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post #81 of 211

I pressed enter before I was done, darn it.  But I am hoping that o is today that way I am not trying to squeeze in alone time with Dh on Christmas and Christmas Eve.  Oh the inconveniences of TTC, lol.

post #82 of 211
John,- I kno 7 dpo is early to count me out, but when I was pregnant in oct I had extremely sore bbs and was abit crazy. Nothing like that this time greensad.gif

As for supplements I only take colic acid, but I keep forgetting lol

I work as a catering manger/chef in a private nursing home for the elderly. It's a bit boring but pays really well.
I'll b working over Xmas so it will keep me distracted hopefully lol
post #83 of 211
Damn, that was supposed to b folic acid lol
post #84 of 211

serena- I still wouldn't count yourself out. Just like every baby is different, every pregnancy is too so there is still a chance!

 

AFM- No temp shift this morning which I admit had me a little  bummed.  With those cramps last night I was sure I O'd, oh well maybe tomorrow.  Dd has also started getting into our bed every night again which is making temping a little hard.

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Oasis-thanks for the TWW link. I haven't seen that before! Yippee! Another place to explore and get sucked into winky.gif

 

Sparkle-I'm a bit of an unjobber. Lots of different things to pay the bills. I love variety so it works great for me, plus I love setting my own schedule! Right now I have 2 clients that I'm sort of a case manager for-sometimes we run errands/go to the doc/grocery, sometimes we work on organizing paper, sometimes computer work, sometimes nutrition coaching... Another client I'm scanning historic photos and negatives for-w/his equipment in my home and there's no timeline so I do it whenever the mood strikes or when I need some quick $$ I just sit and scan for hours and then call him up and go pick up a check. It rocks!! Also have done catering at my alma mater for the past 5 years and am the gluten free baker for them and their on campus cafe. Also edited a self-published book for one of my clients and sometimes sell some knitted hats! 

 

AFM-Looks like we're passing on the house we looked at the other day, just too big of a project for DP to take on right now, plus a lot of the other houses in the neighborhood were kind of depressed too. DP and his parents seem to be pretty tapped in to the local real estate market and are pretty confident another place will pop up in a better neighborhood in the spring. So we'll wait and see...

I'm thinking about going to the store to get a hpt today. eyesroll.gif  biggrinbounce.gif  nut.gif  I'm not sure if starting to test will make me more crazy or less... I think if I got a BFP before AF is due I'd still be worried it wouldn't stick. Is that silly? Anyone ever experience that? (separate from miscarrying sometime after AF was due...)

post #86 of 211

Originally Posted by revolting View Post

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Still here, mamas. I wanted to pop in and share this with other mamas: http://www.lovenaturalbirth.com/conscious-conception.html

 

I really love the idea of a language shift of "trying to conceive" to "opening, allowing, and receiving." I think a lot of the inner work I have in this journey focuses on letting go of the "need" to have a rainbow baby. If I hadn't miscarried my first pregnancy this year, I would have a "due date" on the winter solstice. Instead, I miscarried twice more. I enter a very emotional time, surrounded by a season so focused on birth when my own body lost so many babies this year. I had hoped that I'd have moved past the grief, and while I continue to make progress, I still can't imagine what it would look like to be "over it" without a healthy pregnancy.  My own children's birthdays start to seem near, and I try not to panic about the widening age gap.
 

Lida and Dakipode - I try not to think about age, too. Sometimes, I feel so bitter, to have had my first miscarriage at only 17, to have miscarriage after miscarriage at 25. My birthday comes in a few days, and as many wonderful mamas I know who conceived naturally in their forties, adding another year to my age just discourages me.

 

I try so hard to stay positive. I have some affirmations that I have placed on my water bottle to remind me of this.Does anyone else, especially those who have gone through multiple losses, have affirmations they'd like to share? I had so much trust in my body's ability to nurture a pregnancy in the past: I birthed both of my children out of hospitals. I really want to regain that.

 

Sorry for being such a downer.

revolting: I don't think you have anything to apologize for. I hear what you're saying about the "need" to have a baby, regardless of the reason. I mentioned in the Bajingo thread that I think we put so much stress on ourselves when we create a reason/deadline/obligation to have a baby and yet I can't help but think that way: oh, if I got pregnant now it would mean..., right?

By the way, happy (belated?) birthday!

