A Saner TTC: The Long Nights' Moon - Page 6

[Lidamama84]

That's a good point, Prescottchels, about DD2 not being ready to be a big sister. Today a dear friend and her kids came over, and everyt time I picked up the baby, DD2 came running over and demanded to be picked up, ditto when I picked DD1 up. ("Uppi" is how DD2 asks to be picked up, should have explained that

Also, Xerxella, good idea about "overwhelming" them with nursing! Thanks, I will try that!

[Xerxella]

justjenny - Are you sure you ovulated? Honestly, with a progesterone of 1 that's a sure sign that you did NOT ovulate. Just my

[John16n33]

Okay I know this is the saner TTC thread, but I need you ladies to help me STAY sane right now.  I had been feeling nauseous earlier when I was working out, and I chalked it up to I hadn't eaten in awhile.  Then I remembered I actually did eat breakfast this morning so it couldn't be that.  I took a shower after working out and when I was done I was brushing my teeth and all of a sudden I threw up, not a lot but enough to get the wheels turning in my brain.

I had sever ovulation cramping last Friday and had a dry day on Sunday, but I didn't get a temp shift until Monday.  So according to TCOYF and FF I did not O until Sunday and am only 4dpo.  This is why I need you ladies to talk me down and tell me to keep with my original plan and not test until New Years.  Please, pretty please?  I do not want to be this crazy symptom checking maniac, I want to stay calm and chill like I have up until this point.
 

[SparkleMaman]

Lidamama Of course this too shall pass! But it is exhausting. When I was overwhelmed with all the changes of a new baby, and very hormonal around 5 weeks post-partum, I remember my best friend telling me how hard it all is. Just knowing another woman that I so respected and that I know is an amazing mom felt that way too was enormously helpful. We forget that that sense of feeling overwhelmed and stages that are really darn difficult don't end with infants. It ebbs and flows. My same friend also shared her parenting wisdom that things never really get easier, just different. My DD was a very spirited, high needs baby and toddler. She nursed every hour and a half to two hours all night, every night. It seriously disrupted my sleep. I finally couldn't do it any more when she reached about 2 1/2 (lack of any deep sleep made for a very unhappy mama). I explained to her why we couldn't nurse all night any more, nursed her to sleep and immediately upon waking but not in the night. It went remarkably smoothly. I thought it would be awful, that she'd wildly protest, but she never did! She just said, okay! I don't think I could have done it if she'd been truly upset. It was amazing though. I have found nearly all of the things like this I have agonized over resulted in smooth transitions and just worked out. That said, she too demanded my full attention nearly all the time she was awake as a toddler. She never played just near me, she always needed to play with me and preferably in my arms. It is hard but I always assumed it was a genuine need, it never felt it was manipulative. She just needed a lot of me most of the time.  In all these things, only you can know how much you can tolerate and what you can do. I like Xerxella's suggestion of smothering her with attention and offers to nurse very much!! Please know you are not alone and you are doing an awesome job!!

Oh, and you can get too much Vitamin D, it is fat soluble and needed in relatively smaller amounts than most vitamins. It would be rather hard to get too much but your best bet is to have a blood draw (my chiropractor ordered mine) for 25-Hydroxyvitamin D. Ideally you're looking for a level over 30. I noticed a huge change in my mood and energy level once I began supplementing. I actually took 10,000 IU daily for 6 months and I'm down to 5,000 IU daily now. I'm planning to have levels checked again though, as my last check was during the summer when I get lots more sun exposure.

Coati. The holidays do always bring up those feelings and there is so much pressure, especially around Christmas (I find). I actually tend to enjoy New Year's more as I can relax and have fun with no huge expectations. Hope your travels were fun and distracting.

JustJenny I think progesterone as an indicator of ovulation is dependent on when in your cycle the bloodwork is drawn. It has to be rather precisely timed. I'd imagine your health care provider would have let you know if he/she didn't think you'd ovulated (I might be optimistic about patient/provider communication though). Fx.

Xerxella So glad you have a plan, I always feel so much better when I have a plan! Good provider recommendations are awesome too. And also very glad to hear things won't be drawn out as you'd feared.

Jessher!!

AFM 6 DPO. Doing my best not to symptom spot or freak out as usual. Just hanging out enjoying my holiday break and time with my family.

[SparkleMaman]

John16n33 The TWW is agonizingly long!! It is so, so hard. I'm right here with you trying to do the same, maintain sanity and find some balance/peace/calm. As for symptoms: Could be/ Could not be. Bottom line, nearly any sign/symptom you notice before implantation (really not likely before 6 DPO) would most likely be a progesterone mediated post-O symptom, not pregnancy. And no test is reliably accurate for some time from now. Soooooooo, do your best to distract yourself (I know, not such great advice and hard to do). I'm planning to test 12/31 or 1/1 too - testing buddies!! Stay with me!!

