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post #41 of 64
Would you ladies mind a quick vent? My mother in law came to visit and got in about two days before I did. She went grocery shopping with my hubby and picked out things I have no desire to eat and they didn't get eaten while she was here. Things like tuna in oil and canned green beans. It is a small thing really but it annoys me.
I was also super bummed to discover that the enchiladas she made during her visit have onions in them (I dislike onions, especially raw as these are).

And from reading this thread, I now want hot and sour soup!
post #42 of 64

FarmerMomma - that looks gorgeous!! We have only gotten rain, rain, rain, and more rain so far...can't wait for some snow!

 

 

allisonrose - ITA with you that food is such a touchy thing! I really dislike having long term guests in general because it totally throws off my daily rhythm.  And food is such a hard thing to figure out! I'm glad that my MIL and I have a good relationship, but she is planning on moving in with us when her house sells until she finds another place to live....I am terrified!

post #43 of 64

It seems that my inlaws often seem to highlight all the parts of my DH that I find drive me crazy! I would go crazy over the food. But wonder can you freeze the enchiladas for the DH and kids for a quick meal later on, or mail them to me? biggrinbounce.gif

 

My sister would do this kind of shopping before when she would visit but now she as gotten better since I would make her take whatever wans't consumed. Also maybe the canned goods will make the perfect addition to the local food bank?

 

Of course being pregnant I never know what I will want to eat when... and the thought of planning preparing food often drives me nuts. It is best for someone to say here is food, eat. Though just about anytime I can tolerate/go for hot and sour soup. (looks like I put that buzz in everyone's head.....)

 

I've been sooooooo hormonal and crazy lately. Such a hard week (though also a great week)... just wondering when my energy will pick back up. I've been keeping at my Vit D and will be adding wild yam back in to my supplements, which I did for the longest time prepregnancy and really found beneficial to overall mental health.

post #44 of 64

Ugh, yes, my MIL keeps sending food over "For DH" or "because I can't just by a chocolate Santa for the other kids and not for N!".  DS and I have food allergies.  We can't eat most of what she sends over.  But apparently my DH is starving, and DS *knows* if she buys something for the cousins but not for him.  ::sigh::  She really loves being able to cook for people though, so I really hate to say not to, and she has been trying to use the allergen free flour I buy and not use bullion cubes so that I can eat some of what she makes.  But with the chocolate advent calendar and santa, and easter bunny and bears, etc, etc, etc, it drives me crazy!! She just "feels bad" if she can't buy him treats, so she gives it to DS and says that DH can eat it.  duh.gif  But she tells DS that there is chocolate inside!! And DH is trying to loose weight! I had to ask her to please stop at Christmas.  I felt bad, but I really just need to put my foot down.  She just thinks that the food issues aren't "that bad" and that he is just going to grow out of them anyway.  gloomy.gif

 

In laws are tricky.  Food is even trickier.  In Laws AND food? Really slippery territory.  I would do like amlikam said and either send her home with the food (next time) or donate it to the food pantry...or let the rest of your family eat it. 

post #45 of 64

My MIL has been staying with us over the holiday. I think DH is holding her hostage, truly. He's off work for Christmas break and I'm working so I think he likes having company and someone to help him around the house. She has rearranged several rooms and is cleaning which I'm okay with for the most part. She's pretty good at decorating however, I'm pretty sure she made my bed and cleaned my bedroom today which I'd really rather that territory be off limits. DH and DS were all at her house when I got home from work today so I'm hoping they leave Grandma there for awhile! I feel slightly guilty saying so but you all can relate, I'm sure.

 

On another note, I went in to see the OB today simply because I feel SO good I didn't believe I could still be pregnant. I had a nagging feeling for the last several weeks and I was proved wrong by a nice strong fetal heart beat..... so YAY!!! Going to be sharing my exciting news next week at work!

post #46 of 64

It's that time of year isn't it. My MIL came for a couple days with a sprained ankle (which she put off going to the Dr. to come here). I spent the whole time entertaining and feeding her and my toddler, until they got in a big fight. I had a nasty migraine at dinner on the second day and had to hang out and explain to her that he is a toddler and she can't take his dirty looks personally. Next thing I know she is telling me he has anger issues and her son never expressed his anger so strongly. I guess a toddler getting upset at being yelled at and reacting by growling while making a very angry face then yelling "NO" is inappropriate. The fact that he can't state how he is feeling calmly and clearly means that he has anger issues. The fight lasted a few minutes, but he was clearly angry at her for the rest of the day. This really hurt her feelings. She started crying and I had to point out that he had not gotten any sleep and was very tired as well as over stimulated with all the holiday stuff, oh and he is 3 :) She visits often and this has never happened before. I'm hoping they were both just wound up because of the holiday and will be able to be more patient with each other in the future. 

post #47 of 64
jaxxy - My mil sometimes takes on herself to do mending: including once fixing a seam on a pair of my underwear. Maybe that makes you feel better about yours making your bed? wink1.gif (The pair of underwear was rarely worn: laundry day undies basically.)

