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Weight gain

post #1 of 90
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How's everyone going with their weight gain. I am trying desperately to keep mine down as I really got out of control with my first pregnancy, but I'm at 32 weeks and have already gained over 30 lbs. I was small to start with, but geez -- is it just the way my body does pregnancy? 

post #2 of 90

I am 31 wks and have gained 33lbs - this IS just the way my body does pregnancy, i have completely overhauled my diet twice since my first pregnancy and every time, same thing..  (i was a vegetarian 1st time around, 2nd and 3rd i ate whatever includ. meat, sugary soda etc, #4 no sugar, mostly gluten and dairy free)  #3 and #4 i've been much more active than the 1st 2 pregnancies (as a result of already having 2-3 kids as much as anything) i FEEL better this pregnancy and have looked better for the last 2 pregnancies but i am gaining just as much weight as always..   and as always, my weight gain has slowed down a bit in the last few weeks (i gained all 33lbs since 12 weeks, nothing in the first tri)  i still expect to gain another 15+lbs before baby comes.. .
 

post #3 of 90

As of my last appointment at 30 weeks I had gained a total of 20lbs, but it's been a really inconsistent ride to that number where I lost 5lbs, then gained 5, then gained 2, then gained 10, then lost 1.5, etc. I go in on Friday for my next appointment (at 32+1) and I expect to have gained more than just the textbook 2lbs, but it's impossible to say.

 

I've completely given up on trying to control or even understand weight gain during pregnancy. As far as I'm concerned, so long as you feel good (all things considered), you're mostly eating right, getting some exercise, and baby is healthy, your body will just do whatever it thinks is best in terms of piling on the weight. I have many days where I feel like a seacow, especially since my face is now chubbier than I'd prefer it to be, but for the most part I just try to relax about the whole thing and remember that so long as the baby is healthy and happily squirming away in there, I'm doing something right.

 

You can deal with any excess weight after your little one is born, but it would be a shame to cast a shadow on pregnancy just because of what some foolish scale has to say.

post #4 of 90

That's a great way to look at it, Teles. My body gains a lot of weight no matter what my diet is or level of exercise, so I just go with it! I definitely need those fat stores for nursing and I shed it really quickly after birth. I'm on track to gain 45-50 lbs this time around and I'm fine about it smile.gif.

post #5 of 90
I have mentioned this before, but I have completely declined to be weighed and I am thrilled with that decision for me, personally. I don't think it's necessary (and in a small number of cases, perhaps not wise) for everyone to go down my route, but weighing myself is a huge trigger for my eating disorder, so I do recommend it to anyone with a serious weight neurosis. smile.gif

I have noticed (with the exception of 6 weeks of morning sickness, during which I craved awful carbs constantly) my food intake (type and amount) has been really pretty consistent with my pre-preg habits. Visually, DH and I agree that virtually all of my weight gain has been baby (possible I've lost a couple pounds of fat overall) so I think my metabolism has stayed around pre-preg levels as well. I agree with y'all-- FTMP, your body does what it does during pregnancy, and as long as your eating is pretty healthy and you can stay fairly active, you're extremely likely to be in good shape from a health perspective.
post #6 of 90
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Originally Posted by loveandgarbage View Post

That's a great way to look at it, Teles. My body gains a lot of weight no matter what my diet is or level of exercise, so I just go with it! I definitely need those fat stores for nursing and I shed it really quickly after birth. I'm on track to gain 45-50 lbs this time around and I'm fine about it smile.gif.

ditto. i'm healthy and happy & the baby is active and healthy. that's all that matters. 

post #7 of 90

i had been gaining a lb a week the entire pregnancy.  after i hit 30-32 lbs at 30 weeks, i asked my midwife if i could avoid the scale.  i'm sure i've gained more, but oddly, since walking away from the scale, i feel happier, healthier and more beautiful (all b/c i don't know a number?!)  but  i will probably not weigh myself again until a few months after birth.  i was trying to be responsible (my midwife didn't weight me last 2 births, and discouraged my eyeing the scale) and i'm normally a fit, healthy muscular 130.  each pregnancy i get up to 170.  it's how my body makes beautiful healthy babies.  so i'm not gonna sweat weight!  if i decide to weigh myself at the end, i'll post my final numbers!  i'm pretty sure i'll be up past 175.  but i eat no junk food, no processed food, and am active, so whatever it takes!

post #8 of 90

20 lbs so far.  Which is decent.  With the girls I gained 60 lbs each. 

post #9 of 90

I was almost at 40lbs at my last appointment - not sweating it either since this is my first and I'm pretty healthy overall.  I'm also tall so it apparently doesn't show as much - a lot of people have commented that I don't look like I've gained very much overall.  It's mostly in my stomach for sure, with a bit in my hips and butt.

post #10 of 90
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Originally Posted by HouseofPeace View Post

since walking away from the scale, i feel happier, healthier and more beautiful (all b/c i don't know a number?!) 

 

Well, that's the way it's worked for me, anyway!  You know, we are so similar in weight/height/measurements, I am probably 15-20 lbs heavier than you pre-pregnancy (haven't weighed myself in years under any circumstances) and I just didn't want nor need to see the scale hit 200, which I thought was a distinct possibility (now I think maybe not, but really, really, REALLY don't care to know!)

