Yesterday I had my 20 week anatomy scan and the CD they gave me that was supposed to have all the pics on it, was blank when I got home. I was so upset, mad, even started crying. My DH then started this huge fight with me about me being mad. He said some mean and hurtful things and he's just not getting this whole pregnancy thing, which is odd because its out 3rd, so he's gone through this before.
He said this is our last baby because I can't get my emotions in check and can't control my mood swings and he's sick of it. Ummm, yeah hello! I'm pregnant - my emotions are high right now! Me being upset and crying because I didn't get the pics of my baby is upsetting. Why couldn't he just give me a hug and agree with me instead of starting a huge fight?
Then while I'm crying at the computer trying to figure out the CD, he comes back in wanting me to help him do something on Facebook as if nothing happened. He gets upset with me because I can't just be mad for 10 minutes like him, then forget about it. No, I can't - usually because I need to talk things out, not just forget about mean things he's done. I mean he was yelling at me for being upset, while I'm standing there crying. I think a hug would've been more effective right?
I feel he has not been emotionally supportive at all during this pregnancy. I don't sleep well with my heartburn, restless legs, the kids getting up, being too hot, etc so I get even more emotional since I'm lacking sleep. Then he starts fighting with me about how he works harder than me and I have an extra day off than him. It never stops.
One time in the 20 weeks I've been pregnant have I asked him to get me a food I was craving. He came back mad at me because the store didn't have the flavor of ice cream I wanted! How is that my fault? Go to another store then! I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and meal planning; I'm making all the appts to see apartments and doctors; I'm doing all the Christmas shopping, bill paying, and staying home the 3 days a week he goes to work on setting up our new business PLUS I work full time. Why can't I just get a little support? Why is this so hard for him to be sympathetic to my emotional needs? When I tried talking to him about me needing to get out of the house, he wanted to know where and when with who - because apparently I needed a plan and it wouldn't work without a plan. I just want to go, I don't care where or when, just go by myself somewhere. Ugh.
Sorry, this is so long. I don't like to talk my family or friends IRL about it because for the most part he is a good guy and I don't want them just to see the negatives I'm feeling right now.