BabySmurf - That sounds really uncomfortable.

amlikam - Now there are just two left and since they are now a week old, I may just toss them. My kiddos weren't into them. So only my hubby enjoyed them. Of course now I have a desire for red sauce enchiladas. I have a good recipe for sour cream/green chili sauced enchiladas but I don't know if that'll satisfy....

My mil lives across country so her taking food with her would probably be silly so likely those cans will hang around till I am desperate or run across a food drive. But the meat she picked out, froze, defrosted, and then refroze the excess will get tossed while hubby's not looking.
post #48 of 64

littlegreenlady, I thought for sure you were joking when I read the line about your MIL and your toddler getting in a fight. And then I read the rest of what you wrote and Oh. My. God. It's so absurd, it's almost comical! (of course I say that because it didn't happen to me.) Sometimes DH gets really frustrated with DD for whatever reason, but will snap out of it when I remind him that SHE IS THREE. How a grown woman could really be offended by a toddler's "anger issues" is beyond me. Hoping that they are both better rested and not over-stimulated for their next encounter :)

 

My In-Laws live in Chile and are rarely able to visit, but I did live with them for a few months before DH and I got married, and I think I got in at least a few years' worth of frustration and biting my tongue in that short time.

post #49 of 64
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Originally Posted by allisonrose View Post

jaxxy - My mil sometimes takes on herself to do mending: including once fixing a seam on a pair of my underwear. Maybe that makes you feel better about yours making your bed? wink1.gif (The pair of underwear was rarely worn: laundry day undies basically.)
 

Ohmuhgosh. You have me beat, LOL!!!

post #50 of 64
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jaxxy - My mil sometimes takes on herself to do mending: including once fixing a seam on a pair of my underwear. Maybe that makes you feel better about yours making your bed? wink1.gif (The pair of underwear was rarely worn: laundry day undies basically.)     jaw.gif  I would have freaked out! My friend sometimes folds my laundry when she is over (she likes folding laundry and my piles of it drive her nuts)... I am always pulling out my grandma panties and hiding the, The irony is she has seen me naked a number of times, but I just can't let her touch my underwear!  WOW that is some serious helping there.....
post #51 of 64

Wow, I guess this all just goes to show how it's hard for everyone when they are in each other's space!

 

On another note, I have been trying to gauge whether or not my two year old "gets" that I am pregnant.  DH and I talk about being pregnant and "the baby" and "when the baby comes" pretty openly.  I have also talked a little bit about it with DS and we got a couple of books that DS likes to read about what happens with a new baby...He either seems pretty disinterested or identified with the baby.  Or so I thought. 

 

DS dreams and talks in his sleeps pretty commonly and this morning he was tossing and turning so I knew he was having an unpleasant dream...Then he started saying "No Baby! It's MY mum! (As in nursing)", then he started to wimper in his sleep.  It was so sad! He woke up soon afterward and lunged for me and didn't let go until it was time to get up.  So I guess he does "get it" and is working through it a bit. 

 

Also, he all of a sudden seems to BIG to me!!! He's growing up so fast....it's weird!!

post #52 of 64
Aww, the poor little guy. I hope he is able to work through it some before the baby arrives and that you don't have too many jealousy issues. Are you planning on tandem nursing? I've heard it can acutally help reduce jealousy.
post #53 of 64
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Originally Posted by kitteh View Post

Aww, the poor little guy. I hope he is able to work through it some before the baby arrives and that you don't have too many jealousy issues. Are you planning on tandem nursing? I've heard it can acutally help reduce jealousy.

 

Babysmurf, that is so cute!  I was going to say the same thing kitteh did here.  I was fortunate enough to tandem with most of my toddlers as they accepted the new baby.  (Only one daughter weaned herself at 2 just before the next baby came along, but she wasn't jealous anyway.)  I feel tandem nursing really helped with the transition.

