hi everyone! this is my first post on the mental health forum here. years ago i kept up with the gentle discipline and unassisted homebirth forums (under a different name). i'm getting back online because i need an extra layer of support.
it's past my bedtime, really, so this will be short, but essentially i'm married to a man who has suffered from anxiety and depression for as long as i've known him. like many men, it's sooooo hard for him to even admit that he has any problems, let alone put in the emotional work to dealing with him. so that's been hell for ten years, but then this year his mother died very suddenly. it's the first death we've ever had to cope with as adults, and he's just in pieces. even before this, i was a big caretaker to him. i've been mostly in charge of working/paying bills, running our home and homeschooling.. i also suffer from anxiety and have developed depressive symptoms over the past five years.
my dh is finally coming to a place where he wants to address his depression (i think because he's really hitting a bottom and knows he has to move up!) . . is there already a support thread for caretaker spouses of depressed partners? i just need a place to go with all the various stuff that goes along with this because my best friend's ear is about to fall off! lol!
ok that's all i have for tonight. if there is already a thread for this, please point me to it. if not, anyone else out there in the same boat/ with some sage advice?