 

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AFM I've been mostly MIA the past few weeks as I have been doing a lot of soul searching and having some serious discussions with DH. DH is still ambivalent, though this is an improvement over last month's completely against TTC. Bottom line, I've not been feeling so zen and I've therefore avoided posting. I am persistent though. I am certainly still feeling that sense that Lidamama described of our family not being quite complete yet, someone is missing. So, despite two consecutive months of terrible meltdowns, I am giving it another go. I hope to remain calm and peaceful, having the holidays as a distraction is definitely a good thing.  I am nearly in this month's TWW, been having lots of EWCM and got my +OPK this morning!! DTD right then - a bathroom lock and PBS Kids is a handy combo winky.gif Thank you to whoever suggested that the female orgasm increased the likelihood of conception. While I am not typically neglected in that way, it can't hurt, right? I am planning to reduce my coffee intake, or perhaps eliminate it, over the next week; I drink 1-2 cups per day. I am drinking my grapefruit juice and green tea regularly. Continuing to take my Prenatals, Vit D and B6 and supplementing with a Vegetarian Omega Fatty Acid Smoothie. I ordered a bunch of Wondfos, 50 OPKs and 20 Pregnancy Tests. I am hoping these changes, being kind to myself and some magical thinking will result in a January BFP!!

 

Just curious, what supplements do you take? What brands:? And why (for both). What plans do you have for the holidays, besides THOSE plans (wink, wink)? Also, what do all of you do? I know we've discussed some about jobs before but I feel like I know lots about many of you but not exactly what most of you do.

sparklemaman: glad to hear you're able to have some talks with DH, hopefully that means you are able to connect a bit more. I laughed when I read your account of the bathroom quickie!

 

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AFM-Looks like we're passing on the house we looked at the other day, just too big of a project for DP to take on right now, plus a lot of the other houses in the neighborhood were kind of depressed too. DP and his parents seem to be pretty tapped in to the local real estate market and are pretty confident another place will pop up in a better neighborhood in the spring. So we'll wait and see...

I'm thinking about going to the store to get a hpt today. eyesroll.gif  biggrinbounce.gif  nut.gif  I'm not sure if starting to test will make me more crazy or less... I think if I got a BFP before AF is due I'd still be worried it wouldn't stick. Is that silly? Anyone ever experience that? (separate from miscarrying sometime after AF was due...)

prescott: the house sounded promising but if it's a trend in the neighborhood you're probably right to hold off.

I can't help you with the HPT question. I've never gotten an early positive. It's not silly to have the fears you've got. I think we all have our superstitions and they are part of how we deal with all the stress of TTC.

 

Everyone else: hello and happy holidays!

 

AFM: getting ready to leave town. The visit with the in-laws will carry me partway through the 2ww though I'm not expecting much this cycle since we weren't really trying. Been keeping busy with other stuff: household finances, business bookkeeping, writing... Definitely been feeling the need to hang back a bit and not let myself get too excited or worked up about TTC this cycle.

Supplements: once daily vitamin, B-complex, 100mg niacin 3xdaily, 500mg calcium 3xdaily, 400(unit?) vit E, royal jelly when I feel like it, vit C 0-2000mg depending on the day. I sort of got into supplementing after reading Doctor Yourself, the convincing argument was that the side effects from taking supplements are likely to be much less dangerous than the ones you can get from taking prescription medication...

Job: biomechanics specialist. Technically a personal fitness trainer but not working with clients who want to lose weight etc, more on the corrective exercise end, towards the physical therapy realm. The tagline for my business is: Improve the way you move. A client of mine once joked that I should add the words "or else!"

post #87 of 211

dakipode- Have fun visiting your inlaws!

 

AFM- I finally got a temp shift this morning so I am in my TWW.  Thank goodness I have a list of projects to keep me busy, plus Christmas, and I have my Aunt, Uncle, and a few cousins to hang out with on Thursday for a whole 6.5 hours lol.  They vacationed on the Big Island for Christmas and have a 6.5 hour layover in Honolulu on Thursday so I am going to go pick them all up and hang out for awhile.  I am so excited, I miss my family so much!

post #88 of 211
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Sorry I haven't been on much. It's, of course, a busy time. But I'm thinking of you all and hoping to hear some BFPs soon.
post #89 of 211

Hoping you all had wonderful holiday celebrations!! Lots of distractions and keeping busy can definitely be a good thing.

 

Thinking of you Xerxella! Sending you lots of healing vibes.

 

And thanks to everyone who shared their vitamin/supplement plan. I am just curious what you all do and what wisdom you have to share. I take New Chapter Organics Perfect Prenatals (it's a whole foods based supplement with probiotics to boot), a vegetarian Vitamin B Complex (with 20 mg B6), 5,000 IU Vitamin D (living in Central NY with our lack of sunshine results in chronic low D levels - my initial results were 9 and came up to low 50's with supplementation) and Barlean's Vegan Total Omega Swirl (with flax, borage and plant based DHA). I am always looking for more information, despite my background in health care and public health, most of my knowledge around holistic health is self taught/sought.