 

Not that there's anything wrong with weighing 200 lbs, BTW-- but I just know how those kinds of numbers can make me crazy.

post #11 of 90

I'm up 14 pounds at 31 weeks, which doesn't surprise me since I gained about 25 total with my son. I feel healthier this time around though, and am enjoying working out (although I've stopped certain exercises that were causing too much vaginal pressure) but I'm sure my diet could be better. Honestly, pregnancy weight gain is so random and changes depending on your body type, amount of sickness, etc. Most people I know don't have too much trouble losing the majority of baby weight, and even though I don't gain much I still have to work to lose that last 10 or so pounds. It all evens out in the end.

 

It does bug me just a little when people push food on me or make "eating for two" comments. Actually, I'm eating for 1.3 or something like that. ;) Breastfeeding...that's another story. With my son I could not BELIEVE how absolutely ravenous I was those first few months. Breastfeeding me will out-eat pregnant me any day of the week!

post #12 of 90
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

 

Well, that's the way it's worked for me, anyway!  You know, we are so similar in weight/height/measurements, I am probably 15-20 lbs heavier than you pre-pregnancy (haven't weighed myself in years under any circumstances) and I just didn't want nor need to see the scale hit 200, which I thought was a distinct possibility (now I think maybe not, but really, really, REALLY don't care to know!)

 

Not that there's anything wrong with weighing 200 lbs, BTW-- but I just know how those kinds of numbers can make me crazy.


I think it sounds like a wise idea to avoid the scale if it causes stress. And I totally get the random number thing....mine is my husband's weight. I don't want to pass 185! Which is silly of course because, well, he's not pregnant and we have totally different body types! But that's still my crazy-making number. If I get close maybe I can talk him into gaining a few pounds... ha.

post #13 of 90
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

 

Well, that's the way it's worked for me, anyway!  You know, we are so similar in weight/height/measurements, I am probably 15-20 lbs heavier than you pre-pregnancy (haven't weighed myself in years under any circumstances) and I just didn't want nor need to see the scale hit 200, which I thought was a distinct possibility (now I think maybe not, but really, really, REALLY don't care to know!)

 

Not that there's anything wrong with weighing 200 lbs, BTW-- but I just know how those kinds of numbers can make me crazy.

i have a lovely friend who would always pass 200, and just would not look at the scale!  she's really slender hipped and has big babies and her body is amazing not pregnant, even after 3 boys.  but she did call herself two-mun-doh since she just got so large.  but also walked away from the scale and had 2 homebirths after her first section (attempted homebirth with a midwife in training).

 

i really don't want to know!  my husband is safely bigger than me, but i did have one pregnancy where he started working out and was really fit and then that number hung over me...  but now, eh. 

 

The funny thing is my husband has been traveling, and was stressed for a few months, and he's the one who emotionally eats around here!  so he's gained at least as much weight as me and we're coming up with a plan to help him lose weight.  starting now, so that we'll both be healthier and happier around the birth.  all the while, he keeps cracking panda, hippo, narwhale, and orca jokes about me.  

 

which can sound mean to people who don't tease as a flirtation, but, he's an oldest sibling, and i'm an older sibling, so we kinda harass each other irreverently as a normal course of events.  when i'm small, he complains about my bony fingers/chin/knees/elbows/ribs, when i'm round, he jokes about my roundness, and between constant harassment, he's really sweet and encouraging and makes me feel absolutely lovely, up and through the birth!  he makes birth fun.  maybe if i screamed more it'd be less funny, but i just moan and groan and grunt through most of it, and he is right there to make irreverent comments about that and also just tell me i'm beautiful in the midst of all of that.  which means so much.  

 

i really hope every mama out there has someone who makes them feel beautiful in the midst of all that is to come!

post #14 of 90
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Originally Posted by HouseofPeace View Post

 

i really hope every mama out there has someone who makes them feel beautiful in the midst of all that is to come!

 

I know I do, and I count my blessings every day!  DH thinks I am, at the same time, beautiful, sexy and incredibly adorable with my bump, so I really couldn't ask for more.  love.gif

post #15 of 90

When i last checked my weight gain was right on track but I look small to people because I was small to begin with. The food pushers are annoying as hell! In SE Asia pregnant women seem to be expected to really try to put on a little extra, probably from the days when they had very poor infant survival and a mother being plump was a sign of her wealth and ability to have a big healthy baby. Still it amuses me when locals want to give me cakes and candy "for the baby" all the time! They also want to tell me they think it's a boy which is of course the only sex that one could possible hope for here... Luckily my hormone filled brain seems to have tuned out the crazies for now. And i'm so seldom out of the house i get this in relatively small doses.

post #16 of 90

If I were in Singapore, I'd be eating nonstop!

post #17 of 90

I've gained 4.5 pds now.... found out I have Gestational Diabetes, so now I'll have to be on an even more strict diet.... I'm going crazy!!!  I'm at 30 weeks 1 day now...

post #18 of 90
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

If I were in Singapore, I'd be eating nonstop!

 

It's probably a good thing I can't walk down to the hawker centre anymore. I was living on roti prata (basically fried bread) a rich curry and Aloo Ghobi as a side -- buttery potatoes -- in the first trimester. 

post #19 of 90
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Originally Posted by Teles View Post

I go in on Friday for my next appointment (at 32+1) and I expect to have gained more than just the textbook 2lbs, but it's impossible to say.

Sure enough, I gained 5lbs in the past two weeks, putting me at a total of 25lbs.

post #20 of 90

I have gained too much weight.  I usually gain 50 lbs and I am a plus sized Mom.  This time though, I stopped taking meds for ADD and it is stimulant -aka kills your appetite.     I gained a bunch at first and am slowing down down.  Im about at the 45 lb mark.    Once Im done nursing, it comes off.  Im the reverse of nursing Moms because of the domperidone (increases supply) doesnt let you let go of weight easily.

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