My daughter, who will be 5 in a few weeks, has so many wonderful traits...she is extremely caring and sensitive, outgoing and social, thoughtful, well behaved especially when she is around others, and very open to trying new experiences (she is always the kid jumping in the middle of the group to start dancing; or have a big smile on her face when trying a new activity).
However, she has been SO negative lately. Constantly complaining how we never buy her anything, complaining that she's "stupid" if one little thing goes wrong (today it was spilling flour on the floor while trying to help me cook), complaining that all her friends treat her mean, complaining that her house and everyone/everything is boring, etc. etc. etc. Lately I've been trying to help her focus on positives, so right before bed we talk about her favorite thing that happened that day. It usually goes something like tonight: "I liked playing with the beads, but NO FRIENDS were home for me to play with!!!!" I feel like, in her world, NOTHING is right. When I try to ask her about it, she has a hard time responding in any way other than the most recent frustration...she has a hard time evaluating or thinking beyond the current frustrations whether we are talking about what's upsetting her OR what makes her feel good.
She generally gets enough sleep (11-12 hours per night); we have her in preschool 2 days per week plus a few physical activities (she needs a lot of exercise to be happy--easier said than done during winter in Minnesota)...we try to find a balance between having enough to do, but not too much. When we've overbooked ourselves we always try to take a step back and help her relax, but it doesn't seem to affect her either way.
So my concern in the long run is that she'll sort of turn out to be this cranky, negative person with a dark outlook--alienating others and feeling bad about herself. OR--this is just normal almost-5-year-old behavior.
Thanks for your thoughts!