 

AFM 2whistle.gif Hanging out in my TWW, nearly half way through. We are expecting a snow storm this afternoon with 2 feet or more of snow by tomorrow morning. cold.gif I am looking forward to lots of snow play with DD tomorrow. Happily distracted and spending time with my family. I hope you all are getting lots of time to do the same.

post #90 of 211

Hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas!! Mine rocked!! It usually does... winky.gif and it continues! Today my good friend and I head down to Phoenix (2 hrs south) to visit my mom and grandpa for brunch and (more) presents. I really wanted to test today, but I'll do it tomorrow instead. If I got a BFP today I'd be too excited to keep my mouth shut around my mom, who's not in the know about what DP and I are up to. She worries & judges too much and makes me crazy so she doesn't get to find out til baby is well on its way!

DP gave me a 39" LCD flat screen tv yesterday! When he bought it he said, "I just got you the perfect gestation gift!" lol He had me totally stumped. I would have never guessed or expected that in a million years! When I was getting ready to give him my present he said, it's hard to want to unwrap a present when I have everything I want right here....(me sitting on his lap, possibly pregnant), but he really liked what I got him. I'm such a blessed girl love.gif

 

What was your favorite present or new memory created?

post #91 of 211

SparkleMaman, glad to have you back. As for your questions, I just take one prenatal vitamin. I picked the one I take because it is chewable, and I hate pills. I took a prescription one for a little bit, but it was too expensive and too huge. Also, I am a scientist working at a university.

 

Lidamama, I totally see how temping would be difficult once you have children.

 

Dakipode, I hope you enjoy your trip!

 

prescottchels, DP sounds really sweet! And I don't think it's silly to worry about sticking if you were to get a BFP before AF is due. I think that's exactly how I would feel.

 

Happy holidays everyone!

 

AFM: I've been feeling pretty down because of Christmas myself. I live a couple states away from my family, and we do Christmas late, so Christmas hasn't really started for me yet. But I still find myself thinking about what Christmas would be like if we had a baby. This time last year, I thought I would at least be pregnant by now. I was even 5 days late around New Year's. It just makes me sad. On a happier note, DH's 30th birthday was this past weekend, so we went out for sushi. And we leave for our trip to see our families tomorrow!

post #92 of 211
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Originally Posted by John16n33 View Post

serena- I still wouldn't count yourself out. Just like every baby is different, every pregnancy is too so there is still a chance!

 

AFM- No temp shift this morning which I admit had me a little  bummed.  With those cramps last night I was sure I O'd, oh well maybe tomorrow.  Dd has also started getting into our bed every night again which is making temping a little hard.

 

I watch cervical fluid and position, but I don't chart temperature. My almost three year old still sleeps with us and wakes at least once a night to use the bathroom. We're working on teaching him to go by himself, but he doesn't like to do it and I'm mostly just happy that he doesn't wet the bed.

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Originally Posted by prescottchels View Post

Hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas!! Mine rocked!! It usually does... winky.gif and it continues! Today my good friend and I head down to Phoenix (2 hrs south) to visit my mom and grandpa for brunch and (more) presents. I really wanted to test today, but I'll do it tomorrow instead. If I got a BFP today I'd be too excited to keep my mouth shut around my mom, who's not in the know about what DP and I are up to. She worries & judges too much and makes me crazy so she doesn't get to find out til baby is well on its way!

DP gave me a 39" LCD flat screen tv yesterday! When he bought it he said, "I just got you the perfect gestation gift!" lol He had me totally stumped. I would have never guessed or expected that in a million years! When I was getting ready to give him my present he said, it's hard to want to unwrap a present when I have everything I want right here....(me sitting on his lap, possibly pregnant), but he really liked what I got him. I'm such a blessed girl love.gif

 

What was your favorite present or new memory created?

 

Your partner sounds like such a sweetie!

 

AFM: This cycle started on the new moon. Still haven't ovulated. Not trying all that hard, though, either. Keeping busy with feeling overwhelmed with garden and chicken plans for the spring.

Job: I worked fast food and hated it! So freaking glad not to be doing that anymore.


Edited by revolting - 12/27/12 at 12:37pm
post #93 of 211

wave.gif Hey everyone! Wow I've been gone for more than a week, work stops, I don't get online as much Sheepish.gif. Anyway, MERRY CHRISTMASjoy.gif

 

Xerxella - I went through the posts so forgive me if I missed it, I hope you've recovered by now.

