various reasons. Thought maybe we could have our own thread for support!

 

I'm going pretty nuts and finding it hard to delegate everything. Also feeling very guilty that my husband is working his 10-12 hour day and then running early morning and late night errands and is up at night doing pain management with me at 2am again too. He's so up-beat and never complains but I'm actually really worried he's going to burn out. We potentially have 10 more weeks of this ahead.

post #2 of 14

I love this idea!! It has definitely been a big challenge for me too.  This is my second and I didn't have any issues like this last time so it's been somewhat of a shock for me to have to slow down so much.  I know what you mean about feeling bad for DH.  Mine is working lots, taking care of me and DD, doing holiday prep and I know he is getting worn thin.  It's soooo hard to resist helping out around the house and caring for DD.  And as much as I appreciate his help, I also have way higher standards when it comes to house work.  I think I might break down and hire someone to come and clean before baby gets here because it is driving me insane.  And I am not sure how I am going to get all the other baby prepping done.  I had grand plans to re-arrange my bedroom furniture to make it more baby friendly but not sure that will happen now.  I also feel bad about the pelvic rest thing, we've never had to go this long before.

 

When is your doctor/midwife taking you off? Mine wants me to stay down until 37 weeks.  I keep reading the weekly baby growth updates that talk about continuing to stay active etc and I just sigh.  I hope my muscles will be able to support me in labor, I feel like they're turning to jelly.

post #3 of 14

Not on bed rest, but I did get my doctor to request a half-time work schedule for me so I can rest in the afternoons.

 

typebug--I would recommend checking out Dr. Barbara Luke's "When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets or Quads"...even though you are not expecting multiples, I think you would like the chapter on exercises you can do while on bed rest! They are more flexibility-type things but there are some leg lifts and so forth so your muscles don't totally go to waste. I'm going to start doing them because I am not able to manage much other exercise at this point.

 

gillmoro-I second your thoughts on DH doing housework...while I really appreciate it and I have no energy to do it myself, I have to bite my tongue a lot. I am trying to see it as practice for when the babies come and I won't have time to worry about my higher cleaning standards anymore :)
 

post #4 of 14
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Originally Posted by Gillmoro View Post

 

When is your doctor/midwife taking you off? Mine wants me to stay down until 37 weeks.  I keep reading the weekly baby growth updates that talk about continuing to stay active etc and I just sigh.  I hope my muscles will be able to support me in labor, I feel like they're turning to jelly.

No one has given me a timeline like how many weeks I need to rest for or anything concrete. It's very much just a rest and wait thing. I feel the same about my muscles! I was such a big fan of super active pregnancy stories and wanted to be ripping it up in the gym right up to birth... I think I'm disappointed in my body which is not a good headspace to be in. I'm trying really hard to change that. 

post #5 of 14
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Originally Posted by eminvc View Post

Not on bed rest, but I did get my doctor to request a half-time work schedule for me so I can rest in the afternoons.

 

typebug--I would recommend checking out Dr. Barbara Luke's "When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets or Quads"...even though you are not expecting multiples, I think you would like the chapter on exercises you can do while on bed rest! They are more flexibility-type things but there are some leg lifts and so forth so your muscles don't totally go to waste. I'm going to start doing them because I am not able to manage much other exercise at this point.

 

gillmoro-I second your thoughts on DH doing housework...while I really appreciate it and I have no energy to do it myself, I have to bite my tongue a lot. I am trying to see it as practice for when the babies come and I won't have time to worry about my higher cleaning standards anymore :)
 

Thanks, that's a good idea! 

post #6 of 14
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Just thought I'd share this here. Hypnobabies has MP3s one can buy and one is called "Baby stay IN". https://www.hypnobabies.com/store/category/44-all-mp3-tracks

I'm downloading it now. :)

post #7 of 14

Thanks Typebug! I actually saw that the other day when I went on their website to re-order a couple of the CDs I lost since last time around.  I think I will get that MP3 though.  Hope things are going well for everyone.  I've stabilized a bit this week and today I reached 31 weeks so I am thankful for that.  Only 6 more to go!

post #8 of 14

I'm not on bedrest (though it is a possibility in the future :-() but I see that some of you are Hypno Moms!  Who is planning on using this with their birth?  I'm just curious!  This will be our second baby and hopefully, second Hypno baby!

post #9 of 14
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Originally Posted by mariee View Post

I'm not on bedrest (though it is a possibility in the future :-() but I see that some of you are Hypno Moms!  Who is planning on using this with their birth?  I'm just curious!  This will be our second baby and hopefully, second Hypno baby!

