He's 7 and just gets more and more angry. It's to the point where I dread when he walks in the room when he gets in one of his moods. Something like turning unexpectedly on our way somewhere can do it. The other evening I wanted to take him to the tree lighting ceremony down the street. I asked him if he wanted to go for a drive and see if anyone had good decorations lit up yet. By the time we were backing out of the driveway, he was screaming at me and kicking because I told him we weren't going to get ice cream. I can take him out to a restaurant for lunch, then spend the whole afternoon and evening listening to him scream and cry because I said we can't go out to dinner too. Every time I do something special just to make him happy, it's not up to his standards and ends up in a blowup. I should have taken him sooner, we didn't stay long enough, he wanted to bring a friend, it takes too long to drive home, he doesn't like the music on the radio, it's never right.
He kicks the wall, screaming for hours when this stuff happens. The latest is a few presents I have wrapped and put under the tree. For the past 2+ hours, I've been listening to a full-blown tantrum because they can't be opened now, which has progressed to cover many other subjects of discontent by now. I agreed that one could be opened tomorrow if he finished the week without getting any behavior write-ups at school but that's not good enough.
His usual tantrum rants are... his life is ruined, it's all my fault, I don't care about him or take good care of him, I shouldn't waste all of our money on rent, he can't deal with this, his life is worthless, I'm no good, I should have a better job, he hates me, and on and on. These episodes can last for hours, with writhing on the floor, the constant asking of questions that have already been answered NO, and the asking of any question to which the answer will be NO, over and over, interspersed with crying, kicking, screaming, stomping, door slamming. It's like living in a war zone.
When we went camping at the beach last year, the rangers came to see what was going on when he had such a loud ridiculous screaming fit when we tried to put sunscreen on him. He will NOT clean his room even though I've locked away almost all of his toys at this point because *I* had to pick them up again.
All of that stuff people say about not having a bratty kid doesn't work on this one. I never give in after I've said no, he does NOT get everything he wants, I can't find anything about dealing with a kid who acts like this. He's starting to have trouble getting along with the other kids although he hasn't in the past. He really enjoyed day care and loved going to preschool. There was a slight lull/reduction in the tantrums and their severity for a time, but the last few months, it's escalating again. I feel desperate and very very stressed.
I'm about out of time on the computer for today, I'll write more tomorrow if I have a chance. I don't know what can be done about this but just typing this out feels good. He has comfortable surroundings, a supportive, non-violent family, I'm at a loss. I also have a daughter who is 19, very well adjusted, excellent student, involved in social activities, pleasant and polite. Thank GOD! This makes me feel like it's all my fault but I have proof it's not. What in the world is going on with this kid? It's awful and really taking a toll on me, I can't stand it anymore! It seems like it might be ODD, a description of which I happened on recently and rudimentary investigation leads me to believe that may be the correct label, but helps me deal with this very little. Thanks for reading this.