[JustJenny]

xerxella and sparkle- She said the blood test indicated that I o'ed. I also had a weak positive opk on cd15. The blood test was on cd24 (9dpo).

[SparkleMaman]

JustJenny That's great news!! I know what is considered positive for recent O varies by CD and DPO blood work is drawn, just couldn't remember the exact numbers. Lots of being sent your way!!

[John16n33]

Well I just had a wonderful evening with my family, even though it was only for a few hours.  My Uncle took us out to eat and Dd was attached at my 'little' (but still bigger than me, he's 14) cousins hip from the moment they got out of the airport.  I miss them already and I think I might cry, but like I said it was so good to see family.  Now to just get through until my inlaws come in March.

[SparkleMaman]

Lots of John16n33. Being away from family is so hard!! Thank goodness for even short visits (even if they are layovers). So sweet about DD with your cousin! It's amazing how they idolize teenager, isn't it? My niece was 13 when my DD was born and they have always just adored each other, mutual admiration I guess. Hoping you're feeling a bit calmer and more at peace today, and less nauseous!! I was rethinking what I'd said and realize I do know a few women who have had significant morning sickness with vomiting really early, maybe even by 5-6 DPO. So I take back a little of what I said, though you'll make yourself insane for two weeks with every sign and symptom if you don't check yourself a bit! I know because I have a hard time controlling it too Thinking of you, fingers and toes crossed!!

[katiecornflakes]

Hug, John, glad you got to see your family for a bit. We live a long way (well not as far away as you do!) from ours and sometimes it makes me really sad. My aunt just got here this morning for a visit, which is so so nice. She will cook and help with the kids and distract me from the never ending 2WW!! 

[John16n33]

Sparkle-  I understand where you were coming from yesterday and that's just what I needed to hear lol.  I am refusing to think about 'what if' I actually O'd Friday when I had those major O pains (since my temps have been whacky all month thanks to Dd's waking up) and I am sticking with what TCOYF is telling me and refusing to look at a pregnancy test until next Monday or Tuesday lol.  I am going to find ways to keep myself busy all weekend.

Thanks for the support ladies, I come from a very tight knit family so the Army life has been really hard to for me to get used to it's slowly getting better though.

[Lidamama84]

Right here with you, John, and Sparkle, in not obsessively symptom-spotting! AF is due tomorrow and when I just checked a due date calculator it said that I may get a positive test IN THE NEXT WEEK OR TWO!!! So, I will try and pick up some cheapie tests and test starting New Years Eve, if AF hasn't shown by then. But she will. My cycle has been 28 days the last 2 months, and before that it was longer because I was just getting my PP cycles back.

[Lidamama84]

I'm out...spotting has started...I'm actually kind of relieved...DD2 still needs so much of me fx'd for Sparklemaman and John!!

[John16n33]

I'm sorry Lidamama, but glad you are at peace with it.  Hopefully next cycle is the cycle for you!

[SparkleMaman]

I'm sorry Lidamama! I totally understand the relief as well, you are juggling an awful lot. Fx for next month, or whenever you decide the time is right

John16n33 Good for you! Stay strong. I am hoping to hold out until Sunday or Monday but I'll tell you, those tests are calling to me

[Lidamama84]

Haha, thanks, ladies!! I'm actually REALLY excited now that I've remembered that this year is the first year SINCE 2007 that I will be able to drink at New Years (as in, more than a sip or two). Previously, I've either been pregnant or had a young nurseling. And, we're having some friends and their kids over for dinner, so I actually want to have a drink, whereas if we were home alone I wouldn't. Serendipitous!!

[John16n33]

....and I test, and of course it was a BFN.  What a waste, but I couldn't help it.  Now at least maybe I have it out of my system and I can hold off until New Years.  I am so disappointed in myself though

[SparkleMaman]

John16n33 Don't be so hard on yourself!! I am embarrassed to share that I did the same thing this morning Of course BFN. I told you those tests were calling to me! I was hoping my Wondfos would have arrived by now so I could use them instead of wasting a perfectly good FRER. Ah well! Hang in there, we're getting so close!

Lidamama Serendipity indeed! Not that it's a huge big deal but I too enjoy being able to have some wine or champagne with friends, especially on New Year's. Also, all those soft cheeses are AOK!! Enjoy the festivities

[Lidamama84]

It's still so early, John and Sparklememan!! But I totally would have tested yesterday if I had any dollar tests in the house!!! But an 8$ test? No way!!

[SparkleMaman]

Lidamama LOL I got a deal on my FRERs, they were only $2.50/test. I was able to easily rationalize it!