If another kid grabs a toy he was playing with, he doesn't hang on tighter--he lets them have it and just plays with something else. Most of the time he seems fine with this, so I'm fine with it--but sometimes he really looks bewildered or frustrated, if he really wants the toy back. One older boy at play group seems to have decided my son is a soft target: he just grabs whatever toy my son is playing with whenever he feels like it. (His mother doesn't seem to try to teach him to share.) I sometimes step in to make the other boy wait his turn (which seems to annoy his mother), but how can I help our son to stand up for himself? He's very tall, strong and co-ordinated for his age, so I love that he's so gentle. I don't want him to start hitting other kids. I would be pretty pleased to see him hang on tight and say "No, no!" if he still wants a toy some other kid is trying to take, though.
Likewise, a little neighbor girl, also a few months older, hits and kicks. I know this is developmentally normal and her parents/babysitter can teach her to be gentle, but what's a gentle kid to do meanwhile?
He talks very well for his age--maybe teach him to shout, "No, no hit!" or "No! My turn!" ? Any other suggestions, wise mamas?