My littlest now who will be 25 months when the next comes along , is the most jealous child I've had yet.  She acts like an only child, pushing the other kids away from us whenever they are sitting on DH's or my lap. I hope she doesn't wean herself before this baby is born.  I fear for this baby if she does! (Just kidding...but I will gaurd the baby well until I see for myself!)

post #54 of 64
Yes, I am hoping that he doesn't wean because I really think it will help. He is super jealous and territorial over me, so I am a little worried. I do think that he might see the baby as "his" and want to be a reallybig help too, so I totally think that it will depend on what phase he is in when the baby comes. I'm glad ths baby comes at the beginning of summer, so there will be plenty of stuff to do.
post #55 of 64

Dh felt the baby kick last night! Wohoo! That was cool biggrinbounce.gif

post #56 of 64
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Dh felt the baby kick last night! Wohoo! That was cool biggrinbounce.gif


WOW already? Thats AMAZING and so exciting!

 

I feel my little sunseed moving all the time but I am so "fluffy" that it is hard to feel on the outside! Though I did have an apointment with the midwife on Monday and she tried the fetoscope saying "well there is a good chance we wont hear anything yet bc we are on the cusp".... Well she did hear a faint heartbeat but not for long bc the LO was kicking away and preventing her from hearing anything!!!! HA!

I can't wait for the baby to move so outsiders can feel it too, my DD is so curious about what it will feel like!

post #57 of 64
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WOW already? Thats AMAZING and so exciting!

 

I feel my little sunseed moving all the time but I am so "fluffy" that it is hard to feel on the outside! Though I did have an apointment with the midwife on Monday and she tried the fetoscope saying "well there is a good chance we wont hear anything yet bc we are on the cusp".... Well she did hear a faint heartbeat but not for long bc the LO was kicking away and preventing her from hearing anything!!!! HA!

I can't wait for the baby to move so outsiders can feel it too, my DD is so curious about what it will feel like!


This is WAAaAAY earlier than with DS; I am surprised too.  It must just be the positioning - the kicking in general is much more obvious than it was the first time too. That's cool that you got to hear the heartbeat! It always blows my mind that the baby is so well developed from such an early stage, yet it takes soooo long to feel the baby and for the baby to grow! (I'm glad it does, it's just mentally weird!). 

post #58 of 64

My DH got to feel the baby move as well. I'm pretty surprised at how early it seems to be feeling it. I feel like it was much later with my first as well. Though I wonder if it's just because I know what it is this time and may have not been sure the first time around. I saw my midwives this week, they were unable to get the heartbeat with the fetoscope. She said it's a little early, and the baby was squirming around a lot :). I am choosing not to have them use the doppler this time unless it becomes necessary. I got to hear my firsts heart beat during my first appointment with the doppler and it blew my mind/melted my heart. I then chose to hear it every time I went for an appointment. I would love to hear the heartbeat this time as well, but if I'm not into the ultrasound then I hear the doppler is basically the same as far as the sound waves in the womb. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

post #59 of 64
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Originally Posted by littlegreenlady View Post

My DH got to feel the baby move as well. I'm pretty surprised at how early it seems to be feeling it. I feel like it was much later with my first as well. Though I wonder if it's just because I know what it is this time and may have not been sure the first time around. I saw my midwives this week, they were unable to get the heartbeat with the fetoscope. She said it's a little early, and the baby was squirming around a lot :). I am choosing not to have them use the doppler this time unless it becomes necessary. I got to hear my firsts heart beat during my first appointment with the doppler and it blew my mind/melted my heart. I then chose to hear it every time I went for an appointment. I would love to hear the heartbeat this time as well, but if I'm not into the ultrasound then I hear the doppler is basically the same as far as the sound waves in the womb. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

 

From my research, I truly believe that while the doppler may irritate the baby, it's perfectly harmless and safe to use in moderation. Moderation is key to nearly everything in pregnancy (minus, let's say smoking crack - probably best to just nix that habit from the get go pinktongue.gif )

post #60 of 64

I agree with the Doppler being pretty harmless especially if your OB or Midwife only uses it for a short amount of time each appointment. I've gone both ways with pregnancies. One we waited until 20ish weeks before finally picking HB up with a fetoscope and no Dopplers or ultrasounds. Others I've had up to three ultrasounds (for placement after having a Frank Breech birth) and Doppler each appointment. Though I am all for modern medicine if there is a risk/problem, generally I'd rather stay as far away as I can.

 

All that being said, I got a whopper of a good week this time around. Hit 16 weeks and got fetal movement AND picked up HB with fetoscope.thumb.gif

Never this early before. It can be so nerve wracking this early on before you get a good solid kick you know?! Groovy!

 

 

(someone please tell me why  Fetoscope is not in the spell checkers dictionary??!!) lol.gif

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