So, my BFF and one of my grandmothers are in cahoots and planning my shower. I already let them know that I want a really casual, simple, co-ed thing-- like more of a get-to-see-our-favorite-people-one-more-time-before-the-baby-comes thing instead of a "traditional" shower.
The question is, who should be on the invitation list?
Obviously our friends and family, especially those within a 3-hour drive (most within 30 minutes). But what about those who almost certainly won't be able to make it?
It feels weird to invite, say, one cousin, who lives 2 hours away, and not invite her sister, who lives 6 hours away. And what about their other sister, who lives in Thailand (we're in the US)?
I absolutely don't want to look like we're gift-grubbing, nor do I want ANYONE to feel ANY pressure to get us ANYTHING, LOL...
But OTOH, it almost feels rude or weird not to invite some of these people, YK?
It's different with a wedding, which is much less explicitly about gifts... Then, of course, we invited all possible family and good friends. I don't think of a shower-- especially this particular shower-- as being "about" gifts, either, but technically, that is what a shower is-- you're to be "showered" with gifts. So... I could see where it could get sticky.
FWIW, we have pretty much 3 categories of friends/family. 1) Live within 3 hours, mostly <1 hour. 2) Live elsewhere in the US. 3) Live overseas, mostly in the Philippines.
In each category, there are varying levels of closeness-- like maybe one would say don't invite those in the Philippines, but it seems a little funky not to at least invite DH's godparents, etc. OTOH, maybe we just send them a baby announcement? I have no idea...
Any thoughts? What did you do (especially with your first)?