 

About supplements: I'm talking Vitamin D (5000 IU a day), Folic acid, Vitamin C and Omega 3 Fish oil. With DD I only took Vitamin D and Fish oil but my diet was much better than now. I'm also worried that my "resources" have been kind of depleted because I've been breastfeeding for two years (just weaned her two months ago). My plan has been to eat beef liver once every week or two to replenish my body but I've yet to drag myself to the organic market...

 

AFM - We had a lot lined for the holidays this year so it really took my mind off everything. AF arrived a week ago, and I was perfectly fine, not at all upset so that's good. Now my temps are all over the place because I keep walking up at different times, forgetting to temp before I go to the toilet... ah well. We had Christmas Eve at our place for the first time this year with our friends (in-laws are taking a vacation) and it was awesome. Unfortunately, got into a huge fight with DP, and it's been a while since our last fight so this one was a bit like this: fencing.gif Now I'm walking around all irritated to say the least demon.gif... but I suppose on the bright side it is good for BD wink1.gif

This is now our third TTC cycle. Right now I'm perfectly fine and not in a rush. I suppose my problem is the TWW, the not-knowing part. It drives me insane!

post #94 of 211
Happy holidays, everyone! Been so busy lately, I haven't been checking mdc much wink1.gif

Sparklemaman: Most of my supplement info is Google-taught too...interesting that you take 5000 IU of vit D...I live in the same area as you, and I've been wondering whether or not to up my dose, I'm pretty sure that its not something you can take too much of (unless you go nuts with it, of course). My mom takes crazy amounts of it, but I have some doubts about her understanding of her doc's recommendations...she's been away off the mark on some things.

I need to look into a chewable prenatal. Big pills make me choke, but the worst is B complex, IMO. The smell and taste make me gag. So I don't take it during the first tri, which is a shame.

Prescott: glad you are enjoying your Christmas! I agree with you about not testing before going somewhere. I always need time alone to process a bfp. In fact, I've never even tested with DH at home...not intentionally, but that's how it worked out each time. It was really special being the only person in world who knew for a few hours smile.gif

This was our first Christmas in our new house; last year we were in the middle of moving at Christmastime, so it wasn't very special, even though it was DD2's first Christmas, so this year really made up for it. It was so nice to be in our family home with our children smile.gif

Coati: so sorry that you felt alone this year. That used to be us, because I don't have any extended family here, and DH's family doesn't keep in touch at all. The one thing I've always wanted is a big family...that's why we're having lots of kids wink1.gif

Revolting, my DD (3.75), also has to pee once a night. Only, we wake her to pee, because I don't think she'd wake on her own...I wonder when that will start...?

Hi to everyone else!!

AFM: I'm having issues with DD2. She wants to nurse 20x a day (and night) refuses to eat anywhere but on my lap, and generally has a huge tantrum if she doesn't get her way in anything. I guess it's the 2s starting, but it's getting me down. I'm more than ready for her to nightwean, and I'd like her to nurse maybe 4x a day. She's basically stuck to me like glue and its getting a bit much. All I hear all day is "uppi" greensad.gif.

This too shall pass, right?
post #95 of 211

I'm jumping in here. I am newly TTC and after one TWW I realized that I would go completely insane if I didn't have an outlet to talk about this stuff.

I have 4 children already - 17,14,11, and almost 10. Have a new dh (as of 12-12-12) and we are trying for a baby (he doesn't have children). It's only been one month but this is the first time I have ever tried to get pregnant on purpose instead of NTNP. I consider myself a very fertile person as it always came very easily to me - I even got pregnant with an IUD about 3 years ago, a pregnancy that ended in my first miscarriage. It took dh and I until now to actually try to get pregnant again, and now I am making myself crazy with worry and obsession. 

I have managed to convince myself of all kinds of things: I'm 38 so I'm too old, I'm low on progesterone because my temps are low, etc. No evidence at that I should be concerned but I think you all can relate to the crazy-making. 

Thank you for providing a place for me to talk about this stuff!

post #96 of 211
I still have no symptoms 😔 AF due on 1st and bfn on 12 dpo. Just want to get AF now so I can get trying again, it seems to b taking ages to conceive 😏
Welcome jessher 😄
post #97 of 211

Hi everybody!!

 

Coati-Big hugs to you!! I don't have blood family in my town either-most of my family lives 2 states away, (my mom being 2 hrs away is not exciting lol when she moved here after I did I was pissed). Somehow managed to create a family here that is even better than my "real" family! I'm so grateful!

