My big sister, ever the one to over-research and follow the rules, actually looked up state policy regarding spreading ashes when her MIL died. At least in California you're supposed to get a permit. How many people are aware of this?? People scatter family ashes in the mountains and at sea all the time. My cousins scattered their mom's ashes up in the Sierra somewhere, I doubt they thought twice about it. I would have liked to do something like that for my mom's remains. Instead we paid (don't know how much) to have her ashes permanently interred at my sister's church. Again, not in keeping with Mom's life philosophy. I'm pretty sure I won't be following that particular rule if I find myself spread dh's ashes.
So why didn't we get a permit and scatter Mom's ashes in the mountains? Now I'm peeved at my sister. I'm the youngest. I should have spoken up more. Oh well, it was a tough time and I didn't want to rock the boat.
For me, the idea of donating a family member's body to med school just skeeves me to no end. I knew a couple of medical students and have friends that are doctors. There wasn't much respect when they talked of their cadavers in med school, making rude comments and calling them coarse names. Yes, their jokes and nicknames for the corpses were a way of dealing with the idea, but it still showed a lack of respect.
I can understand the forensics idea, but I still couldn't do it.
This is probably why the hospice nurse (whom I otherwise liked very much and was so grateful for her guidance and medical expertise) talked my mom out of donating her body to the med school. It's definitely uncomfortable to dwell on it. But I had more problem with the thought of cremating my mom. So I tried really hard not to!
How interesting! Will have to look this up.