Can I join this thread? I am newly divorced and found myself very quickly in a serious relationship. Fell head over heels immediately and have never had such a connection w someone.
Problem is, he is a dad and his ex is very difficult, manipulating him left and right and she has tons of MH issues to be addressed. She takes up a lot of his time bc he ends up taking care of her (he admits he has trouble seeing her as separate from the kids even tho they've been separated 2 yrs).
The other even bigger problem is that we parent very differently. I am a serious non-vaxer and health nut. I eat all organics as do my kids. We are vegetarian. We do wooden toys and crafts. I've relaxed a bit on the natural toys but still avoid chemical stuff (glow sticks for example).
But he is a science major and is into every single vaccine that ever existed. He eats no organics and even says things about how "eating a bit of gmo'd stuff won't hurt ya". His kids were vegetarian but are now eating chicken (not organic). They literally watch tv and play video games all day. They will even have two screens going in the same room with different stuff playing.
He had a vasectomy so us having kids is not an issue so perhaps the vaccine stuff doesnt matter in the end. But my kids watch maybe one movie a week at most and the tv stuff and food issues seem HUGE to me.
We talked about moving in together in a year or so but honestly I am now thinking we shouldnt even think of that as an option bc we will end up rly disliking each other's parenting and it will break us up.
Help? Anyone dated a dad w diff views? I've never dated a parent before.
Problem is, he is a dad and his ex is very difficult, manipulating him left and right and she has tons of MH issues to be addressed. She takes up a lot of his time bc he ends up taking care of her (he admits he has trouble seeing her as separate from the kids even tho they've been separated 2 yrs).
The other even bigger problem is that we parent very differently. I am a serious non-vaxer and health nut. I eat all organics as do my kids. We are vegetarian. We do wooden toys and crafts. I've relaxed a bit on the natural toys but still avoid chemical stuff (glow sticks for example).
But he is a science major and is into every single vaccine that ever existed. He eats no organics and even says things about how "eating a bit of gmo'd stuff won't hurt ya". His kids were vegetarian but are now eating chicken (not organic). They literally watch tv and play video games all day. They will even have two screens going in the same room with different stuff playing.
He had a vasectomy so us having kids is not an issue so perhaps the vaccine stuff doesnt matter in the end. But my kids watch maybe one movie a week at most and the tv stuff and food issues seem HUGE to me.
We talked about moving in together in a year or so but honestly I am now thinking we shouldnt even think of that as an option bc we will end up rly disliking each other's parenting and it will break us up.
Help? Anyone dated a dad w diff views? I've never dated a parent before.
I'just exiting my marriage (we did have one separation, but I took him back, foolishly), and not ready to date anytime soon, but I do feel like I want to sow my wild oats a bit at some point. I'm just really afraid. I'm afraid that a guy who meets my standards would never be attracted to me. My "new" standards - ones that almost every ex has fallen far short of - include someone who doesn't insult my intelligence with his presence, but who isn't a snotty know-it-all; someone I have a physical attraction to, chemistry - after so many years without it, I'm starving for chemistry and some passion! - someone who can deal with my kids, and my own quirks and weird bits. If he had a steady job, that'd also be really good. 
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