between my waaayyyy demanding job I left about 7 months ago (I was lucky to get 4hrs of sleep a night. I'd often work from 12am-4/6am, nap if possible, wake up kids and take them to school, work 8am-6pm, pickup kids while fielding emails and phone calls, nap from 8-10 and repeat) and ex being crazy and young kids...and I was really shy and not good at dating to begin with...
I really haven't.
I had a office affair right after split, and a long distance thing with a sales guy but before anything happened he had a girl from his past show up and he chose her. he continued to flirt and have long convos with me and meet me for dinner several times when I was in town - but nothing happened.
so I've basically been single for 5yrs now. I'm kinda torn, because I'm not getting any cuter here....and my first boyfriend (ever) and my ex were both very passive agressive and would withhold sex as punishment it seems. it's honestly amazing I have 2 kids. I went to therapist a few months before we seperated and told her "dude, if I hadn't gotten him drunk and didn't take no for an answer I wouldn't have #2. we had sex ONE time in 36 months" and she was gobsmacked and ex shrugged like it wasn't anything odd. *headscratch*
and I would actually try (I finally gave up) EVERY NIGHT to initiate and be rebuffed until after a month or longer i'd get "ok, but make it quick"
at the same time however, I am raising the kiddos with no help, making really good money at my job, I have savings and my life in order. my tolerance for BS is at nearly 0 level these days.
oh, don't like me working late one night? it bugs you I can't hang out tonight because I need to go out of town for work or deal with kids? you don't like my bookcases where they are? don't let the door hit you....
I don't need a man for anything...I've replummed and rewired half my house, I can change a flat in 5min wearing heels, I do the kids on my own, I built a bunkbed (and loaded and unloaded from car) by myself and hauled a giant 6'x7' entertainment center across my house.
so putting up with ANYONE's drama at this point gives me hives. LOL.....I think part of it is the fact i've only had men that were full of drama and all that.
I keep (half) joking I ought to put an ad in CL and say "come bang me like a screen door in a hurricane and take the trash out when you leave....no staying the night"