 

Lidamama-at our health food store they have b-complex drops that are raspberry flavored and they're delicious!! yummy.gif  Hang in there w/your DD. It's just a phase that will pass, and it seems they pass quicker when you do exactly what they're asking for, even if you think it's unnecessary. She might be picking up on the fact that you want to have another baby and not be ready to let go of that position winky.gif

 

Jessher-hugs and blessings on your new marriage and TTC journey!  namaste.gif

 

AFM-I tested this morning, negative.... boooo....AF could come in the next 2-5 days sooooo I'm not super worried, and DP is so supportive that I think I've gotten over my fear of it not happening this cycle, so I'll wait to test again probably til Jan 1. I'd be officially late that day.

I survived Christmas at my mom's yesterday and I think she actually really liked what I got her. I missed her reaction when she opened her gift, but she put it on right away and wore it all day and said she could wear it to work cuz it would match her uniform-Alaska Airlines has strict uniform code. So I was happy to hear that. It was a turquoise/aqua colored dichroic glass pendant tastefully wire wrapped made by a local artist in my town. I really liked it! So I'm glad she seemed to as well.

post #98 of 211
Happy holidays all!

Sparkle my supplements are 1000 mg of cod liver oil (either Carlsons or Blue Ice), 2000 IUI of vitamin D (again Carlsons), Vitamin Code Raw Prenatal (I did lots of research before deciding on this), and the occasional cranberry extract. I used to dapple in Royal Jelly and OTC natural progesterone cream but have gone off both this cycle.

AFM -- I don't even know if I ovulated yet! With the 8-hour time change, all the traveling and flying and lay overs and Christmas partying I literally haven't been able to temp. Plus my signs have been ambiguous and wacky this cycle. So we're still BDing here and there and I guess I'll consider this cycle a wash and look forward to what January has in store. With all the stress I've put my body under this cycle I'd be shocked if it was successful considering my previous cycles were much less body stress and traveling and they weren't successful.

Best of luck for BFPs in 2013 ladies!!
post #99 of 211
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jessher - Welcome.gif

revolting - Can you have chickens in the city? I didn't know that. I'm really not interested in getting Chickens myself, but I know some people in my city (Elmhurst) are trying to change the laws to allow chickens. I told them I fully support them! smile.gif I'd love to be able to easily get fresh eggs. treehugger.gif

prescott - Sorry about the BFN. But, it is only your first month trying. It'll come.

serena - Sorry to you, too for the BFN. greensad.gif

coati - Have fun with your family. I'm sorry you missed Christmas with them.

lida - Sorry about that stage. It can be really draining. The best advice I ever heard for that stage is a bit of reverse psychology. Pick a weekend/week and decide you're going to nurse dc ALL the time. Not only do you say yes to everytime they ask, but you go around offering it. Interrupt their play, and follow them around offering milkies (uppies?). Sometimes they just need to know they can have it all the time to no longer want it all the time. It worked for me and so there's my completely unsolicited advice. redface.gif

lilykay, oasis and everyone - wave.gif

AFM - I had a doc appointment yesterday. I just found out my HCG is at 19!!!! So, yeah for that. At least this loss shouldn't be drawn out. The doc stated that they don't necessarily recommend IVF with PGD for someone in my position, but she stated that under my circumstances, she can see why I would want to do it. So, she gave my recommendations/referrals for who can help me. So, I'll be calling around today to set up the appointments.
Edited by Xerxella - 12/27/12 at 9:23am
post #100 of 211

Merry Xmas & Happy New Year to everyone! I'm a little behind on posts. Its been a busy few weeks....

 

jessher-wave.gif welcome 

 

revolting- I'm sorry for your loss and hope you are moving forward in your healing process. I always look forward to your posts so I am selfishly glad to see you again :)  I really enjoyed the link to the article on conscious conception. What a wonderful way to reframe my thinking! Very positive!

 

serena and prescott- sorry for the bfn's . hope you get it the next cycle.

 

lidamama- yikes! Difficult stage. Hope it passes quickly for you wink1.gif

 

xerxella- glad your body is releasing and moving forward.

 

AFM- Had a progesterone test done yesterday and it came back crazy low. The nurse said the Dr. likes to see 10 and over, mine was 1.64 uhoh3.gif  So started on a pill last night. Having a few side effects but nothing major. If it weren't for the headache I'd actually feel pretty good.  I'm 10dpo today and not really expecting much. I ovulated the day before the hsg so I'm not sure if that will hurt or help the egg. I'm having a really strange cycle temp wise so who knows, lol.  

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