 

I just listened to my very first hypnobabies MP3 today. I feel great. I think this is something I definitely want to do daily for the rest of the pregnancy. I need to look into the birth ones more and see if that appeals to me. Tell me more about your last birth experience with it!

post #10 of 14

I'm still on bedrest, and I'm going crazy.  My dh just doesn't get it.... he doesn't clean, or take out the trash.  He only washes his clothes, not the kids or mine.... its getting crazy around here.  I mean I know he works all day, but still... the house is important, the kids are important.  And now I have GD and he hasn't gone to the grocery, so I have nothing suitable to eat  :(  It's so crazy.

 

On another note, I borrowed Hypnobabies off someone last time, and I loved it!!! It worked wonders, my labor was longer than my others, but it was very smooth and I really did relax and it made my labor so much easier.  I wish I would have made copies of it, but I didn't.  So, I don't have it this time around. 

post #11 of 14
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Originally Posted by baileyandmikey View Post

I'm still on bedrest, and I'm going crazy.  My dh just doesn't get it.... he doesn't clean, or take out the trash.  He only washes his clothes, not the kids or mine.... its getting crazy around here.  I mean I know he works all day, but still... the house is important, the kids are important.  And now I have GD and he hasn't gone to the grocery, so I have nothing suitable to eat  :(  It's so crazy.

 

How maddening for you! I have to give mine lists so my needs aren't too subtle. dh seems to clue in pretty well when everything is in writing but he does seem to have selective blindness to dishes. I remember grocery stores back home let us order online for delivery - are you far from somewhere that does that? I know Safeway does it and I have a feeling there are others.

post #12 of 14
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I think I've turned a little corner. These are my original issues that put me on partial bed rest.

• When I stand up I usually get BH contractions about a minutie apart and they do not stop (ever) until I lie down somewhere. BH contractions after about 9 or 10 get more painful and are low on the belly. This has been going on since 25 weeks. Occasionally they don't go away even when I lie down and I have to take a muscle relaxant which makes me loopy.

• Baby's head was too far down, almost engaged so my MW was worried the BH in that intensity were pushing the baby downwards which could push into the cervix.

• I strained my round ligament and was dealing with a pretty insane level of pain when standing.

The round ligament has healed up a lot but as of last week the MW was still concerned about the baby position and my osteopath thought we were headed for an early arrival.

I did my hypnobabies, I really tried to rest all the time, I did a bunch of yoga positions for moving baby back from the pelvis and went to the osteopath to also move baby. Today I followed up with my OBGYN and baby is no longer too low (but still head down) so that extra worry is now lifted. I'm still on partial rest to keep the number of BH down but it sounds like the DR and MW are no longer nervous about pre-term labour. At least for now. Anyway, thought I'd share that little bit of good news. Still in the rest club but feeling fear starting to melt a bit.
Edited by typebug - 12/21/12 at 7:28am
post #13 of 14

Baileyand Mikey- so sorry you're DH is not getting it.  Has he been coming to your prenatals?  Maybe you could mention it during a prenatal so your doctor/MW can back you up about needing the extra help with everything.  Another thought is to hire part time help if that is financially feasible.  My DH seems to forget that I still need help even when we're not in crisis mode (like when I was dilated and having lots of BH).  I have to remind him that even though I seem fine and able to do things I need to be careful so we don't create problems.  I hope he at least went grocery shopping by now so you have some food.  Hugs mama!!

 

Things seem to be better for me in the PTL worry department too.  My cervix has closed to about 1 cm and has lengthened too (cervixes are so amazing that they can go back and forth like that).  I finally finished all my school assigments for this past term so school stress is way down and so are my BH.  I seem to get them at night if I have been up too much during the day.  I also get them if I need to pee really bad and then once I actually pee and when I try to use my stomach muscles at all.  I have definitely have had some that are crampy down low but they still don't feel anything like labor contractions to me so I guess that's good.  My MW recommended drinking some wine/beer when they start getting out of hand and that has really worked for me.  I am continuing to take my magenesium and homeopathy but have been slacking on the herbs they gave me.  I just have to make it another 4 weeks- so close yet so far away.  I am really starting to freak out about not having my baby to-do list more under control so I will be working on that over my school break. 

 

Happy baby cooking everyone! We are all so close, hang in there!

post #14 of 14

Went back to the high risk doctor yesterday.  Both babies were great, and my cervix was shorter but not too bad.  The doctor didn't seem concerned.  Seems things are still going ok.  My husband still isn't getting it... but I warned him, he will clean and grocery shop or pay the price!  ;)

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