I'm amused that everyone is thinking about carseats. It's fun to know there are other people who get preoccupied with these things. DH thinks I'm a little crazy when I talk about it, I think.
The little bed for the crib mattress will likely just be a wooden frame about 1.5' off the ground, with really low rails around the edges. More like a lip, I guess? Just so the kid will have to work to roll off. S/he won't really sleep in it for a few months because we use the kanoe, but I like to have an actual bed too. We had a crib for dd, but it was so old (for real, it was a 20+ year old cast off from a church nursery. I'm sure it broke just about every safety standard in existence.). It broke when ds was a newborn, so I just took the broken side off, put the mattress on the lowest setting, and put my 4 month old to sleep in the equivalent to a toddler bed. Not a single problem with it, so we plan to essentially re-create something similar. 40$ worth of wood vs buying a crib that will hardly be used? No brainer, for us, anyway. The kid is going to be in it for a few years, 'cause I don't see us buying a new mattress any time soon!
Carmen - after my ds was born, I somehow wound up in the car with both of them. I think I had dropped DH off somewhere, and on the way home, I saw a store we needed to stop at and thought, "Hunh. We'll just stop and run in.". I parked the car, got out, went to get dd out of her seat and then seriously had a panic attack. I had *completely* forgotten about the fact that there were now TWO children to deal with. I seriously considered just buckling her back in and going home, but I realized that was a little dumb, so I tucked ds in the sling, took 24 month old dd's hand, and talked about how I needed her help to stay close to mama and find what we were looking for. And, it was totally fine. Totally. You get out with two because you still have a life, and even though the first few times are a little scary, it's totally ok. You do it, and it's no big deal! I recently met someone who almost fell over when I mentioned something about the grocery store. Her kids are the same ages as mine (not quite 2 and not quite 4), and she has NEVER gone grocery shopping with both of them. I do it at least once a week, and don't even think about it, because it really is *that* simple. You can do it! I will admit though, that the intimidation factor at the beginning is considerable. ;)
I have to go to my dh's staff Christmas party tonight. We're supposed to bring an appetizer, and that is all the information my very typically male partner has gleaned. No idea if this is a jeans and nice shirt event, or if it's a little black dress event, or what. I guess I'll go with the black dress (thank goodness it's stretchy!), and dress it down a little bit. Also, he is in charge of the appetizer. I can barely deal with dinner most days. We've had a store bought frozen lasagna, pasta from a box, frozen pizza, and soup for dinner this week. It's pretty sad - we always make our own pasta dough and pasta sauce, etc, etc! I'm not so much nauseated by the food, or even the thought of food, I just can't bring myself to deal with it. At all.